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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
How do you deal with comments about DC's size?
Yesterday I took Ds to a birthday party for friends little boy. There was a lady there with her grandson who is 4 months old and she kept saying how chubby and big of a boy he is. Her and I started talking and she asked how old DS was and I told her he was almost 7 months. Then she says "He looks really skinny and not that much bigger than Gabe (her grandson)"
Ummmm....OK What am I supposed to say to that??? I know that DS is not a chubby baby but she said it in a tone like he isn't healthy. I didn't know what to say and I was just like well he is really tall for his age. Why do people think that just b/c a baby does not have a bunch of rolls they aren't healthy or something?? Maybe I am a little too sensitive about this but I will never comment on another baby's size now that I realize how much it bothers me.
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Re: How do you deal with comments about DC's size?
Yeah both of my kids are on the small side. Evan was an average sized baby, but as a toddler and now he is quite small, I wouldn't say he's even 30lbs yet at 3 yrs old.
Abby has always been really petite. At 9 months old, she's smaller than my BFF's 5 month old daughter, by quite a lot. When asked how old she is, I've actually had more than one person give me this pitying face and say "oh the poor thing, is she ill?"
I used to really feel hurt or self-conscious about the "small-ness" of my kids, but I just don't let it bug me anymore. I mean, they eat and they are active and healthy and happy - so I'm totally fine with their sizes.
Try not to let it bug you too much. Just remember that some babies are bigger, some are smaller - and as long as your baby is healthy and happy then that's what's important.
My stock response is the ever-so-clever "yep."
She's so small! Yep. What a skinny-mini! Yep. I would have thought she was younger than 10 months! Yep.
People tend not to comment further after that.
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People make stupid remarks no matter what. I get "OMG, what are you feeding her?! SHE"S HUGE!" and I have to bite my tongue from saying "she's a baby, what's your excuse."
People just suck.
My pat answer is "22 lbs of perfection" and give her a kiss. Or make some remark about how much she loves steak.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
People always comment on DD small size and her chubby cheeks. I just smile and nod.
I try not to let it get to me, I learned to deal with these comments while pregnant and never being the "appropriate" size of what others thought I should be.
I never expected DD to be huge, I am small so she more than likely will be small as well.
At first, I didn't know what to say. I remember a sales lady at Ikea asked DS "are you a midget" in this really cutesy voice like you would use when tickling a LO. I thought I was going to lose it so I walked away without a word. But lately I've either said: he takes after his mommy (I'm only 5'0"), did you really think I would have a bruiser? or that he's built for basketball instead of football. Occasionally, I've said that his doctor isnt concerned. I don't know why people say things like this. It's especially difficult when you've struggled with getting baby to eat and gain weight. Adults come in all sizes and so do babies, why is that so hard for people to get?
Phoenix is small and people always comment on it and it really bothers me. One lady said to me "Wow my 7 month old is already wearing 24 month clothes!" and I just smiled and walked away. But I've decided to say "Well you know obesity is a huge issue here in America, you might want to work on that" and walk away. I'm dying for someone to comment on his size!
I think it's really rude, I see huge huge babies all the time and would never comment about how big a baby was and I don't understand why if a baby is small they feel they can say something
I either ignore, or I say something like,
"Yes, he is small. It's great! He can wear his clothes forever, and it's so easy to carry him around!"
same here!! DS is 22lbs and i get the "he doesn't miss a meal" comment alot. i love your response. maybe i will borrow that if you don't mind
I usually get the opposite. DD is in the 90th percentile and perfectly proportional to a child at around 16 months of age, so she looks older than she is. People (aka morons) tell me to put her on a diet, not feed her any carbs, give her more water/less formula, etc etc.
My stock answer should be "yep" like a previous poster said, but I usually retort with something much ruder. I like to piss strangers off, especially idiots.
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I totally agree my DS is 7 months and in the 97th percentile for his height and weight. He is a big boy and does look bigger then most one year olds but people should just keep there comments to themselves. It's just rude every baby is different just because my child is bigger then yours doesn't mean i ovr feed him or i need your negative comments.