ways not to react to a pregnancy announcement.

notelizabeth · March 2009

(sort of a f/u to my previous post this morning. not that any of you ladies need to know these things, but just to vent.)

try not to sound disappointed.

don't ask "did you think about not keeping it?" if i wasn't going to have it, i wouldn't be telling you about it. but thanks for pointing out my options.

don't ask why/how this happened. come on now, do you really need a biology lesson? do you really want to know what happens in my bedroom? should i have announced it to the world that DH & i were contemplating kids? my marriage = my beeswax.

don't lecture on responsibility, timing, sensibility, etc.

don't get your panties all in a twist that you're not THE first person to know. technically I was the first. DH the 2nd. dr the 3rd. and so on. does that really matter? just be glad you know, b/c i was seriously thinking i shouldn't have told anyone after the aforementioned reactions.

kids are hard enough, why make it harder for someone? vent over. thanks.

Michelle110 · March 2009

Maybe you can add what my grandma said to me, kind tactful person that she is: "Well, you just lost all the weight from having Ellie, so why would you want to go have another baby again so soon?" followed by "The two babies are going to be too close together - wouldn't you want them farther apart?" (says the woman whose own kids are 20 months apart - DD and this baby will be 21 months apart). Thanks, grandma.

4realyo · March 2009

im also not a huge fan of the "was it planned?!" comment.

StellaLulu · March 2009

Grandmas are great. Mine said "But you told me you couldn't get pregnant for TWO YEARS in your new job!" (I will have ben at this job for one year in June) When I said that no, I hadn't said that. She said 'Well I'm not crazy, I didn't just make that up."

Ummmm. Yes you did. Thanks.

hsm · March 2009

4realyo:
im also not a huge fan of the "was it planned?!" comment.

I am amazed by the number of people who have asked me this. I don't understand it at all! I can't imagine asking anyone this even if I did wonder.

meghankraft · March 2009

I am so glad someone posted this! I havent told my MIL yet and she has no brain to mouth connection so everything is rude when it comes out. So I can just imagine what she will say! So this helps!

wm1023 · March 2009

When I told my mom I was pregnant four years ago with my daughter she said "I hope you have a nice life" and hung up the phone. Nice

cbjpl31 · March 2009

wm1023:
When I told my mom I was pregnant four years ago with my daughter she said "I hope you have a nice life" and hung up the phone. Nice

Oh my! That has to be the worst I've ever heard. I she realized how awful she was and you guys have patched things up since then. If not, I suppose it's best that she's not around to be so mean.

LizBusch · March 2009

4realyo:
im also not a huge fan of the "was it planned?!" comment.

this.

Kristin131 · March 2009

we will probably be telling our families this weekend, pending our dr appt on Wed. I can't wait to hear DH's grandma's response....she's crazy. His brother just got married at a JOP last week and while waiting in the room she said "this feels like we're waiting for an execution". So I'm thrilled to hear her response to this news lol!

wildride · March 2009

My fav was "well, my sister had 2 miscarriages before she had a healthy baby, so don't worry if something happens".

?!?

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