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Would this annoy you

BirdieBrdBirdieBrd
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I have a friend, whose 30, whose been trying to get pregnant since March (so this is her 2nd cycle) and nothing has happened.  She has a Dr's appt in June and plans to tell him that she's been TTC for a year.

I asked her why she was doing to do that..did she think anything was wrong. She said she doesn't think so and she knows she ovulates because she's been charting. So it boils down to her being impatient.

I get being impatient, believe me I do, and I understand fudging the length of time you've been trying but by that much?  I just think of the things that the Dr could put her through that she might not need or the meds that he might give her that she doe not need to take and I just don't get it.  

Maybe I'm being senstive because of the time that it's taken me, I don't know. This just bothers me for some reason.

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    shyntrueshyntrue

    I'm not sure if it would annoy me or not...  I have heard the advice before to "fudge" on the length of time so your insurance will/can cover some of the costs...

    But, it boils down to you are annoyed and that is how you feel.  I don't think you should feel bad about being annoyed.  Own it and move forward from there.

    Gee, I sound like a psychologist LOL

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    BirdieBrdBirdieBrd

    Thanks, Dr  Shyntrue  Wink

    It annoys me, I will own it and move on.   I think I'm having a bout of PMS right now...which doesn't help. 

     

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    shyntrueshyntrue
    Does PMS ever help?  LOL
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    ToshaGirlToshaGirl member

    Yup, I'd be a tad annoyed. She needs to be patient. Yeesh.

    I don't know about down in the states, but up here, people who do stuff like that (particularily if they get referred to a specialist) are taking appointments away or causing longer waits for those that may have real challenges.

    I hope she never needs any assistance down the road, but she should be more patient now.

     

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    shyntrueshyntrue
    imageCathyMD:

    I don't know about down in the states, but up here, people who do stuff like that (particularily if they get referred to a specialist) are taking appointments away or causing longer waits for those that may have real challenges.

    I wasn't even thinking about this aspect... Yeah, I guess it would annoy me too....  Embarrassed Cathy, you have shamed me  LOL

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    BirdieBrdBirdieBrd

    Oooh Cathy you make an excellent point.

    I'm not really sure how RE works here because I've never been to one but yeah that adds another annoying aspect to it.

    I just hope that she's just doing this to find out if anything is wrong with her.  

     

    And LOL at Shyntrue, no PMS is never helpful. 

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    hollymichaelhollymichael
    Yes, it would and does annoy me.  I am self employed and have a pre-existing condition.  It is very hard for me to get health insurance and it costs me a fortune.  So, when I hear about people getting unnecessary medical tests which then causes health insurance costs to go up, I get annoyed.  Ok, I will get off my high horse now. 
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    LizzyB11LizzyB11
    That would really annoy me! Would she like it if her doctor lied to her in order to make his life easier? I would totally tell her about how value an RE's time is, not to mention how expensive it can be. If I was 30, I would not feel the pressure of time quite so much, you know?
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    GymDogFranGymDogFran

    Yep, I would be annoyed!  And concerned for her health.  It's like she's going straight onto drugs/treatment with no "natural" information to rely on.  Is she going to make up her ovulation history and cycle length too?  I'm guessing she hasn't been actively tracking that. 

    I could see fudging a few months, for insurance purposes, IF she was older and had a real physical reason to hurry things a long.

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    CharBartCharBart
    Yep...I'd be annoyed too...I might even have to tell her how crazy that sounds. 
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    itsmexineitsmexine
    Super Angry Yep super annoyed for all the reasons that pp have mention.
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    indianasunshineindianasunshine member
    Grrrrr! ?Yes, definitely annoying! ?I certainly understand wanting to be pregnant like yesterday, but give me a break!
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    soon-to-beamrssoon-to-beamrs member
    Sounds a little dangerous to me.  If she goes on fertility drugs but doesn't need them, she could end up with multiples or issues. 
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    saverchicsaverchic
    I'd be annoyed and concerned for her.  Like the pp's said, doing all of the lovely fertility drugs could cause problems for her.
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