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Emotions, oh my.

toospookytoospooky
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Lately I've been becoming more nervous/scared about labor and delivery. The whole idea of giving birth is really starting to overwhelm me, and I feel silly for feeling like this. After all, it's not like I didn't know how babies are born and what I signed up for - hello, of course there's going to be pain and of course it's a huge life-altering experience, etc.

I keep telling myself that I'll be fine, that women have done this for millenia without access to the kind of technology that I'll have access to, and that my mom will be there to help me, I have a great OB, and so on. DH has been awesome supporting me, and things will probably turn out just fine. But I just can't seem to shrug off this nervousness.

Anyone else nervous and scared, or is it just me?  Tongue Tied

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  • manda_mullinsmanda_mullins member

    If I just sit and think about it I will panic lol!

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    I just try to think one step at a time.

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    But yes, it is a terrifying thought, especially since we don't know what it's like!?

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  • ExpatFamily06ExpatFamily06
    I have my moments.  Up until this point I have been fine with the thought of it all, but yesterday I was thinking about it and I go very scared for a moment.  Today, I am fine again.
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  • toospookytoospooky
    Yeah, it's not like I'm feeling this way constantly, but it hits me a couple times a day and I start thinking "Can I do this?"
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  • blendedfammamablendedfammama member
    TERRIFIED!  I don't think about it too often or I'll get myself all worked up.  LOL
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  • sandyk51306sandyk51306 member

    I have felt this too. I haven't done too much reading yet on the whole experience, because I don't know if that will make me feel better or worse.

    I also had a freakout moment this morning thinking about after she's here and how the heck I'm going to take care of her by myself on my maternity leave. I keep visualizing her crying non-stop and I can't figure out how to soothe her. SCARY!

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  • allowryallowry
    Join the club!  I'm terrified!
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  • toospookytoospooky
    As odd as it may sound, I'm kind of relieved I'm not the only one with these feelings.
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  • momsthreemomsthree

    This is my third time and I am still nervous!  It is natural to have trepidition when it comes to planned pain, lol

    I remember the advice that I gave to my neices when they were about to have their first birth experiences.  I just told them to be honest and to understand that it will hurt, that it has to.  The good thing is that you have control and you know how much you can take.  Don't be a marytr.  There are many meds for pain...also remember Don't fight your body and/or the process.  Don't be embarrassed to make noise, groan, moan whatever you feel the need to do.  Birth is a primal thing. It is the most beautiful thing you will ever do as a woman,  you cannot even imagine the sense of power and awe that you have when you are done. I am not even talking about the baby, lol.  Something else I told them when they were finally holding the LO was:

    "Welcome to the sisterhood"

    You are going to do great!!

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  • momsthreemomsthree
    imagesandyk51306:

    I have felt this too. I haven't done too much reading yet on the whole experience, because I don't know if that will make me feel better or worse.

    I also had a freakout moment this morning thinking about after she's here and how the heck I'm going to take care of her by myself on my maternity leave. I keep visualizing her crying non-stop and I can't figure out how to soothe her. SCARY!

    Fear is a natural expression of intelligence.  I say to read is best, that way you wont be taken off guard during the experience.  As far as after she is born??  You will be amazed and how nature helps, as a backup?  pretty much any other women will be able to offer advice.  You are going to do great!

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  • bchlvnmom09bchlvnmom09

    I wasnt, now it has become more "real" for me, and I cant think about it.

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  • toospookytoospooky
    imagemomsthree:

    This is my third time and I am still nervous!  It is natural to have trepidition when it comes to planned pain, lol

    I remember the advice that I gave to my neices when they were about to have their first birth experiences.  I just told them to be honest and to understand that it will hurt, that it has to.  The good thing is that you have control and you know how much you can take.  Don't be a marytr.  There are many meds for pain...also remember Don't fight your body and/or the process.  Don't be embarrassed to make noise, groan, moan whatever you feel the need to do.  Birth is a primal thing. It is the most beautiful thing you will ever do as a woman,  you cannot even imagine the sense of power and awe that you have when you are done. I am not even talking about the baby, lol.  Something else I told them when they were finally holding the LO was:

    "Welcome to the sisterhood"

    You are going to do great!!

    That's really good advice. I have to remember that I'm not SuperWoman and if I need help, I should take it.

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