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Are you really happy in your marriage?
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Re: Are you really happy in your marriage?
Seriously?! This is just setting your marriage up to fail.
Happy doesn't even begin to describe it. I can't imagine spending my days with anyone else.
I don't believe in soul mates. My husband is my best friend and I love him and am VERY happy in my marriage, but I don't believe in soul mates.
If my husband died today, and a few years down the road, I found someone new who I also loved, who was my soul mate, even though they were alive at the same time? My husband or my new guy?
Ditto this.
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My sister was home one weekend for the holidays when she had first gotten engaged and I remember she was drunk and asked me if she was marrying the wrong person.... I didnt really know what to say since I didnt know him all that well with only having met him 2 or 3 times (they lived out of state). They ended up getting married and then 6 months later he filed for divorce, my sister was devestated but I guess she should have trusted her gut. She is now marrying (in 2 weeks!) a guys she used to date in high school.
I am certainly very happy in my marriage. I have no complaints except I hate his snoring. Other than that, it's smooth sailing for us.
Three years married on the 20th : )
Yes, I am happy in my marriage. I honestly couldn't see myself with anyone else. Now this doesn't mean we don't have issues. The major one being communication. We both hold things in.
Not really. My husband's attitude and past cheating, now that was cause for ruin. Me knowing that my best friend since I was 12 years old would die for me AND my kid? Yeah, that's just reality of a deep as hell friendship.
I do think DH and I are an excellent match - we compliment each other very well. He is a great husband and provider, and an excellent dad to DS.
I wish our sex life was better though....
absolutely. I can't imagine being with anyone else. I did not get married until I was 32 so I had plenty of time to date and have relationships with other men. For me, there is no one who compares. We've had our ups and downs for sure (and I hate his job!), but at the end of the day he's still the only man I've ever wanted to spend my entire life with. I feel lucky that too, that my son has such a wonderful father and roll model.
I don't believe in soul mates, fate, or destiny. I believe we make our own choices and our own lives.
As for my marriage, it's wonderful. I have found trust, passion, and mutual respect with him. We have rough times, sure. We're having one now since Lily's been born, but we talk through it and we make sure the marriage is always a priority. I can't imagine a life without him.
My silly Lily is almost 4.
Please tell me you are being sarcastic or it's crazy PG hormones to blame??
yes. I absolutly could not be happier with anyone else. We were meant to be and are beyond perfect for each other. I tell him all the time, I don't think anyone else would get me like he does. haha.
I love him more today than yesterday and still feel like newlyweds after 8 years together!
I am absolutely happy in my marriage. I don't know if I believe in soul mates. That's too much of a romantic notion that involves luck.
I think marriage is mostly love and hard work, with a little bit of luck thrown in.
I have my doubts. I am happy right now but I don't know that we are soul mates. If he would give 100% to me and Joe instead of 60% to us and 40% to the TV, that would probably help alot although he has been better lately.
Do I think there is someone else out there better suited for me, probably, but I am not looking for them. I am going to stay with DH so long as he keeps trying to be a good husband and father.
ditto this???
This. I don't believe that there is only ONE person for everyone. I think you can be equally happy with more than one person.
No, I am not happy. I did post this in the clicky poll above. DH does not read this, I don't know anyone on here so will be honest.
DH and I have had our problems since day 1. We fight a lot. He thinks every fight started is 100% my fault. We've tried counseling and it didn't work.
So no, a lot of issues to work out and it may never work itself out. But I am not happy and know there is someone else out there that could make me happy and I so want a relationship where I can truly say that I am in love completely.
I hope you find what you are looking for, hugs
Beyond happy. Sure we have our issues, who doesn't? We're human. However, when I think of life with out DH I get sad. This post makes me sad.
When I sit down & think of all the things I ever wanted in a man my husband has them. He is exactly the man I was looking for. It took me 30 years to find him but it was well worth the wait.
Bubblegum Explosion
I'm not being sarcastic. If I didn't get pregnant again, we likely wouldn't be living together. I left briefly, found out I was pregnant, had no idea what to do, and came home. We don't share a bed or a room. I barely talk to him.
I have no idea what happened. He turned into a totally different person over the last 2yrs and not in a good way. People change after kids, yes, but he changed for the worse. Everyone sees it (now and then my mother manages to convince him to return to his "old" self and he's recognizable for a day or two). I hate this new person and I don't want to be married to him anymore.
We've discussed counseling and, at this point, I don't want it. I'm willing to admit THAT could be a hormonal rage. So, maybe after I deliver, I'll want counseling. Maybe not. Right now, I don't because I really have no desire to save a marriage to a person I barely recognize.
It's sad. All of my friends thought I struck gold with him....he was the best. Then, he changed and I have no idea who this new person is. I just don't like him.
There isn't a side-eye emoticon strong enough for me to put here. Sounds like you're very resentful because of things your husband has done to hurt you, and I'm sorry he did that. But please know the grass isn't always greener, best friend or not.
Back to the question: yes, I'm happy and becoming happier as we work through our issues. I don't know about the concept of soul mates, but I doubt very very seriously I would ever marry again if my husband died. I'm not starting over with a whole new set of issues and quirks to learn!
I am truly sorry to hear this and hope everything works out for you and your family ::hugs::
Yes, I am truly in love with my husband and can't imagine being with anyone else. He is the love of my life.
We have our issues and sometimes I don't really LIKE him, but we work it out. We are in it to win it... on his wedding band it says "A deals A deal". I love that he wanted that lol.
It's hard for me to answer this question. I don't feel the same about DH that I used to. There used to be devotion and passion between us, and it's just not that way anymore. Is that because our relationship is fizzling or because we're growing into the more "comfortable" stage of love? I don't know. I know that he used to make me feel like the most special women in the world and he doesn't do that anymore. Is that his fault, or is it me being immature to want that every day? I don't know. I often wonder if I'm not fully happy because I'M not happy with me and I project it onto DH, or if he's truly being distant or aloof like I think he is.
Overall I'm happy - we have a great life. However, i do think that there's probably someone out there who might be a better match for me. I'm not willing to find out though. I love DH and I love our son, and that's enough for me.
Usually... I'm still pissed about the birthday thing though.
But I'm still glad I married him!
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Sounds like my sister, except that she has twins, and not pregnant. I wish you well.
To answer the question, yes, I am truly happy, and totally love DH and DS. He is my soulmate, and everyday with him shows me how true it is. We have a wonderful relationship, rarely argue, he's a true gentleman, very patient and understanding, and he knows me inside and out. I love him more everyday.
Oh, wow. I'm really, really sorry you feel this way, and hope you can find some peace. Major hugs to you.
I'm late to this...
No, I am not happy in my marriage - hence my pending divorce. My H only heard the "for better" part of our marriage vows. When my water broke and I was in the hopsital for 4 weeks, he changed. I know that trauma, coupled with his father's transplant and near death experience were the cause of this change. I stayed with him thinking the girls would change everything for the good again - and they did for a very short time. I tried for months to get him to go to counseling and he refused. Finally I realized that I was fighting so hard for something I no longer wanted.
This answer is perfect for DH and me.