Telling family you're pregnant....when?

mattsbride2006 · February 2009

So I have had a lot of friends who have had a m/c so I was having a hard time deciding to tell family/friends or not. I am only a ?month along. In the end, it seemed way to difficult to only tell some people and not others and we couldn't possibly see our families every week and not tell them for months. We finally decided to just tell people as we see them and forget the whole "keeping it quiet" thing and then if we m/c just have our close family spread the word about the m/c.?

When did yall tell people and what is your view on this??

AJluvsLI · February 2009

lol I just made a post about this.

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I told my family but I'm not sure when to tell friends. ?My husband has decided to tell everyone, despite my request that he didn't. ?*rolls eyes*?

michristine · February 2009

It is such a personal choice. We told our parents only after seeing the heartbeat at 7wks, but our thought was that they'd be a fantastic support system, as they always have been if anything did happen. Last week we heard the heartbeat and doc said chances of miscarrying were very low so we are now telling more people. Long story short - you should do what you feel is right and what you are comfortable with.

Kristin131 · February 2009

I have only told my closest friend who lives near me, another friend who we are very close to them and their 2 daughters (I figured she would be best for advice) and my sister. I figure those are the people I feel most comfortable talking to if something happens. My parents live 13 hours away and his mom is across the country. I have an appt at 9 wks to try and hear the heartbeat and if we do then I will start telling other people. Coincidently my cousin is getting married 2 days after that appt so I will get to tell my whole family?in person?(AFTER THE WEDDING!), assuming all goes well

InLove24 · February 2009

Whenever you feel comfortable. My last pregnancy we told my parents after we heard the HB at 6wks, then I lost the baby at 10 weeks and I was just really thankful i had my parents support. This time we told my parents again after the we saw the HB, and we told everyone else at 13 weeks. So it's really up to you

shari_rngleson · February 2009

i waited 13 wks...because i would not have wanted to tell everyone if i had had a miscarriage

calex33 · February 2009

We told my parents right away. ?My friends and extended family all knew before the end of our first trimester. ?DH chose to wait to tell his friends and family until after first tri. ?It's a completely personal decision.

CMDR513 · February 2009

We told ILs at 7w2d (a week after our early U/S). I felt comfortable since I already saw the h/b. I told my sister a few days prior. My Dad found out a week later as did DHs extended family. I waited until 10 weeks to tell the rest of my family.

CMDR513 · February 2009

Oh and my BFF actually knew I got a BFP before DH.

high_hopes · February 2009

We told our sisters/brother in laws (we each have one sister) & my parents (DH's are deceased) at ~4 wks. We haven't told anyone else....we're waiting *at least* until our first appt (March 9 = 8 wks) to make sure everything looks ok so far, but will probably wait until 12 wks.

ginmae85@yahoo.com · February 2009

I could not hold it in, we told the day we found out. I was about 5 weeks!

kd1977 · February 2009

I told my family this past week. I'm not telling friends until closer to the 2nd trimester. I think it's good to have support from your family from the beginning no matter what happens.

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