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khagan9368
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I'm now a single mom to be, not joking
khagan9368
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Without getting too into details because I'm trying to keep calm, I found proof that my fianc? has been chatting with other girls, I just discovered he picked one up over the weekend when he was supposedly out with his friends
Disclaimer: I'm 32, educated, not a "fool" so to speak and he had me completely duped. I'm devastated, due in 9 weeks and baffled as to what the hell to do now. Obviously he is packed and gone, beyond that I'm lost (and clearly out of my head to be posting on a message board)
I guess I just needed to get that out
Any happy thoughts or prayers for me and my daughter are truly welcome
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Re: I'm now a single mom to be, not joking
DH: 31, no issues
4-6/2012 100mg of Clomid + trigger + IUI/TI = BFN
7/2012 150mg of Gonal-f + trigger + IUI = BFN
8/2012 Surprise unmedicated BFP!! Due May 8, 2013
::Happy thoughts::
Try to not get too stressed, if at all possible. Take care of yourself and your daughter right now.
I am so sorry to hear about this! I am thinking of you and your daughter!
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I was married before. I found out he was cheating on me. It is an awful feeling. It sounds like you have had suspicions for a while? I am not saying that makes it easier but it does ease the blow as you have more time to ease in to it. I asked a psychologist about that one time and he said that the sooner you know the sooner you can start the grieving process (for everything - the lost dreams, trust, etc).
I am educated and was 28 when I discovered this. You don't have to be a fool to have this happen to you but for a while you will feel like one. That passes. I was supporting this man and his two sons from a previous marriage financially.
Please find someone who can advise you well on separating assets, credit cards and anything else you have that you may have already combined. The sooner you do that the better. He already made some stupid decisions so there is no telling what other idiotic things he is going to do (I am watching a friend go through this right now and her DH just spent a $1000 for a week for him and his girlfriend in a hotel.)
If you have any questions or need anything please let me know.
God Bless.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. My sister's husband did this to her when she was like 10 weeks pregnant, he decided he "didn't want THIS" (meaning their marriage where they actively tried to get PG) anymore. It was so sad. It was painful for her. I strongly suggest counseling if you can get some to help you through and past this.
Do you have any close friends to lean on during this time?
God, I am so sorry. And I'm sorry to hear that this coincides with the date of your father's death. You're really doing a good thing though, by ending the relationship -- both for you and your daughter. You will be a stronger mother because of this, and your daughter will understand what it means for a woman to be independent and have self-respect.
Thinking of you, sweetie.
~Working Mom~Breastfeeding Mom~Cloth Diapering Mom~BLW Mom~
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Shawn and Larissa
LO #1 - Took 2 years and 2 IVFs ~ DX - severe MFI mild PCOS homozygous MTHFR (a1298c)
LO #2 - TTC 7 months, surprise spontaneous BFP!
I am so sorry. Stay strong for your LO.
::sending a virtual hug::?
Big E (6) & Little E (2.5)
Wow. What an as*hole.
I know this is the last thing you want to be doing right now. But you may want to consult a lawyer about child support proceedings in your state. Whether or not he wants to be a part of the child's life, he is half responsible for making the child and therefore supporting the child.
I'm wishing you and your daughter the best!!!
Lean on your family and your friends; I am sure they will be more than willing to be there for you.
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Its a tough road but certainly not impossible. My first LO and I did it on our own for almost a year... its do-able!
Good Luck and let us know whats going on
Im begining to think that I may be right there with you....
so you have allllll my thoughts and prayers.
My older sister was much like you at 30, smart and successful (always a role model to me). She was newly pregnant and still a newlywed when she found out her new husband was living a double life. She left him, taking everything with her, including all of the light bulbs in their condominium.
When I told her I was pregnant she said that even though she was going through a divorce during her pregnancy it was still the most incredible time of her life and nothing could have taken that feeling away from her. Now, 13 years later, she has an awesome daughter, husband, and step children. Her ex has grown up and has a new family but lives just a few miles away and is a huge part of his daughter's life.
Be strong for yourself and your baby. It sounds like you already are.
Aww hun, I'm so sorry to hear this. After your last post about confronting him about cheating I was really hoping that it wouldn't end up like this. I don't even know you and Im genuinely sad for you, but I know how it goes.
I give you so much credit for sticking up for yourself even though this isnt how you wanted it to end. It took 4 years of physical and mental abuse and knowing of at least 13 woman that my former FI (who is my DD's father) slept with before we(DD and I) literally packed our bags and ran away while he was gone for the day...we never looked back. She was only 2 years old.
I will keep you in my prayers but honestly, the hardest part is over...while this part is the saddest, you made it through the storm. God will take care of you.