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so one of my best friends is upset she's having a girl (vent)

almostanOalmostanO member
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It makes me feel really bad.  They just found out yesterday and they were (according to my mom) visibly upset to those congratulating them.

With all of the people that have trouble getting pregnant I am just happy to be having a baby.  It makes me feel terrible that they are upset. Indifferent

I talked to my her last night on the phone and her reaction was,"Well we already have two girls and we wanted to do something different this time."  I was like WTF...those two girls are from your husbands FIRST MARRIAGE...you have never had a baby before...you didn't even meet the step daughters until they were 4 & 6.  They don't live with you and this will be a totally new experience for you.

ok vent over

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Re: so one of my best friends is upset she's having a girl (vent)

  • izzybellaizzybella member
    I admit I was kind of bummed we were having a boy when we first found out, but the idea has "grown" on me ;) She'll be fine in a few weeks. Try not to be too upset with her. Maybe she's nervous about having to raise her own girl!
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  • ExpatFamily06ExpatFamily06
    I can understand to a very short certain limit being 'upset' about getting one sex over another, like having an initial bummer moment, but to be visably upset and to act like it's the end of the world that they are having a girl, damn, that's just wrong
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  • Mrs.PepinMrs.Pepin member

    I know for me, it wouldn't of mattered either way w/ this preg cuz I would have liked to have another girl.  But I know if it hadn't been a boy, DH would have been quite upset.  He said he would have been excited either way, but I know how much he wanted a son.  I know that some ppl show their reactions a lil too much and your friend prolly did but it will just take some time. 

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  • FinallyThatGirlFinallyThatGirl

    Im not going to lie....

    This annoys the crap out of me. I had a friend that was PISSED she was having a boy......She loves him but still isnt over it. Whatever. Im just greatful I have a healthy baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes growing inside of me. Get a grip people!

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  • nuttybunchnuttybunch

    Maybe send her the cutest little girl outfit you can find with a congratulations card. If it has a picture of a cute little baby girl on it, that might help, too.

    DH and I would be thrilled either way (we're on team green), but DH keeps mentioning how he'd be a sucker for our little girl because she would have these cute little brown, curly pigtails on the top of her head.  :)

    If she realizes how cute and fun they can be, maybe she'll think differently.

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  • Mrs.CarlybellaMrs.Carlybella member

    she probably isn't disappointed it is a girl, but temporarily missing all the little boy things she dreamed of doing.  I think when people are upset, it is not because they are upset with what they got, but just had dreams of things to do with a baby that won't happen with that sex.   I know if I never have a daughter, I will be sad I don't get to go prom dress shopping, do spa days, plan a wedding-  but I also know I would love my son(s).

    hopefully it is short lived and I am sure she will be excited soon

    EDD with #4  01-20-14
    Proud mama to a boys-  6/17/09 - a girl 2/23/11- and a boy 8/20/12

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  • almostanOalmostanO member
    imagenuttybunch:

    Maybe send her the cutest little girl outfit you can find with a congratulations card. If it has a picture of a cute little baby girl on it, that might help, too.

    DH and I would be thrilled either way (we're on team green), but DH keeps mentioning how he'd be a sucker for our little girl because she would have these cute little brown, curly pigtails on the top of her head.  :)

    If she realizes how cute and fun they can be, maybe she'll think differently.

    I was going to go this weekend and get a cute outfit this weekend. I will see her soon because I am going to Michigan next weekend for a shower my family is throwing for me.  I thought I would give it to her then.  i am hoping she will be happier about it in 1.5 weeks.
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  • BelleBabyBelleBaby member
    People ask me all the time if I'm upset that I'm not having a girl (we're having twin boys) or if we're going to try for a girl (these 2 aren't even here yet, geez!!!).  After what we went through to get pg at all, I'm just happy they're growing well and hope that they're healthy at birth.  I guess some people just really have a preference and are disappointed when they don't get it.  Hopefully she'll have enough time to warm up to the idea. 
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  • Aprilynn0206Aprilynn0206
    I he has 2 girls.. she's never had any.. I can't help but to wonder if she is genuinely disappointed or if she is b/c he is..? Either way in a few weeks I think she'll accept it.
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