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NMR Friday Confessions....Come on in!
I thought we would confess something that didn't relate to us being terrible parents (just terrible people!). 
So here is mine:
I secretly judge smokers. I hate that I do that but every time I have to walk out of the building and through the smoke "gauntlet" I think nasty thoughts. I can't help it and in general am trying to judge less (about everything!).
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Re: NMR Friday Confessions....Come on in!
I judge smokers too. Unless they are rock stars and then it is Ok.
I judge smokers too! They are killing themselves little by little. I am actually also alergic to sigarete smoke, but not too badly, but I pretend it is a lot worse when I walk by someone who is smoking and suggestively start coughing....
My cousin and his GF just had a preemie b/c she smoked & was on methodone during thr pregnancy. They are taking the baby home from the NICU tomorrow & I'm terrified. They are really young and in the wrong crowd & I've been thinking about offering to take him- except DH would kill me.
Whew- feels good to get that off my chest.
Hmn. I also don't like to see/smell people smoking. Especially when they are in the car in front of me and the smoke comes in my car. Yuck.
My non smoking related confession? I LOVE buying shoes. I have way way too many. I see cute shoes and I MUST BUY THEM. No matter that I wear my one pair of favorite flip flops 99% of the time, I have to have the cute shoes just in case I feel like wearing them (which is almost never)
I secretly judge my sister's 22 year old son. I think he's such a waste of space, and can't help gritting my teeth every time I see him. He has a good home, and ruined it by peer pressure, had to go to jail, did probation, and he still doesn't have his sh*t together. He's put a toll on my sister and her DH.
I judge smokers too... especially when a character smokes in a TV show or in a movie. Why does the media have to portray smoking as cool?
My real confession: my house is such a disgusting, embarrassing mess that yesterday when my mom called to ask if she could come over, I made up a headache so she wouldn't come over and see the nasty mess.
let's see...
- i judge smokers too...and i smoked for 12 years! kind of hypocritical of me.
- my house is a horrible mess. i'll bet mrs.destructo's house is neat as a pin compared to mine. seriously.
- i'm going to sell a fugly purse my MIL gave me for christmas at our garage sale next weekend.
- i went to a consignment sale yesterday and bought up all the fall 07 carters onesies to send back with the rest of my stuff.
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DH has been making me so mad...he makes a huge deal about how he has been taking care of the dishes and the cat box but pretty much was "too busy" to help with most of the big cleaning in anticipation of his mom and sister arriving today to stay with us for the week...grrrr....
On smoking - I was a seasonal social w/drinks only smoker the past couple summers, but DH went right back to full time smoking this fall and he smoked all through the winter with colds and everything and complains constantly about his throat hurting but still won't quit...I told him I don't want to hear about it...he makes me so mad that we are broke as sh!t but he is shelling out $7/pack for cigarettes...oh and he won't tell his parents he is smoking again...ummm...he is 30 years old and lives on his own...sorry this got so long winded...DH has been on my last nerve these days....
i cannot stand smokers and always give them dirty looks...that they most likely see.
hmmm ok here is mine I actually have two:
1. My sil is an absent parent and tries to make up for it by spending tons of money on the kid and throwing beyond ridiculous birthday parties so that she can continue to pose as a good parent.....I can barely talk on the phone with her it makes me so disgused and mad. Seriously i am writing this and my BP when up!
2. I judge parents who don't keep their kids on a sleeping schedule especially at night.
Ouch, well then I guess I've been judged. But I'm doing the best I can with the issues we have, and I guess so is everyone else in the same boat.
-I hate smokers. My mom lives with us and she's a smoker too, just not in the house.
- My real confession: I HATE when I tell someone, especially family members, to be someplace on time and they show up late. I mean really late. And never apologize or say thank you for what we do for them. HATE IT but I bite my tongue because there's already enough drama going on in our lives.
I smoke. <GASP!!!> I quit 2 weeks ago this upcoming Monday, for the 4th time, but I had a relapse on Tuesday when my DD locked us out of the house and I knew I had a pack in the car so I got one out and smoked half of a butt (I guess that's my first confession - I haven't told anyone I snuck a butt, LOL). Also, I've been DYING for a ciggy today. I don't do it in front of the kids ever, and I never did it when I was pg or nursing, but I sure do love to smoke! If it wouldn't give me cancer or emphysema I'd never quit.
In all seriousness, I have another confession... I was finally able to tell DS that I love him, without even thinking about it. That felt so good, and I have been waiting for it for at least a year now. I know I'm new to this board and people don't know me, and can't possibly understand how I could not love my kids (because you're automatically supposed to, right?), or think that they could be horrifying, and I don't care. I take good care of them, I don't abuse them, I WANT desperately to love them, but it's just something you will never understand if you've been hoping and wishing and praying for even 1 baby for years. Of course people who've had fertility treatments love their kids from the moment of conception. I love my oldest DD more than I love my trio b/c she was like that - it took us 2 years to have her, with a m/c in between. I loved her from the moment I heard her cry. She is the light of our lives. The trio was an accident. Imagine a surprise baby (and I know there are those of you out there that have them), but then imagine not only one unexpected baby, but 3, while you're still enjoying your first baby and aren't even ready for another 1 yet, let alone 3!! They complicated our easy, perfect little lives. I've been dealing and adjusting the best way I can, the most that I can, to adapt to my new life and all these kids I've been, dare I say it - blessed with. But it has been a hard road. I was diagnosed with PPD and have been on meds and in therapy since the trio was 5 months old (which was, coincidentally, when I started smoking again). My DH has also been so depressed he recently started therapy himself. If there is anything I've learned from being a mother, it's to not judge people because you never know why they're doing the things they do. Send your snarky little PMs and flame me up about what a wacko douche bag I am, but remember at the end of the day that you don't know me and you really shouldn't judge someone you don't even know. It's not exactly the polite thing to do. Even on parenting boards. And yes, this does all stems from a topic earlier this week, but it has been bothering me ever since, and I bowed out b/c didn't want to keep the drama going then, and I don't now, I just feel like I had to get this all off my chest. Thanks for the opportunity to vent. And sorry to everyone I offended, and for any drama I may have caused/escalated.
Mandie, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I don't really know what to say, but you won't get any flames from me, PPD is a strong thing. PPD combined with the unexpected life of having multiples, especially 4 kids! can really throw you for a loop. I wish the best for you.
Ok, my confession for the day is that I'm not yet telling anyone at work that I'm pregnant, but I told the receptionist so I could get out of my turn to clean out the office fridge. I told her that I was having morning sickness and couldn't clean it out. But the truth is I only have morning sickness in the evenings, and could easily have done it, I just didn't want to.
I have a few....
I only 'nest' (or lurk, really) when my boys are napping, and I can't stand how much time I actually spend reading the stupid drama that takes place on the other boards. I only joined 'the nest' when I found out I was pregnant, and really only spent time on the Multiples board when I found out it was twins, but I still lurk on the 0-6 and 6-12 boards. It's like a train wreck--I have to keep reading. I know, lame, very lame.
Although I value the multiples board and am SO grateful the women on here are not BIOTCHES and totally judgemental, I still feel like this whole website is such a popularity contest, as far as the points go. I can only add what I feel is valuble and worthy and can't even fathom racking up as many points as some of the other girls!! I've been absent for a few weeks since we just moved, and I've missed this board, but will try to get on more often in the future since I LOVE this multiples board.
We sleep trained our boys to STTN since they were 2 1/2 months old (flame me if you want, it worked and I still claim we have the two most happiest and biggest babies on the block) and when I hear about babies who are 9-10-12 months old who don't yet, I don't understand why they don't try some of the methods out there.
1. There was drama on my local board today so I kept the girls in the baby jail aka the playyard, turned on TV and watched the drama play out online for a few minutes.
2. I dont get the point of being passive aggressive. I judge those who are, I just assume they cant be adults and deal with feelings/issues in a civilized manner, so they resort to innuendos, the verbal side eye, hidden insults, etc.
Agreed 100%! I started sleep-training at 8 weeks, they were STTN by 11!
My confession... As much as my ILs are kind and generous, I drive me nuts. They have no respect for other people's time and are always late. They think it is okay for children to eat at 8pm and to go to bed at 10.
They invited themselves up for dinner tonight for me to cook for them. This was before the bed rest. But even still, i would have worked all day. Who asks their 26 wk pg DIL to cook dinner for them and then complain when I was going to feed them pasta and meatballs. Thankfully, my DH canceled the dinner since I am on bed rest. PHEW.
Glad I got that off my chest
They invited themselves over...for you to cook...even though you are on bedrest??? wow!
I used to work at a University, and when I went back to private practice agreed to supervise students here, and I can't STAND it. First, they gave me a not so great student, that takes way more time than I have, and second, when I am at work is the only time I can "nest" and she ruins it. Just now I told her I needed to make some personal calls and went in my office and closed the door, if not she just hovers over my shoulder and watches EVERYTHING I do. UGH, leave me alone!!
EDITED: OMG, she just walked into my office with the door closed and stared at me, I said excuse me, could you please give me a few minutes, AHHH, get away from me.
Okay, two things... WTH are these points all about? I don't get them, or their relevance. Do you get a prize at the end of the month if you have the most points or something? What a stupid idea, LOL
Also, I sleep trained my trio at 12 weeks. I didn't want to start until they were drinking their 24 oz or whatever it was, but we stopped just shy of forcing them to drink more during the day and less at night to get them to STTN. What a huge relief it was when they started STTN! LOL And they are huge, happy babies too.
It cracks me up when my friends are like, "OMG, how do you do it!? My DS is 11 months and still won't STTN." No, my kids aren't just great sleepers, it took us a lot of work to get them where they are today! Just buck up and train him already!!!! LOL
I am going to do this too! I need the money to buy summer clothes for the babies!
- i judge smokers too...and i smoked for 12 years! kind of hypocritical of me. - In my experiences, ex-smokers are more judgemental of smokers than anyone else. Myself included. Except for when I'm actively smoking. And then I still judge people who smoke in their cars with their kids or smoke while pg. I mean, come on - killing yourself is one thing; leave your kids out of it!
- i'm going to sell a fugly purse my MIL gave me for christmas at our garage sale next weekend. - OMG, you made me LOL!
- i went to a consignment sale yesterday and bought up all the fall 07 carters onesies to send back with the rest of my stuff. - Brilliant!!!!
Mandie - no flames from me. I can't imagine how hard it is to go through 4 kids and PPD. I have no idea what drama was going on earlier this week. Was it on a different board?
Hmmm....smoking....both my parents smoked - my dad still does. I guess I don't judge smokers as long as they are not doing it in front of me or my kids. They're hurting themselves.
I secretly want my company to start cutting people's hours. I honestly don't want people to be in a financial crisis or anyting but I was just informed that I can't work my one day from home anymore and I'm a total mess over it. I wish they'd offer us a break in our hours so they can save money.
I have to grit my teeth coming home every day. My inlaws are nice people and love my kids but the get on my effing nerves. When I pull my car up they are usually parked in our driveway and they stand in the window holding my kids staring at me. I hate it. Plus their little dog is on my couch barking up a storm. I hate that dog.
I feel like I had kids so my inlaws can raise them. I hate the situation that we're in right now.
- i went to a consignment sale yesterday and bought up all the fall 07 carters onesies to send back with the rest of my stuff.
OOH Good idea!!!! That's my confession.....I'm going to see if I can do the same.
Oh and instead of eating my good Catholic girl non meat lunch that DH made me I went to Coldstone Creamery with my girlfriends and we had humongous sundaes for lunch.
I judge smokers as well. I find it repulsive and rude. I think it is a form of child abuse when I see a young child in a car w/ a smoking parent.
Also, my Friday confession- I need a mommy vacation. I don't want to go anywhere, I just want to sleep for two days and not get up except to brush my teeth and go to the bathroom
oh jeez...i can't believe i am writing this...
1. i've started smoking occassionally to get out of the house. I hate going out very often (stores, restaurants, etc.) and I am in no condition to go back to work so I sit on the couch all day and play Lego Batman on the Wii so smoking is my way to get outside and actually be human.
2. I hate video games. I am horrible at them so why am I sitting here playing this stupid game that 12 year olds play?
3. I think my therapist is a quack. Before she even had her first session with me, she sent me to a 'specialist' to get me on anti-depressants. Shouldn't that be something you do once you've evaluated the patient? I would really like to switch but I just don't want to go through all of the insurance bullsh*t.
doublewhammy: that does sound weird! she should have met with you first.
((((hugs)))) to you, and to Mandie. Mandie, no flames from me, either!
My NMR confession is that I'm too sleep-deprived to think of a good confession. :P
And I also have no idea what these "points" are that we're accumulating. No clue.
Okay, yes, there are some that are worse than others, but like you with the parenting thing I often think it comes down to "user error." (Not always, of course, each kid is different, but a lot of the time.) The person I was thinking of when I wrote that can't believe how great my kids sleep and asked me to "teach her my secrets" but when I tell her I just let my kids CIO for an hour, she says, "Oh, he doesn't even sleep in his crib. My parenting style is on demand; I want to be there for him whenever he needs me." Which is fine if that's how you want to parent, but you have to expect some of the pitfalls that come along with a looser style and schedule, KWIM? Her DS is about 15 months and just started sleeping in his crib. DH and I are firm believers that kids will get used to whatever b/c they don't know any different so the earlier you introduce something that becomes their norm, and then you don't have to deal with the uprising that change brings later on. To each his own, I'm not judging and certainly wish I had the luxury to be that lax, but we couldn't so we didn't. My first did it all on her own naturally so I didn't even have to worry about it, LOL
here's mine:
I wish my RE's office didn't discharge me at 7w 1 day. My OB appt isn't until week 12 (nurse week 10). I'm not getting another u/s until 4/16 and I WANT ONE NOW. LOL
OMG! My MIL does this to me every Christmas! I know she's never seen me carry a purse she's gotten me because I re-gift them all! LOL. I'm a very low-key purse person, but she apparently doesn't care. One year I got a purse with cats all over it (think old cat lady purse). Another year I got this GINORMOUS pink hobo bag that had gold lamay trim
This year I got a Tommy Hilfiger purse that I could barely fit an envelope in. She also got me a HUGE Longaberger basket purse! After 8 years you'd think she'd get the idea! One year for my birthday she got me all cooking stuff (recipe box, cookbook, utensils, etc...), but I DON'T COOK! Again, after 8 years, shouldn't she know that! I guess that's my vent/confession for the day 