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She hates her crib! Help!

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Claire is one month old today and she'd much rather sleep in my arms.  Totally my fault for not wanting to put her down.  Any suggestions would be welcome.  Here's some more info...

She's not the heaviest sleeper at night.  Several nights out of the week, we have DH's two children, so I can't just let her cry it out (their bedrooms are all next to each other) on those nights.  She HATES being swaddled.  I also bought a thing from BRU that's an inclined wedge with a heartbeat--hates that, too.  She can squirm out of it and I caught her with her face wedged up against it.  I don't think that's the safest.  Sometimes, if she's asleep enough, I can get her into her carseat and put that in the crib, but latching her in usually wakes her up. 

Thanks!!  Will this work itself out with age?  She starts daycare at a home in a month and I don't want to drive the daycare mom up the wall. 

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Re: She hates her crib! Help!

  • DavezWifeDavezWife member

    swing? bouncy? moses basket?

    I would nap Ava in a boppy, but I heard it's not the safest, so I only did it in the same room as me, and watched for her to squirm or wake. She also slept alot in her basket, and when it was time to sleep in the crib, we did a week of the basket IN the crib, to help with the hugeness of the crib to her. Seemed to help. I heard carseats are not the safest either, their heavy heads can flop forward and can't lift them up, suffocating them. There is some wedge "help babies with colds or reflux" thing with a soft cover, saw it advertised in Parenting mags. But it's the coziness and warmth of mom's arms that any baby loves. In which case I say...

    Get a Moby. (or make one) stat.

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  • CHI-06CHI-06 member
    I think that is pretty common... my daughter did not like her crib or bassinett.  She would do better in the bassinett next t oour bed because I could lean my hand over and rub her head and that would calm her down and she would then fall asleep.  I finally got her to sleep in the crib with the help of our rainforest crib soother...she would lay and watch it and as soon as it turned off she would start crying...I would go in, put her paci back in and turn it back on... she would eventually fall asleep.  After awhile of doing that she got more used to her crib and would sleep in there better.  Good luck!  I am sure it will all work itself out...
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  • Mrs.McJeepMrs.McJeep

    It took my guys a long time to get used to the crib.

    We would bring them to bed w/ us, not the best option, but it where they slept best.

    But every night I would put them in their crib, even if it only lasted 5 minutes, I would always start them out in their cribs.

    It will get easier with time, but each baby is different.

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  • Mr.&MrsSMr.&MrsS
    DS was the same way. He hated anything that wasnt us holding him. No crib, no cradle, no pack n play. What eventually worked for us was the car seat. We let him sleep in that for the first 8 weeks of his life. I asked the pedi and she said it was ok. I didnt strap him in either...just put him in the car seat and put the car seat in the crib. Then at 8 weeks we started putting him into the crib, and he hated it. That first night it took me 2 hours to get him to sleep, and then he was up every hour after that, but I knew I had to do it. Things that helped for us were- he hated a swaddle too because he wanted his arms free, but he was always moving his legs and waking himself up. We swaddled just his legs. I also noticed that he liked his changing table pad...so for a week I just put that into his crib and that seemed to help too. Since it had contoured edges I think it felt tighter around his body. He would always wake up as soon as I put him down, but if I stayed there and held his hands he would eventually fall asleep. And lastly, sometimes putting the sheets in the dryer before bedtime can help because they like it warm. Good luck!!
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  • ela81ela81
    I would not worry about it right now. I was always (pre baby) one who said my baby will be in the crib from the 1st night. That sooo did not happen. Right or wrong dd slept on me most of the 1st six weeks, then I started putting her in her pnp after she went to sleep. She also slept in her bouncy seat and swing.  My dd does not cry it out and at that age I don't think they should. It takes time. Do what works best for you and your baby and don't worry about what others think about it. You will never get this time back and feeling that baby sleeping on you is priceless! When dd falls asleep on me now it's not the same b/c she is so much bigger. I say YES it will work itself out.
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  • ela81ela81
    O yeah, two more things. 1. Dd hated being swaddled too so I stopped doing it. 2. Your dd is adorable!
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  • LucyPevensieLucyPevensie member
    It WILL work itself out with age - and you are not doing ANYTHING wrong by holding her a lot - in fact - you are doing everything right, you absolutely should be holding her a lot right now.  She is still very little and very young.  She'll eventually sleep in her crib.  For now - just do whatever works - whatever helps her get sleep (and she needs a lot right now) AND make sure you get some sleep too. 
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