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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
Califlorida
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just did a modified sleep training kind of thing
Califlorida
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and man, did that suck. i need to vent. you don't even need to read, i just have to get it out.
i put her down drowsy but awake. i told myself i'd give her five minutes to fall asleep. well after about 20 seconds she screamed like wolves were picking her bones clean. in about 2 min intervals i would flip her back over onto her back, put her binky back in and say good night. after about 20 minutes she started to calm down but was still on the verge of exploding again. so i knelt by her crib and did some deep breathing (for me) and after about 10 mins she fell asleep.
i just felt like tonight was the night to try something. i got four total non-consecutive hours of sleep last night. she is in our bed half the night and it's gotten to the point where i am not even "allowed" to turn away from her without her getting hysterical. she won't let her dad comfort her. and while all of this is extremely flattering, i feel as if both of us need more quality sleep.
so that's my justification for trying to get her to learn to soothe herself to sleep. of course right now i just feel like a big a-hole traitor. if you've read this far then feel free to judge.
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Re: just did a modified sleep training kind of thing
You're not an a-hole traitor, you're teaching her how to sleep:o)
It sounds like it went well--good job momma!
It's so hard, but you are right you both deserve better quality sleep. ?I would say it's a good thing you started now, but the key will be to stick with it. ?We only co-slept for about 10 days when she turned 6 months, she went though a phase but even after just 10 days it was hard to get her back in her bed.
Even if she ends up in your bed at sometime tonight, I would suggest that at least start her out in her bed every night. ?That's what we did and she now stays in her bed through the night.
Best of luck?
ok, so i have a follow up question for you very supportive(THANKYOU!) gals,
what do i do when she wakes up at midnight? normally she wakes up at midnight and i feed her and bring her into my bed. then she wakes at 4 and i feed her.
do i stick with that old system or do i try to do this again?
I would say whatever feels right to you.
I am a cold turkey kind of girl. When I do something, it's all the way:o) So-I would try it each time, but if it gets to be too much and you think things are becoming counterproductive then just try again the next night.
Oh, and definitely feed her for tonight--but don't bring her into bed. When you decide to cut out a feeding, cut out the 4am one first.
ladies - thanks. can you tell i am totally winging this? i am just so exhausted from lack of sleep. i actually caught myself trying to walk and sleep this morning when i was running errands. that is a problem!
so i got some game day advice from my sister. she's cold turkey too. so i will feed her when she wakes and put her back in her crib.
it's so crazy sitting there trying to will your child to sleep. like wishing she could pick up my mental telepathy telling her that this would be sooooo much easier for both of us if she slept.
I would feed her and lay her back down and just see how it goes. ?Maybe give the paci back at 5 minute intervals or an interval that you are comfortable with and then pick a time lenght to just get her and put her in bed with you. ?Give it like 30 minutes or something, however in the middle of the night 30 minutes is a lifetime. ?
For us, this only took about 3 or 4 nights and it was pretty smooth sailing. ?We still have some tough nights and we deal, but overall we are all sleeping in our own beds.?
The first couple nights were strange with night wakings for us. The first night he would wake up pissed, I'd nurse him and put him back down and go in at intervals just like at bedtime. I'd also wait until he started actually crying before picking him up so he'd have a chance to put himself back go sleep. After the first night, he stopped waking up so angry and so often. We started having my DH go in and put him back down and only nursed if that didn't work for thirty minutes. After the first week or so he slept through the night (until 5am when he'll nurse). I set limits for when he can come into our bed. At first it was 3 am, second week it was 4, then 5. Now he usually will stay asleep until around 6:30 since the room is lit but then.
I want to warn you that tomorrow might be a little worse (the 2nd and 3rd nights were the worse) but by the second week it's SO incredibly easy. We were in the exact same sleeping situation and now I go through our night ritual, put him in his crib and I don't hear a peep. We're all much happier.