Confession--I need some advice from those who have been there!!

Cin8-14 · May 2009

My LO slept in her swing for three hours last night so that H and I could get some sleep. She won't sleep in her crib or PNP on her back. I feel like an evil mother. We aren't starting any bad habits this early are we?

Mrs.Bible · May 2009

Sorry to tell you this CIN - but what you do to get her to sleep know is what you will have to continue to do later on. Break this habit quickly....

eris1995 · May 2009

You are not starting any bad habits this early. Do whatever you have to do to get your LO to sleep so you can sleep. DS slept on me for his first 2 months of life. He now sleeps in his crib and is a good sleeper (for the most part).

Cin8-14 · May 2009

eris1995:
You are not starting any bad habits this early. Do whatever you have to do to get your LO to sleep so you can sleep. DS slept on me for his first 2 months of life. He now sleeps in his crib and is a good sleeper (for the most part).

Oh, she sleeps the BEST when she sleeps on me. I am hoping that as she gets older she will "grow into" sleeping elsewhere. This issue seriously has me upset 24-7 because I think she will be sleeping in a swing or on me until she goes to college!

cajuncutie0169 · May 2009

we went through a phase where he would only sleep in his swing. at that age you do what you have to do, she's fine!

Jules122907 · May 2009

Let them sleep where they will sleep. DD slept in her bouncy seat for the first 4 weeks and then went to a bassinet and will only sleep in that if the boppy pillow is in there to prop her up. She takes some of her naps in her swing. LO needs sleep and it is your job to find the spot that works for her/him right now. As long as LO (and you) are sleeping that is the most important thing!

ksdodge · May 2009

I think my DD slept in her car seat or swing for at least the first month of her life!!! She now sleeps in her crib. We would always try the PNP first then when we finally needed some sleep, it would be the swing or car seat! You need to do what you gotta do to get some sleep!

I'mAcrossThePond · May 2009

DS slept in the swing for a month and a half...then made a smooth transition to his crib. They can't form "bad habits" that early.

audreyf1978 · May 2009

Do what ever you can to get some sleep. My DD would only sleep in her carseat the first 2 months so that's where we put her. She now sleeps in her crib with no problems.

mama31 · May 2009

We have the bouncer by her PNP and after her 3 am feeding we used to put her in there because she took so long to get back asleep. Last week I stopped doing this, but unfortately I did this for several weeks. It it helps you & your LO sleep then I don't see anything wrong with it, just try not to do it for to long.

TwoSkis · May 2009

Don't worry- right now you do what you can to get some sleep. Babies are extremely adaptable at this age. It shouldn't be much of a problem to transitiom her slowly back to her crib. Our DD co-slept with us for awhile, and within a week I had her transitioned back to her PNP.

iowandfw · May 2009

nope, you are doing what we did. we even let her sleep in her bouncy. and sometimes I'd sleep right next to the bouncy.

you are in survival mode. it will pass.

cbbc · May 2009

ksdodge:
I think my DD slept in her car seat or swing for at least the first month of her life!!! She now sleeps in her crib. We would always try the PNP first then when we finally needed some sleep, it would be the swing or car seat! You need to do what you gotta do to get some sleep!

This. You have to do what you have to do, especially in the beginning.

katiekate1974 · May 2009

You can't start habits this early. Your LO doesn't remember 10 minutes ago much less where she slept last night. At this stage in the game, the idea is for you to get as much sleep as you can when you can. Just keep trying her in the PNP or crib first (wherever you want her to sleep) and eventually she'll get it. My DS slept in his car seat for the first 10 days he was home from the hosptial. He just refused to sleep anywhere else. Now he's a great PNP sleeper!

KathrynMD · May 2009

do what you need to do at this point; no worries about bad habits.

Until about a month ago, if she got really fussy in teh middle of the night, I'd let her sleep in the swing or bouncy while mommy slept on the sofa in the early morning/late night.

You will 1001 more things that are "against" the rules - including co-sleeping, rocking to sleep, etc. becasue sometimes at 4 in the morning, Momma and baby just need to sleep!! Try not to beat yourself about it too much.

ncbelle · May 2009

In those early weeks, the goal is sleep - whatever it takes to get there!

Lerxie · May 2009

Mrs.Bible:
Sorry to tell you this CIN - but what you do to get her to sleep know is what you will have to continue to do later on. Break this habit quickly....

This is simply NOT true. The only habits you have to worry about forming this early, are your own! The baby will adjust accordingly. It might be a little harder (not always the case) the longer you wait but your DC will be fine in the crib or PNP eventually.

I'm pretty sure there are no 3 year olds sleeping in swings.

Cin8-14 · May 2009

Thanks so much, ladies!!! I have really been upset about this (damn hormones) and your responses have made me feel a lot better. I needed to hear that others did this and that there is hope that she will sleep in her PNP or crib at some point.

mommyaug06 · May 2009

Its not true that you cant start bad habits this early. My niece had to be rocked completely asleep and sang too at just a few months old before she would go to sleep. She is 33 months now! Each night my brother and SIL have to sit outside her room and sing through a vent for over hours. I am not exaggerating!!! My brother and SIL get very little sleep

megs042107 · May 2009

Mrs.Bible:
Sorry to tell you this CIN - but what you do to get her to sleep know is what you will have to continue to do later on.? Break this habit quickly....

totally disagree. ?for 9 months, babies are used to being wrapped up warm and tight and snuggled in your belly. ?they are used to constant movement. ?sleeping in a swing is very common.

CIN, your baby is barely two weeks old. ?do what you can to get some sleep. ?You'll probably notice a change around week 5 or 6 and it will get a lot better, i promise. ? C didn't start sleeping in his crib for all naps and nighttime until 8 or 9 weeks. ?GL!

eris1995 · May 2009

mommyaug06:
Its not true that you cant start bad habits this early. My niece had to be rocked completely asleep and sang too at just a few months old before she would go to sleep. She is 33 months now! Each night my brother and SIL have to sit outside her room and sing through a vent for over hours. I am not exaggerating!!! My brother and SIL get very little sleep

At 2 weeks you CAN NOT start a bad habits. Your brother and SIL should've nipped it in the butt way before your niece turned 33 months - but for the first several months you are not forming any bad habits.

JARbaby · May 2009

Mrs.Bible:
Sorry to tell you this CIN - but what you do to get her to sleep know is what you will have to continue to do later on. Break this habit quickly....

I have found the opposite to be true in practice and study, habits do not form until around 6 months of age. At 2 weeks you do what you need to in order to be sane as as rested as possible. 5m is a great time to start in routines and habit forming because of the critial point in brain development at that time. Before this age, no worries!

What we did was get a snuggle nest for the Master Bed and moved Dh to the guestroom for a few weeks. Julia moved to the Pack n Play a month later in the snuggle nest. The the nest got removed around 14w. Easy as pie.

Quazel · May 2009

Jules122907:
LO needs sleep and it is your job to find the spot that works for her/him right now. As long as LO (and you) are sleeping that is the most important thing!

Exactly!

mavs_girl07 · May 2009

Do whatever you have to do at this point! For the first 2-3 weeks, dd slept on one of us while we sat in a chair. She wouldn't sleep in the pnp, not in the swing, not with us laying down, only on our chests while we sat up in a chair. You can't start bad habits this early, I promise.

KYRN · May 2009

We did this several times in the first 2-3 weeks. My best sleep was on the couch with him or him in his swing and me on the couch. He has no trouble sleeping in his crib every night now. Do what you need to do to get some rest!

We have the FP little lamb swing, I wish I had one of those, that thing is sweet.

TeamK07 · May 2009

Don't worry about it! Do whatever you need to to get some sleep. You LO issn't forming lasting habbits yet. Our LO slept in his carseat at night for the first month. Now he is in his crib with no problems.

mommyaug06 · May 2009

eris1995:
mommyaug06:
Its not true that you cant start bad habits this early. My niece had to be rocked completely asleep and sang too at just a few months old before she would go to sleep. She is 33 months now! Each night my brother and SIL have to sit outside her room and sing through a vent for over hours. I am not exaggerating!!! My brother and SIL get very little sleep

At 2 weeks you CAN NOT start a bad habits. Your brother and SIL should've nipped it in the butt way before your niece turned 33 months - but for the first several months you are not forming any bad habits.

They tried many times, believe me. They have tried CIO. They also tried sleeping with her and moving closer out the door (Dr suggestion). I think this is how they ended up where they are.

almostabuck · May 2009

It's about survival at this point. Do what you gotta do - you aren't creating habits yet.

esutton76 · May 2009

ksdodge:
I think my DD slept in her car seat or swing for at least the first month of her life!!! She now sleeps in her crib. We would always try the PNP first then when we finally needed some sleep, it would be the swing or car seat! You need to do what you gotta do to get some sleep!

This.

My DS just started to sleep on his back in his crib last week and he is three months old. I don't feel like a bad mom at all. I even talked to his pedi and she said even said it was fine.

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