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DNK777
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WDYT: Dad-to-be at baby shower
DNK777
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I'm having an all-female family baby shower on Saturday in my hometown. It's about a 2 hour drive from here (1 hour from the hospital though so I'm still allowed to go). DH has expressed interest in wanting to go. Plus I'm not sure I want to be 2 hours away from him since I'm 3 cm dilated or make the drive myself. DH doesn't know anyone from my hometown that he could hang out with during the shower. Do you think it'd be too weird for him to go?
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Re: WDYT: Dad-to-be at baby shower
Owen Anders: labor (natural onset), failed VBAC, emergency c/s.
i should mention, my shower was in town and i was no where near being dilated at all.
That's why we're doing a coed shower. The guys will hang out playing video games and smoking cigars while they BBQ. The ladies will be inside talking girl! I'm excited to have DH part of it. He was feeling a little left out!?
I would?defiantly?let him be part of it if he wants to. It might be weird, but it is his kid too.?
my DH was going to be at my shower... turned out- only he was at my shower b/c i ended up in the hospital that morning.
i think the dad at the shower is great- it's his baby, too- and if he's OK with being there- good for him!
I'm afraid I'm going to end up going into labor that day. That'd be my luck. My original baby shower was canceled because I was in the hospital for PTL. What's the chance of that happening twice?
Yea- I already told my DH.... Girls only. Sorry, might sound rude, but this is a day for all of the girls to get together and hang out... and it would be awkward, because it would be like I had to play host to him- since there would be so many women around- LoL. I say he can suck it up for a day and let you be with your girls. If he's worried about missing seeing people, then he can come for a little bit at the end, but I would leave it at that...
Just make sure somebody can take you to and from and that he is "on call" in case of emergency...
That's sweet that he wants to go, but I'd say... have him drop you off, and come in with you meet everyone (letting everyone know that he's leaving) tell him to go shopping for an hour, or to goto coffee, or something, then have him come back and be ready to pick you up.
Because, if husbands are alowed, EVERYONES husband should be alowed, not just yours. So, the way I described above would be okay, and you'd get the best of both worlds.
That is why I specifically asked for a co-ed shower. And it was so much fun! Every single girls only shower I've ever been to has been stuffy and boring. I am also in the camp that thinks the dad should be involved in stuff like this - it's his baby too. My husband really enjoyed being part of the shower and opening presents for his girl.?
Plus..... being that far away from home... I wouldn't want to make that drive alone.?
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For most of the showers I've been to, it's generally the norm for the dad-to-be to attend - even if it's a traditional (not couples/coed) women-only shower. At some showers, I've only seen the dad stop in to open a few gifts... at others, he's been present for and involved in the entire shower.
So, I think it's more than appropriate for him to attend - and like you, I wouldn't want to be 2 hours away from him when I'm full term! Whether he "gets involved" with the shower or just socializes, helps open gifts, and carries everything out to the car is up to him/you and his comfort level.