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franciscaz
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My inlaw complaint of the day...
franciscaz
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Okay so every month my inlaws write this letter. Every month they talk about DH "well Chris is doing this this and this at work" and for me it says "Francisca is busy at home w/Harmon" or this months fabulous update "Francisca just started wearing maternity clothes carrying those twins, we all wonder how big she will get".
So I wrote them nicely and the gist was: ummm... excuse me I work full time and I do some pretty cool things and bring home almost 50% of the families income. Since the letter goes to non-family and to extended family I would like to be presented in a more well rounded fashion.
He actually had the nerve to write back the following: "lets face it a women's job is to raise up the next generation and the mans is to provide. If I were to mention all the great things you do at work it might give the other girls a bad exmple. This is the families first set of multiples and that deserves the spotlight".
Oh heavens I've died and woken up in the 1950's 
Makes me want to fire my nanny and put all 3 kids in daycare just to spite them 
Mom to Harmon 1/17/08 and twins Rachel & Callum 8/28/09
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Re: My inlaw complaint of the day...
Hee hee! Good for you for trying! Honestly, people believe what they want to believe. It really is a shame that taking pride in providing for your family is looked upon as something only a Man should do. Wowzers!
You should totally write your own newsletter. "This month I realized the grandparents of my darling children are pricks living in the past."
LMAO!!!!!!
May524 I can decide in a few months... I will probably decide last minute like I did last job. I'm hoping in the mean time he might just change his mind!!!! Hoping... he is a real prick though so not counting on it.
That really irks me! You are totally half of the team and are doing more than your share. Hello! Not only are you working, you manage the household, care for Harmon and are housing 2 growing babies!!! I second writing your own monthly updates.
Can I write back please? Oh please? I would say the following:
Let's face it, this is 2009, and it is completely unrealistic to think that a sole breadwinner is going to be able to provide for a family the same way they did back in the 1950's. If your son were the only one working we'd live in a smaller house (insert all the things you wouldn't be able to do/have here), and we wouldn't even be thinking about having twins. You do the other girls a disservice by misrepresenting the reality of today's world. Shame on you!
I've said it before and I will say it again...I LOVE your in-law stories.
I guess you should be congratulated for carrying the "family's first set of multiples"??? (Does anyone else find that very creepy??
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You seem to have done your duty. Good work soldier. Geez.........
My Inlaws do the same letter but just as xmas....
They wanted to take a family picture last yr so we thought. We all got dressed up and they took my DD's picture with my SIL she had met one time.
They were like look how great of an aunt she is.
They didnt offer to take our picture so needless to say, Dh and I got into it big time. Its pretty ridiculous they have to "fake" this perfect family for their friends/family.
Sounds like yours is the same
sorry about that!
This reminds me of DH's grandma who thanked me for giving them a great-grandson.
Wow, do your ILs know you don't wear a skirt all day either? I bet you feel bad for setting such a bad example. LOL
Ick-
I also wouldn't be happy about them harping on you wearing maternity clothes and wondering aloud to people how big you are going to get. Ugh.
Oh I forgot the funniest story from over a month ago!!! MIL mentioned how it is such a shame the twins came from fertility treatments... it would be so neat if they had been spontaneous like cousin Natalie
But nevertheless it is the first twins in the group and they will be so cute in pictures 
The brothers have even told DH things like "it isn't fair that his guys swam on steroids" oh and I did tell you about the SIL who is still whining about how unfair it is that I "leapfrogged" her in the child dept
This is exactly what I was going to say.
Nasty ol'fart among a bunch of whiney passive-aggressive brats.
Sounds like no fun, June Cleaver.
Throwing leaves
DH is very supportive of me. He always says "ignore them" and sometimes he will even send an addendum where he mentions all my hard work in the family business.
What weirdos. I couldn't handle that. I'd send out my own newsletter to ensure the girls get a bad example of my working self.
Wow..well it's a shame they aren't the "kind" of twins they were looking for. Where do these people come from???!!!!???? I do not envy you, but GAWD I love these stories.