It just wasn't meant to be...

Bensbride2006 · March 2009

The past week or so, I've had a really bad feeling about our ultrasound appointment this morning. I was anxious all week and could barely sleep last night. When they doctor told us she was sorry, but the baby didn't have a heartbeat, I was weirdly prepared for the news. We're still really sad and spent most of the morning grieving, but we definitely know it was not anything we did or could have prevented.

She gave us some choices regarding how to handle the miscarriage of letting it happen on it's own, starting a medication to start it or having a D&C. I think we're going to schedule the D&C so we don't have to wait for the process to start and just get it over with.

I took the day off and I think DH and I are going to get our mind of things and get started on planting some flowers in the yard since it's such a beautiful day. Then, I'm going to enjoy a beer with dinner that I've very much missed the past several weeks!

Regarding a D&C what type of recovery is ahead? Our doctor said it'd be in the OR, but out-patient and I assume they'll put me mostly asleep. And how long is it before you can return to work or normal activities?

tarheelbaby08 · March 2009

I'm so sorry to hear your news. Please know you and dh are in my thoughts and prayers

Temp782982187506089 · March 2009

Oh no! I am so sorry ?

My D&C was not too bad, outpatient procedure and you are put to sleep. ?I think the whole process from checking in to getting in the car to go home was about 3 hours or so. ?I was up and about the next day, just crampy and uncomfortable so I took it easy for a few days. Everyone is different with their recoveries, so be sure to give yourself time to heal - both emotionally and physically. ?Let us know if you need anything and again, I am so sorry for what you are going through (((HUGS)))

Evans · March 2009

I am so very sorry about your loss. ?You and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers.

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starz080 · March 2009

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't have any answers on the D&C questions, but I just wanted you to know that you and your DH will be in my thoughts. I hope all goes well and keep us posted. We're here for you!

Jules_NC · March 2009

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. :::Hugs::: It sounds like you're doing a great job of taking care of yourself. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

crescentmoon99 · March 2009

I am so sorry for your loss

VivianLee · March 2009

I just want to tell you that I am so sorry!! Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way.

sophabelle · March 2009

i'm so sorry for your loss :-( you are definitely in my prayers.

Mrs.LLG · March 2009

I'm very sorry for your loss.

raceyrae · March 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss!! {{hugs}}

WendyNC · March 2009

I'm so sorry. I can totally relate. With my very first pregnancy, I just had this sinking feeling that something wasn't right. The news was still hard to face, but I also felt in some weird way that deep down I knew. I was 10 weeks along and only measured 5 w 6 d so I had a D & C two days later. The procedure itself was relatively easy and I didn't have any real pain or discomfort afterward. The emotional part was definitely the hardest. Hugs to you and your DH. If you have any other questions, just let me know.

flamencogal · March 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. ?Please know we will be thinking of you.

akspriss · March 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your DH are in my prayers! Take it easy and we are all here for you.

uncharch7 · March 2009

i'm so sorry

mrsmikey · March 2009

I am SO sorry! You and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers. Sounds like you are doing ok, so just keep taking care of yourself!

Carolina Panther Fan · March 2009

sorry for your loss

MrsJones2005 · March 2009

I'm so sorry! ?I'll be praying for you guys!

AnneNC · March 2009

J, I'm so sorry to hear this as well. : ( I had a similar experience as well --- on my first BFP, our first appt & u/s wasn't until the 10-week mark and when we went, there was no h/b and the baby measured 9 wks 3 days. I, too had a bad feeling before the u/s. Must be mother's intuition.

After we did some further bloodwork to confirm that my hcg levels were dropping, I had the D&C about 5 days after the u/s. I had it on a Friday and was back to work on Monday. I didn't have any complications (physical ones anyway).

The emotional part was a lot harder though.... it was a really tough several weeks for DH & I.....but maybe we are stronger for it in the end.

Sending hugs & support your way!!

802Forever · March 2009

Jenni -

I am so sorry. I know there isn't anything to say. I am glad you are home today and I think having a beer and planting flowers sounds like an excellent idea

Take Care.

Em

lalabee0425 · March 2009

I am so sorry to hear this news. Big hugs to you and lots of prayers. Hang in there.

unc00ref · March 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

SpeedGlenn · March 2009

I am so incredibly sorry Bensbride.

kaysi82 · March 2009

so sorry.
we were very anxious/cautious at our first U/S knowing that you can hear the worst.

tough news.

-jan

sms297 · March 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. Please take some comfort in knowing that we are here for you.

BlairWaldorf · March 2009

I am so, so sorry.

I had a D&E and my physical recovery was much harder than I anticipated & harder than most people experience from what I've heard -- it took me about 8 days to feel okay again. But I promise, you will eventually feel like yourself again, both physically & emotionally.

murph04 · March 2009

I am so sorry about your loss. ::hugs::

lmc0714 · March 2009

I'm so sorry to hear this. You and your DH will be in my thoughts.

nark · March 2009

I'm so sorry

beshan · March 2009

I am so sorry for your loss.

elizabethswan · March 2009

I'm so sorry J

I'll be thinking about you and your hubby

7miles · March 2009

I'm so sorry to hear your news. Hugs to you and your DH. I appreciate that you guys are going to be outside planting in the yard today to help you get your mind off things. That sounds like a beautiful way to spend the day.

mrsbluetoes · March 2009

I am so sorry. I'll keep you and your DH in my thoughts and prayers.

slhall730 · March 2009

I am so sorry for your loss

Mrs_M&M · March 2009

I'm so sorry to hear this - I'll be keeping you and your DH in my thoughts/prayers!!!

marryingacoach · March 2009

I am sorry for your loss.

kateland3 · March 2009

so sorry to hear your news :-( i would probably also opt for the D&C, i think it would be easier than waiting for a natural m/c that may take a loong time. ((hugs)) to you.