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I'm surprised at how many proclomations girls are making so early on here
I'm having natural child birth
I'm not getting an epidural
I'm not having a c section
How do you know all of these things? I'm just wondering. I mean, I fully intended with my son to have natural birth and did all the Bradley class BS and really wanted to go " naturally"
when I got to 42 weeks pregnant with 0 progress, carrying an estimated to be 11 pound baby and my Dr said my best option was C section at that point, those plans went out the window. ( BTW he came out at 10lbs 12ounces and I'm very glad I didn't try to push him out)
I won't make the mistake twice of proclaiming anything in this pregnancy. I think you're setting yourself up for dissapointment if you do. It's one thing to hope, it's another to insist.
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Re: I'm surprised at how many proclomations girls are making so early on here
I love the "I will never let my child sleep in our bed" claims.
I totally see what you are saying. I am deff taking the wait and see approach. I can't make these important choices without knowing all of the facts. You have a good point.
I guess people have ideas in their heads of what they want. If they get it or not... that's a different story tho.
Well.... I won't claim that I won't have a C Section since I can't control that in a TRUE emergency (but I think a lot are done for the hell of it), but I don't see anything wrong w/ claiming I am not having an epidural or that I am having a natural birth. yes, I could change my mind, but I am pretty dead set against it - what is so wrong with that? Having a medicated birth scares me WAY more than a natural birth.
if you don't proclaim anything as you say, I believe you go in to the hospital with the idea that they can do whatever they want to you and however it goes is fine. Maybe for some, but not for me. Unless it's a life or death situation (which an epidural is NOT), I can certainly decide how I want things done.
hilarious, now its more like, how will I sleep with 2 children in my bed. LOL. I heart this post!!
I knew years before I even got pregnant that I would be having a natural birth. I will also not accept an epidural. Although I cannot say for sure I will not have a c-section, the chances are pretty good that I won't because I have had absolutely no problems thus far. So I was one of the girls who proclaimed from the very beginning that I would have a natural unmedicated birth.
If nature takes it course and decides otherwise, well then so be it.
JCM I had the same attitude as you the first time around, and boy did I end up dissapointed.
" I'm not a passenger in my healthcare choices"
and that's fine. But if you're that close minded you're in for a lot of dissapointment if say, you have to be induced and realize you can't handle the contractions and really WANT pain relief but are so hell bent on not getting an epidural that you end up having a really crappy birth experience.
I'm in NO way pro epidural, I'm very much an advocate of the natural childbirth concept, but I'm also an advocate of not being so set in stone over something that in reality, you have very little control over
Like I said, you, apparently, had to have a C Section - obviously that changes things and if I end up that way, sure I'll be disappointed, but I will still have a baby and that's all that matters.
But what's the harm in making my plans? There are plenty of women who give birth and have for YEARS without drugs. I won't accept them and unless something drastic happens in the C section department (I refuse to be induced and believe babies come when they are ready) I see nothing wrong with my choices.
I am having a doula and switching to a midwife to prepare myself for a natural birth and willbe taking tons of classes on it. A medicated, normal hospital birth is just not an option. I don't want that for my birth experience and it has nothing to do w/ pain.
::::::::: shrugs :::::::
Hey, it's your body, mind and choice to do things how you see fit. I know that for my personal experience, at 42 weeks with 0 progress and the size baby I was estimated to be carrying I really didn't think it was in my best interest to " let him come when he was ready"
I wasn't fed any scare tactics, I wasn't bullied, I was sent home to make a decision and I made my choice like you are making yours.
I just think that it hurt me in the long run to be so head strong and anti c section, anti pain meds ( I didn't even take any post op I was so against them)
My pain tolerance is pretty high and i still needed an epi!!
These amaze me...
And what if you need to be induced or given a C-section because the kiddo needs to come out or you can't deliver vaginally.
I bet 95% of those that say that that need pitocin will sing a different tune.
Well, I certainly didn't want one at all. Would someone like to tell that to the 5" incision on my stomach?
Also... 2 words: placenta previa. Or any other potentially life threatening situation or positional problem that would necessitate one.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
I think it's best to just keep an open mind about everything.
I wanted a natural birth with my first...little did I know I would go into labor due to heat stroke (heat wave in Boston) and due to running a fever and vomiting for 5 hours, yeah, I took the epi and was glad I muscled through and delivered vaginally.
I hope to go natural this time, especially since due to my anatomy they had major problems getting the epi in...but it's a hope and I'll just leave it at that.
My child also sleeps with me most mornings still...never thought that would happen.
He also never latched properly because of tongue tie and had some other major medical concerns at birth which lead me to pumping breastmilk for 9 months (still going). NEVER thought I'd have a son who wouldn't nurse.
Oh I could go on...
?I totally said that too! We now co sleep. You're due on DD's BD, which was my due date!?
My new favorite quote is "I was a better Mother before I had a baby"
I think that's so true. We can plan as much as we want, say we're going to do this or that, but really how do we truly know until we're there????
You can be hell bent on a midwife and doula and those contractions start and all you can think of is you want someone who was in med school for years, residency, interning and has all the knowledge for whatever you need.... Because most of us (but I do know there are some 2nd time Moms on here too) have NEVER been through it. So how can you truly say what you want when you have NO idea what labor is like? And this goes both ways... You can plan on having an epidural and then decide against it at the last minute.
My point is, yes of course you can plan all you want. But you won't truly know until you're there.
I think you make a good point. I try to not speak definitively anyways. I HOPE I will be able to breastfeed without problem and I HOPE I can deliver vaginally (WITH epidural
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BTW, congrats to you on delivering a toddler
My mom's 4th baby was, I think, the same weight as your baby and she got the epidural she had planned on not having. You are a champ!
I was JUST discussing this with my DH today. ?I said I didn't want to be one of those 1st time pregnant girls that proclaim exactly how they will give birth and raise the child. ?I could picture women with children rolling their eyes at me behind my back and waiting for me to fail. ?My bff just had a baby and she feels really disappointed because she had a c-section, an epidural and she can't breastfeed.
With that said, I would LIKE to not be induced, I would LIKE to not have an epidural or c-section, I would LIKE to BF, I would LIKE to use cloth diapers, but whatever happens, happens. ?I don't want to beat myself up about things that may be beyond my control.?
I wouldn't say anything definite about the birthing process and what my decisions will be. I have no idea, and I'm totally fine with that. If I need a epi, I'll have one, if I need a c-section (previa still present at 20 week u/s), I'll have one, if I think I want to go natural, I will.
However, when it comes to parenting decisions, I think there are some things I'm pretty positive I won't be doing. IE, those who mentioned co-sleeping, I really see it as a safety issue. I'm not saying I would NEVER co-sleep, but I would definitely never co-sleep in our current bed. If we felt the need to have the baby in bed with us, we'd be getting rid of our bedframe and headboard where baby could easily get lodged, and sleep on a mattress on the floor with guardrails and no blankets. Since this idea is really not appealing to me, its safe to say that co-sleeping is probably not an idea we will be pursuing. The Canadian Pediatric Society, combined with ECE training and working at the Early Years Centre has scared the hell out of me ever doing that.
YES! Haha, I love this quote. I totally feel the same.
. . .What about the meconium? I'm not trying to be objectionable, but at some point if they dont come out on their own, they need to be moved out for their own safety. I'm sure you know that, though. . .
Yes, there's a nestie on here who's baby wasn't "ready" to come til 42 weeks. And he died because of meconium during the birth. I was bawling reading her story. I think about her all the time..... So, so senseless.
That is very sad. There is also the issue of water breaking. Most Dr's will not let you go more than 48 hours from the time it breaks to the time you deliver. There are all sorts of problems that can occur. Even if the water does not break, sometimes the amniotic fluid becomes really low after 41 weeks.
I'm all about waiting for the time to be right, but within reason. I know my Dr. would never push an induction too early, we've had this conversation...but there is a point where that baby needs to come out!
First of all...
Bostonfingerlakes07: The picture of your little one and dog in the backgrond is ADORABLE and everytime I see it, it makes me smile!
Okay as for the post...
I do plan on a natural homebirth. I was born at home, and have been to many births with my mother who is a midwife. I know things can't be planned but I also know that millions of women have done this before. Our bodies are literally made to do this. I have a ton of birthing choices (birth tub, birth stool etc.) and plan to use anything that helps make the experience better. If I have to transfer to the hospital due to medical reason, I have an OB on backup and 2 midwives who have delivered thousands of babies to support me. I think that every woman is different, and that sometimes woman don't give themselves enough credit! I think that woman should also look into stats. of other countries. America carries, over all, the worst statistics for natural childbirth and the highest rates of c-section (and we don't have the lowest mortality rate either). Just something to think about.
I wish everyone a wonderful labor and delivery how ever they choose for it to be or how ever it winds up!!