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Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha
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So you're gonna smoke IN the car even though you know I'm pregnant?
Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha
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That's right. I went out with 2 girlfriends on Saturday and as I called shotgun (yeah, we're like that 
), my friend M said "Fine I'll sit in the back, but its hard to smoke back there". I was like "What? You're gonna smoke in the car?". Her reply was "Yeah, E (our other friend, the one who was driving) is, too, but we'll roll the windows down". Then she added "Last time, with so-and-so, we did and she said she didnt smell a thing". Right!
So I did the passive agressive thing and rolled my window almost all the way down (hey its still winter here and temperature must have been in the 20's) to make SURE I wasnt getting any of their smoke, which of course resulted in M freezing her butt off - and finishing up that cigarette wayyyy faster than she normally would have. But E was driving, and didnt realize that M was turning into an ice cube... And of course, I wasnt going to roll the window up until she was done.
I think they got the message though (well, M did for sure and she must have passed it on to E) because on the way back home, they made sure to finish up their cigarette before we got into the car.
I'm glad they finally got the message, but seriously, the fact that I had to ASK them not to smoke, and then that they ignored my request really pissed me off. Next time, I'm taking my own car!
Farewell, nesticle, you will be missed
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Re: So you're gonna smoke IN the car even though you know I'm pregnant?
I would have had a conniption fit.
Don't pull the passive aggressive thing anymore. You need to be AGGRESSIVE.
That's my opinion. If your friends are truly friends, they'll understand the concern.
My friends would never even consider lighting up in my car (this was my friend's car), which is why I prefer when we use it. I seriously hope they dont try and pull another stunt like this again, because I will have a major fit - which they will most likely blame on hormones but I figure theyll understand when they are pg, too...
Here is a list of the chemicals in cigarettes
https://www.smokefreedom.net/articles/ingredients.htm ...
You can't honestly believe that with all of these chemicals that it can't cause damage regardless of the amount of exposure.... She has every right to be mad and they should have known not to smoke around her while she is pregnant...
I've got a worse story....
This weekend I went to a bridal shower for DH's cousin and my MIL insisted I drive with her and SIL, who is also 4 months pregnant. I resisted at first because I knew they are both huge smokers (yep, SIL still smokes 2 packs a day while she's pregnant), but I thought they'd be considerate since I'd be in the car. Well they weren't. In the 3 hours it took to get to and from the shower, they each went through 6 cigarrettes. And when I asked them not to, they said, Oh we'll just crack the window open for you. A lot of good that did. The wind just made the smoke blow right into my face in the back seat. I am still livid with those two and told DH that I will never drive with them ever again!
i'm just saying that if she was that upset that she should be aggressive like bonzai! said. they are her friends and should understand. people who don't have kids don't look at tons of studies about harm to their nonexistent child.
i smoked for the first month of pregnancy before i had any idea. so thanks for the info, but i know the damage it can do.
But I did! And the other friend who said she didnt mind is not pregnant. If I werent pg, I would probably have said that a cracked window is fine, too because if people want to smoke in their car, well, its their car.
ahhhh, i assumed she was pregnant. that changes things
i know a lot of people (sans kids) who know one pregnant lady's wishes and go by that. and then think that all pg women feel the same about everything (caffiene, cold cuts, etc.) which we obviously don't. yeah, they should have gotten your hint then.