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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
PLEASE tell me about your sleep training!
We are despirate for help! What method did you use? How did it work for you and when did you start? We still have to hold DS for his naps and have to nurse him to sleep and then pray he stays asleep when we put him down. I can use all the information I can get. We have NEVER been able to put him down drowsy but awake, not even when he was a newborn. HELP! TIA!
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Re: PLEASE tell me about your sleep training!
We did Baby Whisperer - Solves all your problems has a detailed routine you can follow and how to transition into her EASY schedule. ?My baby was just like yours, never could be put down awake, had to be nursed for all naps (and they were crappy ass naps too!) and woke several times a night...
Now he is STTN, naps 3 times a day (all of which I just put him in his crib, walk away and he falls asleep 10-15 minutes later) has a nice predictable schedule, sorry just have to brag because it took a lot of work to get there but he is finally a good sleeper. ?Mom and baby are much happier and well-rested now!! I really can't say enough about her method although you do need to tweak it to make it work for you!! ?You can PM me if you need extra help because I've gone through everything to get my kid to sleep better! ?Hugs...I know how frustrating it is....
ps - we wanted to name our baby Landon too - I love love love the name, but DH didn't like it!?
We started the No Cry sleep solution last week and so far so good. It's a slow process, but I do see improvement everyday. I just couldn't do anything that was CIO. I tried Ferber, but it just wasnt for us. DD was miserable to the point where she was scratching her face really bad.
DD fell asleep on her own for the first time tonight! The hardest part for us was the transition from co-sleeping to the crib, and No cry has really helped us with that transition. I would check the book out from your local library or something. GL!
We did Ferber starting last weekend. It's a miracle. Previously DS was sleeping in a bassinet in our room and had to be swaddled and rocked to sleep. Now he sleeps in his own room in the crib and happily gets comfy and puts himself to sleep without crying for naps and bedtime. Yes, the first night was really hard and a few nap times too, but by day three there was no crying at all and he's such a happier baby now that he's taking longer naps (because he knows how to put himself back to sleep!).
I hated the idea of CIO, but I agree with the sleep doctors that say if you don't let them figure out how to self soothe you are depriving them of a necessary skill.
No CIO for us. Fuss a bit? Ok. Fake cry & then listen to see if we bought it? Ok. Letting my 7-month old really cry, alone in her crib, because she "has to learn"? BS.
We are also trying the No Cry Sleep Solution. I think not sttn is more of a social problem than a problem that our babies have of not "self-soothing". It's tough to function in this society without sleep. If I lived in the jungle or a remote village & didn't have to get to work in the am, or clean the house for company, or pay bills, etc., I could sleep when my baby slept, even during the day. However, I am not functioning very well on the little sleep I get, so I'm hoping the NCSS works. I don't feel ok about letting my baby cry alone unless she can understand WHY, and at 7 months, she can't understand.
GL!
We did Sleep Easy Solution, which is a version of graduated CIO where you do checks. It took about 3 nights to see improvements & stop the night wakings. It also talks about weaning night feeds so they get the calories during the day.
DD also had to be nursed to sleep & had been waking up every hour at night for over a month. Every 2-3 hrs before that. She didn't cry as much as I thought she would. She mostly fussed. I think we made it worse b/c we would always run in there ASAP.
I agree with PP, they have to learn to self soothe. Healthy Sleep Habits is a good book also but it's got a lot of silly statistics.
Chiming in again - Baby Whisperer is against CIO too, so there isn't any crying alone in baby's room sort of thing (I coudln't do it either although I know some have gotten really good results with it). ?But there is some crying while you work WITH your baby to teach them how to go back to sleep on their own...again, it's a LOT of work - hopefully your DH can help, but it's so worth it...
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I wont do sleep training but I wanted to tell you while you are researching try the arm trick. After you nurse DS lift his arm gentle and let go, if it falls easy then he is in deep sleep, if he pulls back than he is not in deep sleep and will wake up if you move him. With DS once his arm is limp he is in a deep sleep and will not wake up. Also try warming the sheets sometimes the cold sheet wake them after being held so close.
We did Ferber's delayed reponse (this is not CIO, but it does teach self soothing). DS had to be nursed to sleep, slept in our bed and needed to be swaddled - and was still getting up every 2-3 hours. We started with getting him to sleep in his own crib. The reducing/delaying the nightime feedings until they stopped. And then doing the delayed reponse when he cried at night.
For the first time ever, he STTN on Monday - and then he did it again Tuesday and Wednesday.
I think Ferber's at least worth a try. Just know/expect that it's going to be hard at first - and it's easy to get derailed if they get sick or get teeth. But stick with it. I really works.