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Does it really matter?

Gina418Gina418 member
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

I've been catching up on today's posts and generally don't get involved in "major debates" but today I can only say one thing - does it really matter? Epi, natural, ff, bf, who cares? No one is any better than any one else for making decisions that work for them and their families. I had an epi (only regret not getting it sooner in my labor process) and I ff (I lasted 3 days bf'ing - and I made a decision that worked for me and my baby to ff). But you know what, I have a happy, healthy, almost-6-month-old baby at home. His teeth are coming in, he's starting to "crawl" backwards, he's smiling and laughing and generally a very happy baby. I really, truly feel blessed.

Ask the girls on the special needs board or the preemies board if any of this stuff matters. There are women on this board who have lost babies - some early in their pregnancies, others when their babies were a few hours/days/weeks/months old.

I'm not trying to be rainbows and puppies and I am all for open debates, but sometimes I think we all need to step back and gain a little perspective.

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  • ABMcKinneyABMcKinney

    Well maybe if you would have gone natural instead of getting the epi, your kid would be crawling forwards instead of backwards.

     Lol... I'm kidding. No. It doesn't matter at all. If Robbie gets a C in 8th grade math I'm sure the teacher won't assume that he was formula fed.

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  • clarice928clarice928
    Nope -- it doesn't matter at all, as long as the babies are happy and healthy.  And I think that's what a lot of us were trying to say.  Informed decisions are all we need, whatever they may be.
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  • ugabrat@yahoo.comugabrat@yahoo.com

    I agree, we should all be thankful for our beautiful, happy babies! Epi or not the outcome was the same. FF or BF your baby is getting fed.

    I lost a baby in 8 years ago (at 24 weeks) and I am so thankful for every second with my little man. I don't care that I had an epi, and would have been just as happy with a C-section. I am just so in love with my little boy. 

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  • papagenapapagena member
    I couldn't agree more. 
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  • DaisyAdairDaisyAdair

    I have yet to hear a Valedictorian, Emmy winner, Nobel Prize Winner, Heisman Trophy Winner, Superbowl Winner, etc thank their mom for not getting an epi or for breastfeeding.

    My oldest is 20mo and I look back at how I beat myself up for not being able to BF her and I laugh (and feel foolish).  

    It really doesn't matter and I see that more and more as time goes on.    

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  • Gina418Gina418 member
    You ladies are spot on! Healthy happy babies - the best reward regardless of how they got here!
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  • carrann82carrann82 member
    Bceause the board would be boring without discussions like this. 
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  • Gina418Gina418 member

    imagecarrann82:
    Bceause the board would be boring without discussions like this. 

    Like I said - I'm all for open debates, I just don't get the "you're horrible because you didn't do what I did" mentality

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  • chisoxgalchisoxgal
    For me, giving birth without pain medication and breastfeeding for 8 months (and counting) is not only for my child, but for me. It's about setting goals, putting your mind to them and achieving them.  It's about empowerment.  I could care less what anyone else does.  It may not affect my child in the long run, but it certainly has affected me and what I feel I'm capable of doing if I set my mind to it.
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  • CalifloridaCaliflorida member
    every couple weeks these gems get dragged out for debate.  i dunno why? i mean it wasn't that long ago we had the "i condemn schedule c-sections" debate.
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