Why aren't you or won't you be a stay at home mom?

rbidi · March 2009

Is it mainly because of finances or are there other reasons? I personally can't afford to, but also I'm not sure if there would be enough to hold my attention on a daily basis. Work barely holds my attention all day. That's just me. You?

DAuger · March 2009

If we could afford it, I would do it in a heartbeat. I dream about it all the time. I would LOVE to be a sahm.

sherron83 · March 2009

We couldn't survive on one income. I choose not to stay home - I would go nuts.
Working helps me feel like I contribute to our home.

ChelleM · March 2009

I would absolutely love to stay home FT but we can't afford it. I wonder too though if I would get completely stir crazy so if it were an option I'd be sure to get involved outside of the house in groups/hobbies and so on.

djdavis · March 2009

We definitely need my income right now! I am also setting up to go back to school in the nearish future and then I will be home part-time.

Abbysmommy0518 · March 2009

Financially we could survive with just DH's income, however I don't want to just "survive". And I enjoy going to work, and what I do. I also like to feel like I am contributing and don't have to rely on DH for money. That's just how I feel. I'm not saying it's the right way to be or the only way to be. It's just me. But I think it's going to break my heart leaving our little girl at the sitter the first day back to work.

jenella17 · March 2009

DAuger:
If we could afford it, I would do it in a heartbeat. I dream about it all the time. I would LOVE to be a sahm.

This exactly.

taschon · March 2009

wish I could...money is way to tight

queenjohnston · March 2009

We plan on me staying at home for most of the week, with a couple sub days in there for extra income.

I have lots of crafty stuff I want to do, and I always have little mini projects to get done.

Aug Bride · March 2009

I am not able to do it because of finances. I would like to be a Sahm, if I get this promotion, DH will be a SAHD.

mariRose · March 2009

Financially I can't be a SAHM. Even if I could, though, I think I'd still want to work. I invested a lot of time and money into getting my JD and I'm not ready to walk away from my career for an extended period after only 4 years. Ideally, I'd love to be able to work part time.

lglastorl · March 2009

ChelleM:
I would absolutely love to stay home FT but we can't afford it. I wonder too though if I would get completely stir crazy so if it were an option I'd be sure to get involved outside of the house in groups/hobbies and so on.

lglastorl · March 2009

ChelleM:
I would absolutely love to stay home FT but we can't afford it. I wonder too though if I would get completely stir crazy so if it were an option I'd be sure to get involved outside of the house in groups/hobbies and so on.

lglastorl · March 2009

ChelleM:
I would absolutely love to stay home FT but we can't afford it. I wonder too though if I would get completely stir crazy so if it were an option I'd be sure to get involved outside of the house in groups/hobbies and so on.

Ditto that.

Steffsjet · March 2009

I am so glad I am not the only one who dreams about being a SAHM but just can't do it because of finances. I sit at my job most days wishing to win the lottery just to stay at home. To be honest, it amazes me that I say that since I spent so long being so driven in my career. They don't lie when they say a baby changes everything!

Ludenbelle · March 2009

We can't afford it right now plus I am scared with the economy relying on one income. But even though it sounds great, I think eventually I would go crazy and miss my regular adult escape into the work force.

luna62 · March 2009

Not a SAHM for a couple of reasons - (1) $$ and student loans (2) I'm concerned that if I take too much time away from my career, I will be behind the 8 ball and unable to advance, (3) if anything were ever to happen where I were left without DH - I would want to have an income.

leannerae · March 2009

I am dropping down to part time once she arrives. I think that a few days out of the house each week will be good for me. I would like to be home with her for the most part to do play dates and end just enjoy watching her grow. We need me to make a little income just to give us a buffer zone from scraping by.

vhab · March 2009

In an ideal world, I would like to work 20-25 hours a week, and SAH the rest of the time. In the real world, I like my car and house, and in order to keep both, I need to work full time. Not to mention, that daycare is full time, and when new baby comes, will be about half of what I make, so I would essentially be working to pay for daycare if I worked part time.

I think once student loans and car is paid off, DS should be about ready for kindergarten, so I will most likely drop to part time when the kids are in school.

JamieNIan · March 2009

I would LOVE to stay home and be the main person to raise my baby. I got to stay home with DS for 2 years before going back to work. With this one, I am the major money maker. I also have the insurance, so my working is important.

lindseyMc · March 2009

I would love to be a F/T SAHM but we can't afford it right now. So after 6 weeks maternity leave i'll return to work PT. Luckily, DH works from home and doesn't have a very intense job so he'll be able to take care of LO when i'm away for those 20 hrs. I'm totally jealous of this since i can't work from home most of the time

MegDC · March 2009

I am lucky to have a flexible work situation. ?But I could not give up working entirely. I love my work and I love being able to interact socially with adults. ?Being a SAHM is just not for me.

sls2063 · March 2009

We could not afford for me to be a SAHM. I also genuinely like my job and it would be very hard to get back into the field I am in later.

Aprilynn0206 · March 2009

I can't afford to be one- otherwise I'd do it in a heartbeat!!

cathy_and_matt · March 2009

Mostly finances, I make more than DH. But I don't know that I would want to be a full-time SAHM. Maybe I'd change my mind after I actually have the little guy, but I think ideally I would work less hours, like maybe 3 days a week.

I also wouldn't want to be a SAHM once my kids were school-aged, but then I'd be worried about how to re-enter the workforce after being out of it for 5-plus years.

F&G777 · March 2009

I don't think I could be a stay at home mom - I would get to antsy (just my personality) - thankfully our daughter won't have to go to daycare - I have so many friends that left their job & stayed home with their children & it's taken such a toll on them emotionally & mentally - to each it's own I guess but I don't think it's for me....I may change my mind once the baby comes...we'll see.

ACMCheer@aol.com · March 2009

I just don't make enough money to cover child care, so I WILL be SAH. I think we figured out we would actually be LOSING money if I went back to work. I am extremely nervous to be home all day and wonder if I will get sucked into "extreme overprotective mommy world", but DH has every other Friday off and plans to kick me out of the house so I can have some adult/alone time.

2bejunebride06 · March 2009

sherron83:
We couldn't survive on one income. I choose not to stay home - I would go nuts.
Working helps me feel like I contribute to our home.

Ditto this.

CantWaitforBaby · March 2009

I'm going to work part time after a few months of being home...I have the option of staying home, but I think the little extra income of working 15 hrs/week will be good for spending money that we wouldn't have if I were home...also 0-6 gave me good advice on this subject and going back to work part time is a good balance of time with DC and interaction with adults.

Fish4Fun · March 2009

DH called dibs on being a SAHP first, so even if things become financially feasible, I'm out of luck. Sad

Stick out tongue Mainly, I find it hard to leave my job because of the benefits. Free full-coverage family health insurance and a pension plan that allows me to retire in 25 years of service regardless of age. Plus, the hours are really flexible. Ack, it's hard to complain too much about that.

jen_and_scott · March 2009

If DH gets laid off between baby's birth and the 12 weeks I have off of work (which is very much a possibility), I will be going back, because we need income. If not, I will be staying home.

KimmyB111304 · March 2009

We need my income, but even if we didn't, I wouldn't want to be a SAHM...at least not full-time. I need adult interaction. I think it's great for people who want to do it, but I know I am not one of those people.

njkitty · March 2009

i make about 50% more money than DH.

and i'm a slob-ola according to him. we are in complete role reversal

KYRN · March 2009

I used to think that I would have no problem being a SAHM. But I think my perfect world would be to work 3 days a week instead of M-F 8-5. We could probably cut some costs and survive on DH's income right now, without a doubt in the next few years but I kind of like to work.

I got offered a new job for after I have the baby and they want me to start out part-time and work up to full-time. I said I would b/c it is very nearly my dream job, hopefully by the time I have another kid I can work my way back down to 3 or 3.5 days a week

mrsrandalltobe · March 2009

I am going to be a SAHM and am planning to join these SAHM groups that they have on meetup.com. It's a nice way to get out of the house w/ the baby and meet other SAHMs in your area.

jenber77 · March 2009

I'm not totally sure what I'm going to do, but at this point I do think I would love to be a SAHM and I wouldn't be missing anything about my sad little "career." I don't love my job, and I don't get any social benefit from it. I have no idea what I would actually LIKE to do.

We can't live off DH's salary alone, though, so I will have to do something to bring in some income. Lucky for me, I have a year to figure it out (thank you, Canadian mat/parental leave).

AlliVe · March 2009

God how I wish I could be a SAHM, but we just can't afford it right now. I think in 2 years or so that might change. crossing fingers it does!!

ashalsup · March 2009

We could survive on one income, but it is so much nicer with two. I am staying home for 6 weeks after DD is born then I will be back to work but only part time. I am choosing to go back 3 days a week. I think that should give me enough of a break not to go nuts at home all day.

Is it June yet? · March 2009

I'd love to be a stay at home mom for a few years. I ruined my chances by getting my Master's Degree. Student loans don't pay themselves!

IU_baby · March 2009

I have spent way too much money on my education to be a SAHM. I like my job and I don't think I would be great at staying home all day.

Part-time would be my ideal, but it's way too difficult in my practice area.

psuash7 · March 2009

I would LOVE to be a SAHM but financially we just can't do it. We have cut out a lot just to keep our heads above water. I seriously contribute to half of our income and we live very modestly. If I didn't work we would probably have to lose one of our two (modest) cars (a 2002 Jeep, and a 2004 pontiac) and not be able to pay some of our bills.

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