how many times do you have to say something before DC listens?

august0605bride · May 2009

and how many times can you say it calmly?

I am soooooo sick of repeating myself, and things are escalating quickly this afternoon because I am burned out.?

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susan1017 · May 2009

About a thousand. It does get old quick and my fuse has been short too.

I hope things get easier for you !

~Kat~ · May 2009

Ugh. I don't even know. A lot. And each time I say it, my voice gets a little louder. Once I can't say it calmly anymore, I phisically make DS do whatever it is.

cnybride2be · May 2009

i don't count. I know and they know my asking gets louder each time i have to ask on especially trying days. probably not the best way to deal but if they didn't hear me in my nice quiet voice ...

Zenya · May 2009

I ask maybe twice before I get up and make him do it. Like help him or whatever.

hotfudgecustard · May 2009

I have stopped repeating myself to Mandi on "Come Here." I just get up and give her some "attention" where it counts, go back to where I was sitting or standing, and calmly say it again. (I guess that's repeating, but she's generally coming already.)

I firmly believe that "Come Here" can be a safety issue and immediate obedience should be required. The situation cannot make any difference since the child will not be able to see whether it's a safety issue or not when you're "in the moment".

Other than that, I give about 1 or 2 repeats.

AnnapolisLari · May 2009

3,412.

To the third power.

WBs_Bride · May 2009

Some days, about a thousand, with my voice raising about that number of decibels by that time. Although I TRY to be consistent where after about the second/third time I ask, I tell her I'm going to count to 3 and if she doesn't do whatever it is by 3, she gets a time out. I never count past one when I do that. I may get a "humph" or dirty look, or combination of the two, but at least she finally does what I'm asking! Gotta love age 3.

Zenya · May 2009

btw - I have heard the term "get off your butt parenting" and I think it's apt. I'm very likely to sit and get frustrated and yell (I am a yeller - trying to reform). I keep that phrase in my head. "get off your butt!" and go and physically touch/hug/compel him.

femmegem · May 2009

It depends on how involved he is in whatever he's doing. A lot, though. It gets awfully tiring.

Dougsgirl4ever · May 2009

DD askes me over & over what Mommy & now I've started asking my dd what did I say & she will repeat it back to me word for word. I also use this when I ask her to do something & she doesn't repond I will ask her what did I say & she will tell me. stinker

Laurana · May 2009

Zenya:
btw - I have heard the term "get off your butt parenting" and I think it's apt. I'm very likely to sit and get frustrated and yell (I am a yeller - trying to reform). I keep that phrase in my head. "get off your butt!" and go and physically touch/hug/compel him.

This sounds so great in theory but probably doesn't work very well with more than one. For instance, I can just stop in the middle of a diaper change when DD won't listen. So frustrating.

I swear she should do what I ask the FIRST time I ask, but it never works that way. *sigh*.

Zenya · May 2009

Laurana:
Zenya:
btw - I have heard the term "get off your butt parenting" and I think it's apt. I'm very likely to sit and get frustrated and yell (I am a yeller - trying to reform). I keep that phrase in my head. "get off your butt!" and go and physically touch/hug/compel him.

This sounds so great in theory but probably doesn't work very well with more than one. For instance, I can just stop in the middle of a diaper change when DD won't listen. So frustrating.

I swear she should do what I ask the FIRST time I ask, but it never works that way. *sigh*.

I have two. And I have put my baby down n the middle of nursing her to deal with my son. Mostly b/c I have a temper and I know if I keep saying the same thing over and over I'll end up freaking out at him.

It's not ideal by any means.

Angela814 · May 2009

Until I add a bribe into the statement.

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