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No RSVP's.... What to do

mommymoyermommymoyer
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My bestfriend is throwing me a baby shower, the invitations went out about 3wks ago and she has only had 3 people RSVP. The shower is in 2wks. Should she or I personally call and ask if the invitee is coming or not(I don't want to look desperate, but prepared)? Should she just plan for everyone that was invited to come or only the one's that RSVP'd? It's coming soon and I'm kinda stressed out and hurt that more people haven't said if they were coming or not. Thanks for any opinions. Smile

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Re: No RSVP's.... What to do

  • bridetobe05bridetobe05
    When is the RSVP date?  Two weeks away is a little scary that no one has replied yet.
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  • DiscusCoachDiscusCoach
    My family doesn't RSVP for family stuff. You should not call anyone however the person throwing the shower can and should.
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  • yo.mamayo.mama member

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    My family doesn't RSVP for family stuff. You should not call anyone however the person throwing the shower can and should.

    this! gb!

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  • StVincentGradStVincentGrad
    How close are you to the people that you invited? Sometimes people forget, and put the invitation off to the side. The person throwing the shower should call the invitees.
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  • rebus82rebus82

    Eh, I think if the person is closer to you than the host, you can contact them. Not that you should have to because they should have RSVP'd, but if it's someone you talk to often I think it makes more sense for you to ask. Calling someone doesn't make you (or your host) look desperate, it makes you look like you're following up on something that shouldn't have required following up.?

    My shower is next Saturday. Not one person on DH's side properly RSVP'd. He actually called his mother and told her to talk to her rude-ass family because he wasn't going to make my mother (host) deal with them. We still don't know if half of them are coming. We're just going to assume yes, and hope no (we didn't really want to invite them, but felt obligated).?

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  • mommymoyermommymoyer

    Thanks for the helpful suggestions. I think I might give my family members that haven't responded a call and have my hostess call everyone else. My husband says that this is the last thing I should be stressed about. Thanks again

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  • Stellar1Stellar1

    I would wait another week and then either her or yourself could send out an e-mail or call the people who haven't rsvp'd yet. That's what I did and most of my friends apologized for not rsvp'ing earlier.

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  • HerHighnessHerHighness member

    Alot of people dont RVSP til the week before. I usually dont. Plans change and life happen and whatnot.

    And some people NEVER RSVP. Its so annoying. You should have seen the list of people I had to call 5 days before my wedding *&^&^%$

    I would wait til a week before and then have the host call people. 

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  • Lucky428Lucky428

    imageDiscusCoach:
    My family doesn't RSVP for family stuff. You should not call anyone however the person throwing the shower can and should.

    Yep!! The host calls. GL!!!

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  • MamaTullyMamaTully member
    You friend should call...or she can have your mom or DH do it if it is his or your family and she feels uncomfortable.
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  • noguminbednoguminbed
    uggg!  This happend to me at both my bridal and baby shower.  I don't think people would be offended if you or better yet, the host,  emailed and just asked if they were planning on being there so you could get a head count for food and stuff. 
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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member
    I would have the hostess call everyone and she will have to leave messages.  My DD is hosting a bachelorette party and only got like 4 rsvps (out of 20) and had to call everyone.  She had to leave a lot of messages and just said if she didn't hear from them by a certain date she will assume they are NOT coming.  If there are close family members that haven't rsvp'd I'd have your mom call them to see if htey are coming (gives the hostess a little bit of a break).
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  • vrichvrich member
    I wouldn't have a problem asking those I were close to, and have mom/MIL ask close relatives.  Otherwise a good guestimate is ~60% of those invited will show.
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