registry on shower invite--tacky?

alread · April 2009

HI all,

Is it ok or tacky to put where someone is registered on the shower invitation? If you don't put it on, how will they know where she is registered? I'm not throwing the shower, but my friend's mother is, and she's not sure what to do. Thanks!!

RoxyLynn · April 2009

Traditional etiquette says it's inappropriate - the invitation is intended to convey only the information that someone needs in order to attend (time, date, location). Gift preferences are not in any way critical information. If someone wants to know they'll look it up online or ask when they rsvp; if they're not willing to put that very, very minimal effort into it then they don't really want to know.

That said, I once got a shower invitation with registry info and thought "odd - guess they don't know their etiquette" but didn't find it actually offensive.

erosa · April 2009

umm no.. its tacky if you're throwing your own shower... then you ARE soliciting gifts. If you are hosting a shower for someone, then yes, you should include registry informations. if i were invited to a shower that had no registry info on it, I would be annoyed to have to check 5 or 6 websites to try & figure out whether or not the person is registered. That is why they give registry cards. Guests know that a shower is meant to celebrate the mom-to be & shower her with gifts... it is expected to have a list to buy from if they choose to buy off the list. I have done dozens of showers and been to dozens more... it IS tacky to soliticit your own gifts, but NOT if you are hosting for someone.

WendyBird&Chris · April 2009

EVERY baby shower invite I have received in the last few years has had the registry info on the invitation. I have never thought it was tacky. Also, EVERY wedding invitation I have received in the last 5 years has had the registry slips inclosed in the invitation and I do not find this tacky at all either. I think people in Southern California may do things a little different. If you feel uncomfortable about it have them insert the slips or print it on a seperate note.

Jules G · April 2009

erosa:
umm no.. its tacky if you're throwing your own shower... then you ARE soliciting gifts. If you are hosting a shower for someone, then yes, you should include registry informations. if i were invited to a shower that had no registry info on it, I would be annoyed to have to check 5 or 6 websites to try & figure out whether or not the person is registered. That is why they give registry cards. Guests know that a shower is meant to celebrate the mom-to be & shower her with gifts... it is expected to have a list to buy from if they choose to buy off the list. I have done dozens of showers and been to dozens more... it IS tacky to soliticit your own gifts, but NOT if you are hosting for someone.

Ditto.

Vixey529 · April 2009

I think it looks a little classier if you put a small card inside the invite that lists registry info.

When we registered at BRU, we were given sheets of little cards with the BRU registry info on them. We just wrote a note on these cards that there is also a Target registry, and those went inside the invite cards.

At1stsight · April 2009

Oddly enough, I think it's very tacky on wedding invites (b/c weddings technically do not REQUIRE people to give gifts) but not for shower invites b/c the purpose of the shower is to give gifts! I agree that I think it's nice to have it right in there as opposed to having to hunt it down. It seems like such an easy thing to do on the internet, but that's really something WE are all comfortable doing (and know where to check out since we're pg). My mom's friends and older family members who are 55+ are NOT comfortable trying to navigate different online directories to try to figure out where I'm registered.

groovygrl · April 2009

Ditto- I think old school etiquette says it is inappropriate (like the stupid family member hosting thing that is constantly debated) but since there are so many different places to register now, I personally find it very helpful when it is on there rather than having to hunt things down or ask etc. I'd go with whatever the hostess is comfortable doing.

LMS05 · April 2009

In no way is it tacky! The point of any shower (baby or bridal) is to SHOWER the mom-to-be/bride with gifts! I think it's weird not to include the registry info. You can't compare this to a wedding invitation because at a wedding you aren't required to give a gift.?

mrs_sherod · April 2009

For a baby shower, I'd say put the registry information on the invite. People should not have to call to find out where the mom is registered now do a lookup online. Also, unfortunately, everyone doesn't rsvp, so that is not a good way For wedding invites, you should def have the cards enclosed.

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the guests

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the guests to k

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the guests to know

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the guests to know what

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the guests to know what you

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky. Whats the point in making a registry if you don't give of out info for it? It makes it easier on the guests to know what you need

jolis_petits_bijoux · April 2009

At1stsight:
Oddly enough, I think it's very tacky on wedding invites (b/c weddings technically do not REQUIRE people to give gifts) but not for shower invites b/c the purpose of the shower is to give gifts! I agree that I think it's nice to have it right in there as opposed to having to hunt it down.

Ditto. Go ahead and list where she's registered. For a bridal/baby shower, it is acceptable to include registry information on the invite. I don't care if Emily Post approves! It's not like you're telling them to bring diapers, not to bring clothes, bring cash for a 50/50, and a bunch of other tacky demands! (It has been asked whether doing any of those things is okay, on this board, and the overwhelming general consensus was NO!)

I expect to see registry information on a shower invitation. I know that some people will never shop off of a registry. But, for me, for example - when I spend my hard-earned money on a gift for someone, I want it to be something they need, will use, and appreciate. Therefore, I almost always shop off of registries, and appreciate the registry info on the invite.

jesssy1204 · April 2009

I think you should put where she registered... now a days who cares.. like you said how will people know what she has in mind for her and her baby??

tanya8 · April 2009

IMO including a registry SHOULD be included. How else will people know where you are registered. I rather get someone the last thing on their registry like a pair of nail clippers than give them their 10th recieving blanket. I just like giving useful gifts rather than decorative ones, especially with this economy!

LadyAphrodite · April 2009

According to the Emily Post holy grail of etiquette, it is NOT tacky to include registry information on or with any shower invitation. The entire reason that it is tacky to do it with a wedding invitation is because it de-emphasizes the wedding itself and emphasizes the gift. Furthermore, it is not required that you bring a gift to a wedding. However, it is expected that you bring a gift to a shower. The entire reason for a shower is to shower the bride or the mother to be with gifts.

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