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I'm seriously going to stop sending gifts!
DH's nephew is 19 and his gf is pregnant and due April 3 with a little boy. For Christmas, we no longer grouped him with the other "children" (neices and nephews) and instead of getting HIM (and her) a gift, we bought a few things for the baby. NEVER got a thanks... I wouldn't expect a thank you note for Christmas, but when they talked to us Christmas morning or on New Year's, a little "hey, thanks for the gifts" would have been classy. And get this? They said it was "stupid" (I was sitting next to them, heard it!) that we got gifts for the baby that wasn't here yet and not them!
Now... there was a shower a couple of weeks ago. I was only given about a week's notice for the shower and since they live 4 hours away, I didn't have time to make plans to go. I checked both registries and had a very hard time finding anything in my price range that I could easily ship (WalMart and Target here NEVER have anything in stock in the damned baby dept). So... I went to Books A Million and bought a TON (I think 10?) of baby books... as many as I could fit into a flat rate box. Mailed it. Got a call from SIL that the package had been received. Funny how two weeks later, I STILL haven't heard from the nephew or the gf. They really effing irritate me. I'm seriously considering taking them OFF of gift buying lists from now on if I never hear a peep of a thank you.
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Re: I'm seriously going to stop sending gifts!
I did tell my family not to get me any baby stuff for Christmas, but I would have gladly accepted and been gracious about anything they had given me if it was for the baby. It was just too early at the time.
I hate when people don't send thank you cards for stuff like that. I spent HOURS knitting this beautiful baby sweater for a friend (who I am not that close to anymore) and got a quick email back after I dropped it off (wrapped so it's not like she saw it w/ me there). I was kind of hurt that I put so much time and effort into it and got an email that said "thanks for the sweater" basically, but eh...
However, if it's only been 2 weeks since the shower...I think you could give her more time.
I don't actually think she'll send a thank you, so I was thinking a phone call or E-mail would have been received by now. Maybe I am wrong and I'll get a note next week... but I really doubt it. This chick is SUCH a biitch. (She told the nephew that he has to get a vasectomy once the baby is born "so this doesn't happen again" since she didn't want kids. Um... if you don't want kids that's YOUR problem too... so maybe SOME kind of BC would help you BOTH out in the future... No one should be asked to get a V at 19!)
oh yeah, I hear ya! I don't think you'll hear anything either...she sounds like a real piece of work. Why is it always the people who DON'T want kids that can get pregnant so easily. UGH!
Anyway, I was just pointing on, in general, 2 weeks isn't that long to not receive a thank you not from a big event like a shower.
But it doesn't sound like this is your case, unfortunately.
I'd def. stop sending gifts. I did that with my SIL. When she had her first baby (by accident w/ her boyfriend) I shopped like crazy and sent her a bunch of cute stuff. Got nothing. For the Christening I also brought a gift. Again, nothing. For our wedding 2 years later she didn't even get us so much as a card!!! So when her 2nd son (another accident) was born last year, I didn't even acknowledge it.
This sounds exactly like one of DH's cousins. We got her baby shower gifts, wedding gifts, Christmas gifts, ect. Never once got a thank you or any thing in return. (I know that times can be tough and not everyone has money to buy gifts, but all I would have liked is a card when we got married or even a verbal "thank you".)
We've stopped buying her and her family anything. It might sound petty but I'm tired of having a one-direction relationship with them.
I cried when I found out they were pregnant. Multiple times. I have a friend that was going through infertility issues (found out she was pg a week later!) and I knew how much it bothered me that DH and I wanted kids SOOO badly and were waiting until we were in the right place to provide the best life for a child (DH needed to be selected for promotion and I needed to be within graduating distance... finally). The whole situation makes me angry... And now of course SIL keeps saying, "Just think- if you have a boy, you won't need to buy any clothes! You can have Kolten's handmedowns." Yes... that's what I want. ALL of his clothes from a house that STILL smokes... where can I sign up?
Not getting a thank you is my biggest pet peeve! I know not everyone gives thank you notes, but atleast give a simple phone call to say "Hey Thanks for thinking of the us and the baby". However, I think that age and immaturity has a lot to do with it. DH has a cousin like that and I did stop doing gifts but she is in her 30's, not 19.
This is such a huge pet peeve of mine! Growing up I was taught to always send thank you cards. My children are taught the same and I always help them get a thank you in the mail within a week.