I need to vent!!! (or kill DH)

AngelEyes06 · March 2009

I love my DH so much. He is my best friend and the only man for me. That being said... I'm sick and tired of him lately!!!!!!

He whines all the time like a 5 year old. I seriously feel like I'm raising 2 kids! He gets cranky if he's not in bed by 9:30 every night and he doesn't get up unil 6:45 in the morning~he has to leave for work at 7am! So every morning I have to get up at 5am so that I have time to get ready for work, feed DS and get him ready to go, walk the dog and feed her, and make DH's lunch! He used to get up at 6 and help me with everything but lately he just refuses to get his lazy a@@ out of bed!!

Then last night we were meeting my family for dinner b/c my grandparents just moved down from NY and wanted to see all of us. We had a 6:30 reservation and DH didn't get home from work until 5:30. When he got home I still had to feed DS and give him a bath and pack up his diaper bag and stuff. DH said he was going to take a bath in the jacuzzi tub and I said he didn't have time. The tub takes 20 minutes just to fill up! Well he got all bent out of shape and started saying that I don't care about his needs blah blah blah. We ended up getting into a huge argument and he told me how selfish I am and I don't do anything for him. (I don't even know where he gets off saying that!!!) We ended up being 20 minutes late to dinner and he sat and pouted and barely said a word to anyone the whole time.

It's these things along with tons of other little stuff that just bugs the crap out of me. I have enough to do!! I work 30 hours a week, take care of DS basically by myself and do ALL the housework. I do not have time to take care of my whiny husband!!!!

taylor20204 · March 2009

Oh men, they can be just like children. Here's one place to start, stop making his lunch!! I mean for real?...you're not his mommy!

TRAlbaugh · March 2009

I can definetly see how you can be annoyed by the way he is acting but I am wondering if since you are so busy you are not spending much time with your husband. I was guilty of this for a couple months after DS was born and I felt like I never had enough time to get things done and my relationship with DH suffered b/c it got put on the backburner. I am not trying to flame at all and it may not be the case with you but when I started making time for DH and I things got a lot better. I had to learn that I probably won't get everything done and if a few dishes don't get done or I didn't get all the laundry done it is worth it as long as mom, dad, and baby are all happy.

If you are spending time with him then he really needs to grow up. Maybe you could tell him how you are feeling???

jen_k2 · March 2009

They all have a phase like this.

PPD- post partum dumba$$ness (and yes, dumba$$ness is a word!)

ronnie day · March 2009

You need to sit down and talk with him. You need to find out why all of a sudden he is helpless. And honestly, I would stop doing the housework and making him lunch until he realized that you do do stuff around the house....

kgrl21 · March 2009

I love it when people think that having a baby will improve their marriage. If they only knew huh? I think it would be a good idea to have someone watch DC for a night and you two can have a serious discussion about needs and obligations. I really think that when people get divorced 9 times out of 10 it's because little things that never got addressed just suddenly come to a head and your just done. Hopefully you two can get your issues resolved. GL!

Fordlor · March 2009

Sounds to me like a "come to Jesus" talk is in order. His actions would not fly in my house. Communication is key- talk to him about it.

JaysGrl32903 · March 2009

Sounds like you need to have a good heart-to-heart with him, when things are neutral and you're not in the middle of trying to get out the door or DS is underfoot. It sounds like you're doing an awful lot and he's starting to take that for granted and not even notice it. Hmm

GabbysMama · March 2009

my dh acts just like that sometimes and it makes me so mad. i agree tell him how you are feeling and STOP MAKING HIS LUNCH. i learned from my mom that if you wait on a man hand and foot in the beginning they will expect it forever. my mom was with a man for 20 years and she made him food, brought it to him, got him a drink and when he was done took the dishes back to the sink to wash. all of this without a thank you.

flyingsaucer · March 2009

Maybe he is seeing you as the mommy and not the wife. Start getting out a night or two a week (go to the gym... whatever) and leave him in charge. Also, spend some husband and wife time together. Its easy to get lost in the whole parenting thing... you can forget about romance together

chrisnj0614 · March 2009

kgrl21:
I love it when people think that having a baby will improve their marriage. If they only knew huh? I think it would be a good idea to have someone watch DC for a night and you two can have a serious discussion about needs and obligations. I really think that when people get divorced 9 times out of 10 it's because little things that never got addressed just suddenly come to a head and your just done. Hopefully you two can get your issues resolved. GL!

Ditto

People (including myself) have no idea what a baby does to a marriage. As my hairdresser put it, LOL, if you can survive having a baby, then you can survive anything. Constant communication is KEY.

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