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maybe this CIO thing isn't so bad ?

Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

I have been an adament No CIOer.  Today, I may be converted.  River wouldn't nap.  Wouldn't.  Just cried and whined and wanted to be latched to the boob non stop. 

I know he wasn't hungry, I gave him some water so I know he wasn't thirsty.  Clean diaper, comfy clothes, not too hot nor too cold, gave him a teether (didn't want it)  etc etc.  After close to 3 hours of us going from the glider, the rocking chair, my bed, his crib, walking, dancing, exersaucer etc and still no closer to napping and he was getting more and more whiny and tired I was getting more frustrated. I put him in his crib, turned off the lights, kissed his forehead and walked away.  He kept fussing and crying but all of a sudden...silence.  sweet sweet silence.  I looked in and he's lying there fast asleep.  I think it was about 8 minutes total of whining and tears.

Napping in his crib is also a big advancement for us too.  I'm not sure how I feel about this but today it just seemed like the only option.  It gets easier?

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  • JuneMommy2BJuneMommy2B
    Yes, it gets much easier.  In the beginning, DD would cry for 15-20 minutes for naps, but then sleep for 45 mins or so.  That was a major improvement over no naps, or napping on me for 30 mins.  Then she went to crying for 10-15 mins, sleeping for an hour.  Now, she cries for less than a minute and usually sleeps 2 hrs for her morning nap, and 1 to 1.5 hours for her afternoon nap.  I hate CIO, but it worked for us when nothing else did. 
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  • papagenapapagena member
    That's kind of how we got to the CIO point.  It was 3 am, and nothing we were doing was working - he'd been fed, changed, rocked, swaddled, etc (obviously, we weren't going to let him play).  Finally, we kissed him, said goodnight and walked out of the room. We kept checking on him, but he went to sleep in less time than we had already spent with him crying in our arms.  I think DS is at a stage where he has to participate in calming himself in order to get himself to sleep, and if he relies too much on us, it just doesn't happen.
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  • blackphoenixblackphoenix
    I refused to do CIO at first after being on these boards.  I mean, I must be a horrible mother for ever considering it, no?  But we had a very similar situation as you, where nothing would make DS happy. . .nothing.  So I did it, I laid him in his crib and then walked out of the room.  He fussed for a few minutes, nothing horrible, and then went right to sleep.  I am convinced that there are just times where they need to do it, they need to cry.  I'm not talking screaming their heads off and I'm not talking about walking out of the room and then curling up to a good book and completely ignoring your kid.  But there just are times where the only thing that calms them down, is letting them self soothe.
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  • PookiesMommyPookiesMommy
    I had to do this last night with DD... she has been waking up at night again (STTN since 3 months) and I've been bringing her to our bed. It's become a habit and last night I let her cry/fuss for about 6 min (after I picked her up and changed her diaper) and then she stopped. I could tell she was awake for a little while and then after about 10 min she was alsleep! It was a long 6 min but it worked. GL to you... I know the napping in the crib thing is tough. DD won't do it on the weekends.
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  • IckyThumpIckyThump
    It gets sooo much better. DS has never cried for longer than 30 minutes (with check ins from us), but we're now at the point where he will go down for a morning and afternoon nap without a peep, and ditto for nighttime. Six weeks ago this child needed a bottle in his mouth in order to fall asleep at night and would only nap in his car seat after a 30 minute drive. Life is so much easier and more pleasant now!
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  • Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie
    thanks for the solidarity!
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  • ougrad1ougrad1 member

    I didn't let Emerson CIO until she was almost 10 months and honestly.  She stops whining as soon as I'm out the door and she can't see me any longer.  I wouldn't let a little one CIO but, there is a time and place for everything, kwim?

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  • estherandgeoff2estherandgeoff2

    I wasn't a fan of CIO but have noticed that DD will cry / fuss / scream when I put her in her crib sometimes and she'll continue as long as I stay. I walk away, close the door and she is quiet and asleep by the time I'm at the bottom of the stairs. BTW, this is only when she truly is tired and not hungry and sit is obvious that she is fighting sleep.

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  • Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie
    oh, he's awake already and still as whiny and fussy.  :(
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  • popmavepopmave

    At our 9 mos well check up the pedi says it's very important they learn to soothe themselves to sleep. If not they will always need you to go to sleep (naps and waking up in the night) I knew all this but hated to let LO cry, it just seemed eaiser to let him fall asleep, quietly and peacefully in my arms  well we started CIO method,I learned if we waited to just the right time,  DS would be so tired the crying would be minimal. I think if you try to put your LO to bed when he/she is clearly not tired, you're wasting your time and you'll need the ear plugs. 

     

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  • wearewineloverswearewinelovers

    We use a type of CIO - we make sure Raegan has a clean diaper and is fed before we put her down.  We let her cry for approx 10 minutes and if she isn't asleep after that we listen a little harder to see if it is her "I dont want to be alone" cry or if it is her "I'm really in need-come get me" cry.  They are distinctly different. 

    If she wakes up during the night we use the same thing - is she screaming or just whining.  If she just wimpers/whines a bit we let her be.  If she is screaming or crying more than 10 minutes we get up to check her.

    She has been doing great with this method.  Also, the crib is the only place she naps.  It does get easier :-)

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  • faBriezyfaBriezy member

    imageBrookie-Cookie:
    oh, he's awake already and still as whiny and fussy.  :(

    We just started doing CIO for naps and the first 2 days he only napped for 20 minutes, day 3 he napped for 30 minutes, and today is day 4 and he napped for 1 hour this morning. So I think that gets better. I am a convert too (see my post below). It is so nice FINALLY being able to just put my DS in his crib and walk out of the room.

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