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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
I can't do it. I am a wuss.
I lock up dangerous criminals but I can't Ferberize my son and listen to him cry while trying to go to sleep. I just tried for 40 minutes and it was awful. I went in at 3 minutes, 5 min., 7 min, 10 min, and so on. I only laid him down and put his blanket on him and said, "It's time for bed, Bub. Night night." And he started off ok, playing in his crib Then mildly fussing which progressed to full out crying, then tired, desperate crying, then coughing and gagging. And......I gave up and picked my baby boy up. He took almost 10 minutes to fully calm down.
Is there anything wrong with letting your baby STTN when he is just ready (other than your own sleep deprivation)? I mean, really.
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Re: I can't do it. I am a wuss.
My DD has only dont the choking crying thing like 3 times in her life and I can't stand it!! I pick her up right away when that starts. I don't think I could do ferber...maybe later but not yet for us.
BTW, I love your kid's names. My DD's is Olivia and my DH is Justin. I even thought of naming our future DS that after him. Great names!!
Nope, not at all. DH and I personally did Ferber with DS because DS was miserable. He wasn't napping well and was waking up a lot at night. Now that he's been Ferberized, he's much happier, and as a result, so are DH and I.
It's a decision you have to make as his mom. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
DS is Justin Jr, after DH.
We waited it out and at around 10 months she started STTN on her own. I think you have to do what works for you. My DH and I were okay with her night wakings--they were usu. short and maybe twice a night or so. I always felt like she'd be able to get there on her own, so I'm glad that we chose not to CIO.
Do what feels right for you and your baby. Good luck!
Well, I Ferbered to allow my DS to learn to go to sleep on his own, instead of with STTN as the goal... it is a nice byproduct though! He was waking once a night and we just cut that last feeding out two weeks ago.
But if you aren't ready, you aren't ready and shouldn't do it. You should commit to it and be ready for it or it won't work. Good luck with what you decide!
This is our story as well....but you have to do what you feel is right...GL!
I can't do it either, but there are other options. I now have a baby I can put to bed awake and he lies down and goes to sleep...
I used the Baby Whisperer pick up put down method and it worked for us!
I did my own version and would pick her up, and I would go in every 5 minutes. ?Even though she can go to sleep on her own, I still rock her before bed. ?If she falls asleep while rocking, great. ?If not, then she lays down and can put herself to sleep. ?
For awhile I felt guilty about rocking her to sleep, but I missed my cuddle time. ?Then I figured that if she is still STTN when I rock her to bed, why not? ?Do what feels best and right for you. ??
I can't listen to my child cry either, but we needed DS to start sleeping at night in his crib again and to take naps in his crib as he had out grown his swing.
?I did not let him cry in his crib, I comforted him in his crib and would sit in his room till he fell asleep. ?Sometimes I would need to take him out of his crib to comfort him, but I always set him back down (awake if possible).
I highly?recommend?the No Cry Sleep Solution and the Dr. Sears Sleep Book. ?Both advocate a no cry way of getting your child to sleep better.?
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