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naming the baby after the birth?

Is anyone else's baby not going to be named until after s/he's born? 

We didn't plan it that way, but we're coming to the conclusion that there is no perfect name - no "a ha!" moment.  We both agree that he's likely going to be unnamed until we're forced to make a decision, ie, when he's born.  Are you worried that you still won't be able to decide, even once the baby is here?  Or worse yet, that you and your DH won't agree, even then?  Are we nuts for doing it this way?

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Re: naming the baby after the birth?

  • My friend didn't name her DD until about a week after she was born. I feel like DH and I will never agree on a name, but I'm not to worried. Our baby will have a name eventually!
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  • we did that with DD we had a few names then when she was born she looked more like a korynn than anything so thats what we went with... and we will do the same with this bundle of joy!
  • You still have time to have that 'aha!' moment, and if you can't decide on just one name, have a couple up for discussion and see which name he 'looks' more like when he's born!
    I would be worried if I didn't have any ideas for a name by the time he's born because you just don't know if you will be inspired in that moment or not! 

  • We think we've chosen a name but we would never call the baby that and aren't telling friends or family because we don't want them to start calling it by the name. It just makes me uncomfortable (plus in Jewish culture people often don't name until after birth anyways). We may change our minds too.
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  • My mom tells me that I left the hospital without a name. Smile I think we will probably end up waiting until she's born...we just can't decide between two names that we both like.
  • I will absolutely have a named picked out prior to delivery. I like the idea of calling "it" by it's name; bonding with it; talking to it. I like the idea of organizing and preplanning everything (maybe too much DH hates it) prior to the arrival. Like big name letters for the nursery and stuff like that. For me, I guess it boils down to why procrastinate?
  • We aren't, but FIL wasn't named for 2 weeks after he was born. He was just Baby Boy P.

    I told DH that when we meet our little one we will know if our name is right for him/her. My parents were dead set that I would be Bridgid Anne (we're just slightly irish..hehe). I was definitly not a Bridgid but a Kathleen Anne

  • We are doing it that way but we already have compiled a list of names that we BOTH like at hand.  We are going to take it with us to the hospital.  We feel like it's weird to name something we haven't "met" yet, you know?  Like, we want to be meet the little bebe first and see what he or she looks like before we assign a name to it~!  I am not at all worried about not being able to decide once the baby comes... nor am I worried about us disagreeing.  For some reason, it seems like it will really stick out to us so we will see!  I'll let you know how it goes!  Wink
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  • We're going to narrow it down to a few and then name him after we meet him Smile
  • imageAutumnBride929:
    We are doing it that way but we already have compiled a list of names that we BOTH like at hand.  We are going to take it with us to the hospital.  We feel like it's weird to name something we haven't "met" yet, you know?  Like, we want to be meet the little bebe first and see what he or she looks like before we assign a name to it~!  I am not at all worried about not being able to decide once the baby comes... nor am I worried about us disagreeing.  For some reason, it seems like it will really stick out to us so we will see!  I'll let you know how it goes!  Wink

    We're planning on this too... but I hope to have it narrowed down to two, maybe three names at the most. We're also not planning on telling the name to anyone else in advance, which will give us the luxury of deciding when we see the child!

     

  • We are strongly leaning toward one name in particular, but as silly as this sounds, I cannot definitely say I will use it without seeing him in person.  I just can't!  DH doesn't understand that.  DH thinks that I will be even more indecisive at that point, and that poor baby will never have a name... Tongue Tied
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  • We have a name picked out.  However my parents didn't name me until right before they left the hospital.  I guess to each their own. Hopefully when you see your baby you will have the perfect name and have your a-ha moment. Do whatever works for you, you can't judge if what you are doing is right based on other people, do whatever is right for you. GL and I am sure everything will work out perfect for you.
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  • imageAutumnBride929:
    We are doing it that way but we already have compiled a list of names that we BOTH like at hand.  We are going to take it with us to the hospital.  We feel like it's weird to name something we haven't "met" yet, you know?  Like, we want to be meet the little bebe first and see what he or she looks like before we assign a name to it~!  I am not at all worried about not being able to decide once the baby comes... nor am I worried about us disagreeing.  For some reason, it seems like it will really stick out to us so we will see!  I'll let you know how it goes!  Wink
     
    This.  I don't know why, but it always weirds me out when people refer to their belly by a name.
  • I worked with a guy who didn't name his baby until like 3 weeks after it was born.
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    Is anyone else's?baby not going to be named until after s/he's born??

    We didn't plan it that way, but we're coming to the conclusion that there is no perfect name - no "a ha!" moment.? We both agree that he's likely going to be unnamed until we're forced to make a decision, ie, when he's born.? Are you worried that you still won't be able to decide, even once the baby is here?? Or worse yet, that you and your DH won't agree, even then?? Are we nuts for doing it this way?

    This is like you are telling a story from my life. I am looking up names now...
  • As soon as we found out we were prego I started keeping a little notebook with me and jotting down names that came to mind or that I saw on TV or that I overheard somewhere. It wasn't until we did a 4D ultrasound and was able to see his face that it was certain on what we wanted to call him. Ever since it has been wonderful to talk about him using his name. It has also made it fun to talk to the family and friends about him specifically and not just Baby Welch anymore.

    Nevertheless, you will know what you want to name him/her as soon as you see your child. That is what did it for us! But I would have a few in mind that you are playing with. Just to ease the inteference of the family trying to give you suggesstions and ideas.

  • I've heard of people having a name chosen and then changing it once the baby was born, because it "didn't fit." So your idea makes a lot of sense. And I can understand having a few top picks and then waiting to meet the baby to see which name fits. I wouldn't want to have no ideas before delivery, however.


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    No, you're not nuts.

    You also have plenty of time to think and come up with new ideas before your little one is here.

  • With my first baby we went in with 3 names that we really liked and waited until she was born before we named her.  In fact, it took us almost 24 hours to settle on one of the names - the fact that she was born with red hair helped us settle on her very Irish name though.  She is definitely a Maeve and I'm glad we waited to name her. 

     With this one we'll wait too - I like seeing the baby before I name him.
     

  • My daughter didn't have a name until two days after she was born. The woman in charge of getting the birth certificate filled out kept calling my room at the hospital asking if I'd made a decision yet... lol. This time, much to my fiances dismay, I plan on just making a list of a few favorites, and seeing which fits best once the baby is born.?
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  • We just talked about that last night and I want to see the baby's face before giving it a name and I'm hoping the right name with just hit us then!!  We don't really agree on any boy names and we have a couple girl names picked.  Hope it makes the whole progress really exciting!!
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  • we didn't name DS until he was 2 days old.  we had a few names we liked but couldn't decide.  it's really hard naming your child.  we'll probably do the same w/ this one, have a few names picked out but wont' decide till we see the baby.
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  • Thats what we are doing. I cant decide. I love them both. Madeline and Julianna
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  • The hubs and I have had a lot of "discussions" about names and came to a decision las night.  We each get to make a short list of first and middle names we like.  All vetos are done before we go to the hospital.  When the baby pops out I get to pick from the list of names after spending some quality face to face time :)

    Both my and my sisters names were decided on before birth and my parents wound up changing them the day we were born. 

    Unless you are set on a favorite or are honoring a family member with passing on their name, just wait!!!  Savor the excitement!

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