If you are having a boy...

Pecas13 · March 2009

will you be circumcising? I never thought this was a tough decision, but I've heard that more people are leaning towards not doing the proceedure. My husband doesn't know why you wouldn't. I am just curious what all you team blue mamas are planning on doing, and why.

Poplin2007 · March 2009

We're circumcising for purely aesthetic purposes. I left the decision up to my husband since he's knows what it's like to have a penis and he feels strongly that he wants our boy circumcised.

Stefaniepr · March 2009

Nope. DH isn't and we're not going to with mr. man either. I think people used to do it more often years ago because they were worried about infection, but more and more people are shying away from it now. I think the most common reason now is for religious reasons. It's purely a personal choice though.

thatgirlang · March 2009

We circumcised DS and will do the same for the new baby. This was something that I kind of let DH take the lead on. He wants his boys to be like him, ya know? Since he was circumcised, he also "didn't see why not" and I didn't fight him on it.

aroberts7106 · March 2009

Yes, we plan to. I hate to make the poor baby go through that pain so young.....but I guess the silver lining is that they are so young and will not remember it and recover faster. We are doing it for cleanliness reasons....plsu DH is circumcised, so I guess we just never even considered not doing it.

babes12 · March 2009

DS is not circumcised. we were planning on it but he needed to be tested to find out if he had DH's blood clotting disorder. after a year of testing it showed to be inconclusive for the blood clotting disorder so after all that we decided not to get him circumcised. so i'm guessing since our next is a boy we probably won't get him circ. either since DS # 1 is not.

Hotomale · March 2009

We're doing it, we didn't have to give it much thought. DH and I both always figured we would.

tmp-116966375004162 · March 2009

We are not. ?DH is not and we don't see any real medical reason to do the procedure.

RachB · March 2009

We haven't really talked about it but I am going to leave this up to DH. He is circumcised so I am assuming our boy will be too. But really it's only for aesthetic/cleanliness purposes.

kristeljade · March 2009

Nope. DS isn't and neither will this child, because I don't feel they've proven it necessary to chop off very sensitive parts of my newborn.

sandollar · March 2009

Cleanliness isn't an issue at all anymore, that was way back in the day. Unless your child plans to go weeks without a shower and soap it will not be a problem! It makes sense to me that dad's would want their son's to have the same experience and "look" as them.

annibes · March 2009

I'm not stressing about it, but DH is a little because I largely left the decision up to him. He asked what I would do if it were my decision, and I said I would probably circumcise because my family always has.

That said, I don't have a penis and I don't know one way or the other about what is better. I have my opinions, but no experience to back it up, really. I think DH is leaning towards circumcision simply because it's "the norm" in both of our families.

annibes · March 2009

annibes:
I'm not stressing about it, but DH is a little because I largely left the decision up to him. He asked what I would do if it were my decision, and I said I would probably circumcise because my family always has.

That said, I don't have a penis and I don't know one way or the other about what is better. I have my opinions, but no experience to back it up, really. I think DH is leaning towards circumcision simply because it's "the norm" in both of our families.

LOL although this could all be a moot reply if we are having a girl..

HeyyRed · March 2009

Actually, as of this week, there are medical reasons to circumcise. More studies are being done about HPV in men and a major study was released this week that shows that HPV transmission is dramatically reduced in men who ARE circumcised than men who aren't. Infection is also dramatically reduced in men who are not.

My husband is Jewish. If we are having a boy, I'm sure we will have a bris of sorts right away. We haven't discussed it but that would be the family tradition and with the latest studies, I'm happy to do it.?

Pecas13 · March 2009

That's our issue too. We don't even know if we are having a boy or a girl, but we want to be ready either way!

prettyshoes · March 2009

We are circumcising. Mainly because DH is so they will "match". Also, DH is a pediatrician and says it is recommended.?

lvisser · March 2009

I left it up to DH totally... and his answer has always been "yes". So thats that.

MidwestTexan · March 2009

Yes, our son will be getting circumcised.

LillyBug923 · March 2009

We were going to if we had a boy. We sat down with our OB and he went over all of the positives and negatives and STRONGLY recommended it. Men/boys with circumcision have less chance of STDs and infection, among other things...

kristeljade · March 2009

HeyyRed:

Actually, as of this week, there are medical reasons to circumcise. More studies are being done about HPV in men and a major study was released this week that shows that HPV transmission is dramatically reduced in men who ARE circumcised than men who aren't. Infection is also dramatically reduced in men who are not.

God I can't keep up. It was my understanding that there isn't really a medical reason, where did you find this?

I still don't think I will, and DH doesn't want to, but I like to at least pretend our decisions are educated ones. Smile

WannaBAmama · March 2009

My husband is not circumcised and he feels very strongly against it. So our son will not be either.

HeyyRed · March 2009

It was just released this week. I will see if I can find where I read it. Umbilical brain has stored it somewhere oh wait, I saw it on the news here in Toronto. I will see if I can find a link online.

M.Amy · March 2009

Yes.

One concern I had with circumcision was the lose of sensitivity on the penis - especially when I saw people starting equating it to female genital mutilation.

A friend of mine had one done at the age of 21 and he said that the sensitivity increased afterward. When I asked him for his opinion he felt very strongly that having experienced both situations, he would recommended circumcision. So that helped make up our minds.

Here is a link to a recent article:

Call for a Higher Circumcision Rate

https://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7960798.stm

kittykatlover · March 2009

this.exactly.

kristeljade · March 2009

HeyyRed:
It was just released this week. I will see if I can find where I read it. Umbilical brain has stored it somewhere oh wait, I saw it on the news here in Toronto. I will see if I can find a link online.

Thanks Red!

LoveEeyore · March 2009

Initially DH was set on it and I was set against it. I did all the research and THursday we talked and he agreed if it wasn't medically necessary that we shouldn't. THen yesterday I was chatting with MIL and she said DH's Uncle and grandfather weren't and ended up having to be as adults for medical reasons. Since I don't know much about the genetics of the penis anatomy I have changed my mind and want to in case whatever their problems were are genetic.

ALP · March 2009

We have had both of our boys circumcised, and if this is a boy, we will do so again this time.

Starlette1983 · March 2009

We are going to because DH is.

JCM083009 · March 2009

Nope, I've done a lot of research for both sides and don't think I could do it. I'm Jewish and still won't do it.

mollymurphy · March 2009

M.Amy:
A friend of mine had one done at the age of 21 and he said that the sensitivity increased afterwards.? When I asked him for his opinion he felt very strongly that having experienced both situations, he would recommened circumcision.?

Ditto. DH is circumcised and felt strongly that he would like our DS to be as well.?Obviously it's a medical procedure and you don't want to take it lightly, but for us, it's something that DH feels strongly about and we'll have it done.

Interestingly, we just ran across an article where a man had an infection that required him to undergo a circumcision at age 35. After the fact, he said that he had more sensitivity after the procedure and preferred being circumcised. Granted, it's totally anecdotal, but men who have it done later in life are really the only ones who can compare sex before and after...and honestly, I don't think that we'll be depriving our son of anything by having the circumcision. ?

LadyNikon · March 2009

We just found out that we are having a girl. However, if we were having a boy I was not going to circumcise him. I have plenty of friends on both sides of the knife and it seems really not needed.

MrsDuncan · March 2009

Stefaniepr:
Nope. DH isn't and we're not going to with mr. man either. I think people used to do it more often years ago because they were worried about infection, but more and more people are shying away from it now. I think the most common reason now is for religious reasons. It's purely a personal choice though.

Ditto this. As with so many things, the medical evidence falls on both sides of the debate. We have no religious or traditional reasons to do so, so I've left it up to DH and his choice is to leave him uncut.

*KC*luvs*RJ* · March 2009

Poplin2007:
We're circumcising for purely aesthetic purposes. I left the decision up to my husband since he's knows what it's like to have a penis and he feels strongly that he wants our boy circumcised.

This.

K-I-S-S-I-N-G · March 2009

We circ'ed ds and we will if we have another boy. DH is so I want the boys to be like him, it IS more sanitary and maybe this is a dumb reason but I remember the few boys that I went to hs who weren't were ridiculed and embarassed about it. The teenager years are hard enough I would rather my DS go through a little pain they won't remember when they are a baby then having to go though years of emotional distress for being "different."

Chrysallys · March 2009

We haven't decided yet. I am defering to DH on this one.

festivalhippie · March 2009

I don't want to... DH does. ?We'll see what happens!

thequeeenbee · March 2009

We plan to. I guess we never really considered the alternative. My DH is, so we assumed our son would be. Plus, everything I see makes it seem as if (scientifically) it makes more sense. Also, I'd rather have it done young then him have to go through the pain later in life if he would decide that he would want to be circumsized.

Lastly, not to step on anyones toes here, but we are from an area with a real "small town" feel and there isn't a whole lot of variety when it comes to people around here. I remember back in high school I had a good friend who was jewish, and was not circumsized, and all of the guys in my high school gave him a hard time about it. They were joking, but it was really cruel, and privately, he took it really hard. I guess I just don't want my son to go through that... because people can be such jerks for no reason. =/

LizBusch · March 2009

if we have a boy, we're circumcizing.

rebus82 · March 2009

Yes, DH wants it done. There is no medical reason so strongly against it that I refuse to go along with it. The few medical pros to circumcision are actually enough to counteract the "it's unnecessary" arguments, in my opinion. I have no problem with people who choose not to, but I'm for it for my own son.

Most people who don't get it done chose not to because it is unnecessary medically, and not that common in non-US locations. There are very few actual cons about it, besides it being mostly aesthetic and therefore unneeded.?

DorothyShaw · March 2009

Wow, this post doesn't reflect trends at all. ?

If we have a boy, we are not circumcising. ?I don't judge anyone who chooses to have it done, it's definately a personal decision. ?Personally, I feel it is a form of genital mutilation and unnecessary.

My husband is Jewish and so he is. ?But we aren't raising our children Jewish so we decided against it.?

OutLawless · March 2009

We're having our little man circumcised. It is proven to be healthier and I can't imagine something happening medically where it needs to be done at an age of awareness. If I can prevent something like that, I will. He will be given EMLA cream to numb the area first to relieve the pain. None of this he won't remember it so it doesn't matter BS.

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