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advice on taking ds out

Since this Sun is mother's day I would really like to go to church (especially since I haven't gone since the end of Feb. due to being bed rest) However I know many people will want to hold him and pass him around,which i would prefer not to have happen since he's still pretty young and was a preemie. So my question is how do you politely tell people that you would rather that they didn't hold your child, or do I just skip church all together?
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Re: advice on taking ds out

  • Tough question! If you really want to go, you should go, but be honest with people and say you're waiting to pass him off until he's a little older.

    Honestly, I'd probably skip it, and enjoy Mother's Day at home with my LO. It may be more stress than it's worth. I always feel bad for telling people "no."


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  • I was told if you don't want anyone to hold your baby, let daddy hold the baby- people aren't as likely to whisk the baby away from daddy.  I've also found if I've got her bundled up (swaddled) and she looks really content, people aren't as likely to grab at her. You could also just say that you aren't comfortable passing  him around for fear of sickness - most people respect that.
  • I have kept my preemie home since we got her home (except dr. office visits).  I just don't want another NICU sty, so she'll be home until she gets her 2 month shots. 

    JMHO.

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  • I think you should go any enjoy your first day back at church. I have noticed that people don't ask to hold the baby as often if they stay in the carseat/ carrier. I would just keep the LO in the carrier as long as they are content. If they have to be taken out after that you can always put LO in a sling/ pouch to avoid others wanting to hold them. 
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    I left my DS in his carseat the whole time the first mass we went to.  He barely woke up at all and no one could try to hold when he was strapped in (we also put a light weight blanket over him on our way out so no one could touch him).

     The last few times we've went to church we just told people we were trying to keep him calm bc it was his naptime (he was wrapped in a blanket).  No one even tried to disturb him when I said that.

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  • Tell people that your pedi said only family could hold/touch her for now because she's a preemie, but that you'll be happy to let them hold her once she gets a clean bill of health from the doctor.
  • Do you have a sling, wrap, or bjorn type carrier?  If you are wearing her people probably won't ask to hold her.
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