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Dh help feeding at nights

cspence1cspence1
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The DH gets up every morning at 530ish.... but said he would help feeding at night if need but, i feel like i should only do it since i do SAH..i feel like if i deprive him of too much sleep that is my fault..... do you let your DH/SO help with feedings through the night?
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  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    I did all of the night feedings while I was home. I had the ability to nap or rest during the day. I saw no reaon for both of us to be over tired. Plus I BF so not much he could do anyway.
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  • azaretskyazaretsky member
    I let DH sleep from the time he went back to work. Plus, I usually BF, so it would be pointless to wake him up. Some say that is being way 'too nice' to DH, but hey - he's got to go to work and spend 10-11 hours/day using his head, so I figure he can use some 'extra' sleep.
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  • susiederkinssusiederkins

    You may stay at home, but you just had a baby. Your body needs some time to recover.

    DH helps by changing the diaper and getting  his crib ready when he goes back down. I don't feel guilty. Most of the time, he doesn't even remember doing it the next morning. It's sleepwalking parenting.

     

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  • SarahMay77SarahMay77
    Ahh, I see that your LO is only a week old, so you and DH have not had the post-baby fights, yet.  They will come, sorry.  So, yes, let him help with anything that he offers and don't feel guilty about it.  Or, if the night feedings are your thing, try to find some other task for him to help you with when things start to overwhelm you.  In my case, DH makes dinner nearly every night (or picks up takeout). 
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  • GramysonGramyson member
    i didn't let him help with middle of the night feedings. i was at home all day while he had to go to work, so i didn't think it was fair.  him just offering the help was really nice though. 
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  • EcoBabyEcoBaby

    Let him do anything he offers to do. When I was home on maternity leave, I would do everything since he "worked." Well, he kept that mentality, and its been hard to transition back to making him help with all of this stuff. I BF so I feed at night - pumping is just more work for me. But seriously, let him do anything he offers to do so he'll get used to it. Plus, it gives him confidence that he can do it.

    Its a lot of work to stay home with the baby. Just because you are at home - it doesn't mean you are sleeping.

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  • Fish4FunFish4Fun
    While I was on maternity leave, I took care of all the nighttime feedings on my own.  Now that I'm back at work, DH helps out whenever he can.  I BF, but he brings her to me and puts her back to sleep afterwards.  If I'm really tired, I pump before going to sleep and he bottle feeds her.  He is happy to do it.  I think he feels bad that I have to work.
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  • disbride061103disbride061103 member

    I EBF, but when DS was a newborn, DH got up to help for the first couple weeks.  The hardest part of my c/s was getting out of bed, so DH would get up and change DS diaper and then I would feed him.  Once I was able to move a little more quickly, I told DH he didn't have to get up anymore because there really wasn't a point for him not to sleep.  DS started STTN (for the most part) when I went back to work.  Now if he wakes up, we take turns trying to soothe him back to sleep.  If that doesn't work after a few tries or if I hear his hungary cry, I'll nurse him.

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