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I had my first stranger belly pat yesterday.

Kristin&FrankKristin&Frank
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I don't think I ever had a stranger pat my belly in my first pregnancy.  I was pretty quick with the step-back.  This time I was stuck in a FULL elevator.  There was no escape.  I know people mean well, and it was completely friendly, but come on people!  I wanted to say something snarky, but then I'd be stuck face to face with this person for a few floors in uncomfortable silence.  I decided to keep quiet.

Ew.

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  • Smudges*MomSmudges*Mom member

    That sounds awful!  I don't understand how people can think its okay to pat a stranger's pregnant belly!  But, then again, these are the same people who think its okay to touch a stranger's baby!

    The only one who really pats my belly is my SIL--and I like it.  Which is a good thing since she is my labor coach!  :o)  Totally different than a stranger though. . . I'd have kept quiet too in that situation!

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  • MewMewMewMew
    I honestly thing some people think it's okay. She probably liked when strangers patted her belly, I don't know why. I would feel like you feel. If I don't know you, I wouldn't touch you! Geez.
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  • MerryMarisaMerryMarisa
    Ugh, I will never understand why people think this okay...honestly, just keep your hands to yourself!  Sorry you went through that.
    TTC #1 w/ endo since Sept 2005. After many losses, a lap, tons of meds and tons of testing and, one failed IVF cycle, we were blown away with a surprise, sticky BFP...it's a girl!!! Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
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  • desabeandesabean member

    THANK YOU!  I just had an argument with my brother and had to end up posting a poll on my blog about this very topic.  He says that I don't like the belly touch because I'm not really a hugger.  I say I don't think most women want their personal space invaded that way.

    I really didn't think it would happen to me but I've gotten it 4 times (once from a client that of course doesn't have great boundaries so I was actually ok with that) but other times it has been from 2 licensed therapists (that I know very casually) and 1 stranger!  keep your friggin hands off my body!

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  • speak-ezspeak-ez
    My sil patted my belly when I was about 7 wks so I'm thinking that will continue to happen :-) I'm okay if I know you - for the most part. However I am a germaphobe so strangers --- EW!
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