Will You Spank Your LO'S ???

rara855 · March 2009

NFT. and go...

Erin Mary Ackerman · March 2009

no. We save spanking for the bedroom.

Fordlor · March 2009

I don't think so. I think we'll try other disciplinary techniques. That said, my parents did spank us when I was growing up- but it was only a handful of times and they always gave us time to put our hands on our butts to deflect most of it. It was more of a scare tactic than anything else.

caroline:) · March 2009

Oh, geez! I just finished reading all of that crap! Umm, probably not. I can't say 100% because I can't forsee any event that would warrant it, but maybe at some future date.

ftnups · March 2009

If "loved one" includes my husband, then yes. haha

But no. We won't be spanking our children.

rara855 · March 2009

BrahimBride:
no.? We save spanking for the bedroom.

?

So thats why your babies are so cute. ?;)?

Tess12 · March 2009

Only if I want my husband to divorce me.

Mrs.McLovin · March 2009

Last resort.

Ash123 · March 2009

I'll be the first one... Yes we probably will. Not all the time, nor without trying other things first, but I see no problem with spanking. There is a huge difference between spanking and beating, which sometimes people fail to understand.

Brookie-Cookie · March 2009

I would like to say no. I know it wont be the first choice when the need to punish comes up. We were just discussing this at dinner the other night. My Mom that spanking/hitting kids is a sign of no imagination in the parents. She said she would much rather make a kid vaccuum, match socks, turn the compost pile, paint a fence, shovel the driveway (ours and our neighbours) than just smack them.

southernbelle82 · March 2009

Ash123:
I'll be the first one... Yes we probably will. Not all the time, nor without trying other things first, but I see no problem with spanking. There is a huge difference between spanking and beating, which sometimes people fail to understand.

ditto

rissa_n · March 2009

BrahimBride:
no. We save spanking for the bedroom.

LOL!!

No spanking here, for children or adults.

ibfloridagirl · March 2009

i really think it depends on the child and at this point ike is too young for anything even remotely near needing discipline (sp?). DH and i are both okay with spanking but it's way too early to know if that will be a form of punishment that will work with ike.

rara855 · March 2009

I was spanked as a child, not beat. So I do think if the situation comes up we will spank. Not a first option and i hope it never happens but, I'm not opposed to spanking.

southernbelle82 · March 2009

Brookie-Cookie:
My Mom that spanking/hitting kids is a sign of no imagination in the parents. She said she would much rather make a kid vaccuum, match socks, turn the compost pile, paint a fence, shovel the driveway (ours and our neighbours) then just smack them.

this is great! I especially love the 'matching the socks' punishment.

::tucks away in memory as form of future punishment::

faBriezy · March 2009

No, but I don't judge those that do. I wasn't brought up with spanking and neither was my DH and it doesn't feel right to us. We'll come up with other ways to discipline.

rissa_n · March 2009

Brookie-Cookie:
I would like to say no. I know it wont be the first choice when the need to punish comes up. We were just discussing this at dinner the other night. My Mom that spanking/hitting kids is a sign of no imagination in the parents. She said she would much rather make a kid vaccuum, match socks, turn the compost pile, paint a fence, shovel the driveway (ours and our neighbours) then just smack them.

Yes I like these ideas!

jlb7640 · March 2009

A friend of mine has her kids do "community service". Her son has to go pick up trash in the park across the street from their house.

Of course, this is too old for spanking, but her thirteen year-old got caught smoking cigarettes at school. She now has to volunteer at a home for people dying from lung cancer.

goodtobethelarkster · March 2009

For me this is one of those "my experience was so negative that..." things. I was spanked. And my grandmother "whopped" us with a wooden spoon. And, for me, it was awful. Really, really awful. And while he will never say it, I think it was awful for my brother too.

So, no. We will not spank. We will not use corporal punishment ever. I believe it is possible to discipline a child without physically hurting them.

I'm not one to say "Spanking is child abuse!!!!" and go BSC over the issue. But, no. I will never spank. I will never hit. It's just something I don't believe was right and was perhaps even detrimental for me and, given that my daughter and future children are in a sense a part me, I will not do that to them. I would worry that they would find it to be as disturbing as I did.

madison · March 2009

No. With my older son we do "time outs" (highly recommend 1-2-3 Magic). With bigger offenses he has to take the time out in his room, instead of just sitting on the steps. We've also taken away privledges - like not being able to have a friend over or making certain favorite toys off-limits for the remainder of the day. We reward good behavior with a star - and every three stars equals a fruit rollup.

*Bre* · March 2009

BrahimBride:
no. We save spanking for the bedroom.

Yep.

Crissyjo30 · March 2009

I was spanked on RARE occasions...in fact, I can remember them all. I don't really think it did much, it was just the threat of it being there that scared me. That being said, I will not spank my children. I had soap for dessert probably once a week, and my Mom busted out the Tabasco ONCE. That was bad. But it also changed my behavior - all she had to do was start walking toward the cabinet and I was an angel. I guess that is along the same lines as spanking, but maybe a little easier to take? I will SO be using that as she gets older.

cops_wife · March 2009

No. My dad spanked (not beat) me, and I remember being TERRIFIED of him. I vividly remember running to my room and hiding from him sobbing knowing I was going to get spanked. I do not, however, remember what I did wrong to warrant said spankings or it ever deterring me from doing whatever it was I wasn't supposed to do. So I don't believe it was particularly effective. And I never want my children to be terrified of me like that. Not a great memory to have of your parent.

Plus, in my experience, most parents turn to spanking when they're at the end of their rope and really losing their temper, which is exactly when you don't want to spank your kid, because that's when you're most likely to lose control. Plus, we're not going to teach our kids that violence is OK ever. If it's illegal to do to another adult, it's not acceptable to do to your child.

ibfloridagirl · March 2009

madison:
No. With my older son we do "time outs" (highly recommend 1-2-3 Magic). With bigger offenses he has to take the time out in his room, instead of just sitting on the steps. We've also taken away privledges - like not being able to have a friend over or making certain favorite toys off-limits for the remainder of the day. We reward good behavior with a star - and every three stars equals a fruit rollup.

Not saying what you are doing is wrong because you're the parent, but why reward for good behavior? Shouldn't being good be the norm and not only done because they get a treat?

annabelle.27 · March 2009

No. Never.

Crissyjo30 · March 2009

ibfloridagirl:

madison:
No. With my older son we do "time outs" (highly recommend 1-2-3 Magic). With bigger offenses he has to take the time out in his room, instead of just sitting on the steps. We've also taken away privledges - like not being able to have a friend over or making certain favorite toys off-limits for the remainder of the day. We reward good behavior with a star - and every three stars equals a fruit rollup.

Not saying what you are doing is wrong because you're the parent, but why reward for good behavior? Shouldn't being good be the norm and not only done because they get a treat?

I totally agree. Plus, in a soceity where obesity is a huge epidemic...why reward with food, especially something as nutrition-less as a fruit roll-up? I think it creates an unhealthy relationship

lishalou · March 2009

me too! I will have to remember that!

Shimmy · March 2009

Brookie-Cookie:
My Mom that spanking/hitting kids is a sign of no imagination in the parents. She said she would much rather make a kid vaccuum, match socks, turn the compost pile, paint a fence, shovel the driveway (ours and our neighbours) than just smack them.

Uh, do we have the same mother??? This sounds exactly like our punishments growing up! My mom was spanked so much as a child that it lost all its effectiveness so she was a little more creative with her kids. DH and I won't spank either.

HisWifeHerMom · March 2009

Ash123:
I'll be the first one... Yes we probably will. Not all the time, nor without trying other things first, but I see no problem with spanking. There is a huge difference between spanking and beating, which sometimes people fail to understand.

This. When DD was a baby, I swore I would never spank her. I mean, how could you think of doing such to a sweet baby girl such as her. But, since she came into the Terrible Threes and became a very stubborn sassy pants who loves to try us, I had to rethink things a bit. She only gets spankings when all other alternatives have been exhausted, Ex: taking away toys, time outs, etc. She doesn't get spankings often but sometimes it is needed. She is always told why she got one and she can tell us why she got one. And she still knows Mommy and Daddy love her.

JulyFiveBride · March 2009

No way in hell. My childhood punishments started with spanking when I was little (and in what most pro-spanking parents would say is an "acceptable" way) and by the time I was in high school, I'd come out of a 'punishment' bleeding. I know how gradual that slide can be and I won't even begin to go there with my children and neither will my husband if he wants to be around them.

funchicken · March 2009

Definitely not.

TakYelgif · March 2009

no

IckyThump · March 2009

I don't think so, but I also can't see the future and know what types of discipline will be effective for DS. It would definitely be a last resort.

femmeftle9 · March 2009

No. I don't want her to think that hitting is an acceptable way to resolve an issue.

That being said, I don't know how I will handle her 2 years from now. But I do know I will exhaust every other alternative.

eowynmn · March 2009

I don't plan to hit my child. I don't think it solves probelms at 10 months, 10 years or anywhere in between. I think anyone who plans to hit their kids is a little BSC.

mikey&amie · March 2009

BrahimBride:
no. We save spanking for the bedroom.

LOL. Ditton this

Amrice78 · March 2009

southernbelle82:
Ash123:
I'll be the first one... Yes we probably will. Not all the time, nor without trying other things first, but I see no problem with ing. There is a huge difference between ing and beating, which sometimes people fail to understand.
ditto

Our philosophy as well.

punkfiction · March 2009

HisWifeHerMom:
Ash123:
I'll be the first one... Yes we probably will. Not all the time, nor without trying other things first, but I see no problem with spanking. There is a huge difference between spanking and beating, which sometimes people fail to understand.

This. When DD was a baby, I swore I would never spank her. I mean, how could you think of doing such to a sweet baby girl such as her. But, since she came into the Terrible Threes and became a very stubborn sassy pants who loves to try us, I had to rethink things a bit. She only gets spankings when all other alternatives have been exhausted, Ex: taking away toys, time outs, etc. She doesn't get spankings often but sometimes it is needed. She is always told why she got one and she can tell us why she got one. And she still knows Mommy and Daddy love her.

your post made me literally sick to my stomach. you are a lazy lazy cvnt of a mother.

CFO · March 2009

Only in extreme circumstances. My dad had a helluva temper and I would be mortified of him...but it also got his message across. I would only use it if her health/safety were threatened and I had to make a point. Even then, it would not be a hard spanking but more if a stern talking to w/ a swat on the clothed tush.

eowynmn · March 2009

Oh and there's not really a HUGE difference between spanking and beating. spanking is beating.

one is to slap on buttocks for punishment, the other is to strike violently or forecefully. Not too much difference. I definitely wouldn't classify the difference as 'huge.'

Amrice78 · March 2009

eowynmn:
Oh and there's not really a HUGE difference between ing and beating. ing is beating.
one is to slap on buttocks for punishment, the other is to strike violently or forecefully. Not too much difference. I definitely wouldn't classify the difference as 'huge.'

Being on the receiving side of both, I have to disagree with you. There is a major difference.

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