Pregnant does not equal terminally ill

rommelea · February 2009

I swear - if one more co-worker falls into the habit of asking how I'm feeling every single day my head is going to explode. They get the same answer everyday. "fine." I've moved past saying "I'm good, how are you" because I'm tired of this. I am not dying. I don't have anything exciting to tell you about how I'm feeling because I feel almost 100% normal - I feel like I would if I didn't get a lot of sleep the night before, mainly because I didn't get a lot of sleep.... so STOP ASKING. Think of something else to ask, because I'm fine.

/vent

madonnadouwanna · February 2009

Do we work with the same people?? I'm glad they are caring, but I keep hoping they have a different question to ask me when they see me. Plus, I have other things going on in my life besides having a baby - I can still have adult conversations about "normal" activities.

E&Jhssweethearts · February 2009

maybe they are just concerned and/or want to be involved. People love pregnancy and babies, just try to be happy that you have a complete other support group other than your family.

tandt92505 · February 2009

I know what you mean, but I figure they will say something to you regardless. I'd rather them ask how I'm feeling than make a comment about my expanding waistline, what I'm eating, etc.

I'd imagine it's worse to be asked all the time how you are when you're terminally ill.

JGM281207 · February 2009

I've changed to telling them that I feel great, that seems to shock them a bit and they've let up on it a bit. I'm trying to avoid letting anyone know when I'm not feeling well because then you get those "oh you poor thing" looks. I hate when people act like that around me.

DoubleDiamond · February 2009

This is one of the first things my MW said to me (which made me fall madly in love with her). "At (name of practice), we believe you are pregnant, not sick." And just like that, I was in.

When I was 12 weeks, my new SIL grabbed me by the elbow, pulled me in WAY too close (FAR beyond my personal space comfort levels), and said "Call me if you need anything....I know how stressful it can be to keep up with the dishes and the cleaning and I'm willing to come over and do all of that for you." Well, I know her intentions were golden, really, they were. But, um, I haven't even had a second of morning sickness (please don't kill me)...I am fine. So don't tell me that I look tired and run down and pale...becuase that's just winter and stress from work.

Vent over.

matt&steph · February 2009

I know it does get a bit annoying at times. I just think people are trying to be niece. I try to turn the conversation to them, hoping they will get the hint and stop asking.

DSteed-to-be · February 2009

You took the words right out of my mouth.

It's also annoying with my family, but more forgiveable since they live far away. If they SAW me every day like my co-workers do, they'd see that I'm fine and not ask (I hope).....but the co-workers and church members who see me ALL the time and see me TOTALLY normal except growing in my belly need to see that I'm fine and should stop asking me ALL the dang time!

kristin329 · February 2009

That is one of the reasons I still have not told my work yet. I don't want all that attention.

DebbieMc · February 2009

Be grateful that they give a crap. One day, in the very near future, it will never be about you again! lol

So, How are you feeling????? ~

Debbie

ckmac · February 2009

Most of the people I work with are great... they only bring up the pregnancy when it's part of the conversation.

But my new boss (60ish year old male) asks me everyday how I'm feeling and tells me that "this pregnancy thing is easy" for me. He wasn't around the first 13 weeks when I had m/s and was expected to miscarry, so it infuriates me every time he says that. He also has taken on a new position as the Pregnancy Police, asking me if I should be drinking caffeine and evaluating every piece of food I eat.?

Another woman I work with whom I've never spoken to before my pregnancy, tells me that I gained weight in my boobs (thanks I didn't realize), asks me if I'm going to nurse (and tells me I should), and comments about when I'm laughing that I "won't be doing any of that in a few months"!?

That vent felt good. I needed that. ?

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Clevelander · February 2009

This always annoyed me last pregnancy. Once the baby comes no one will care about you anymore, their focus will be on the baby.

DarcyLongfellow · February 2009

Aw, I like it when people ask me! Especially all the older ladies in my office. They're so cute and excited.

I think people just want to let you know they're thinking of you. They don't think you're terminally ill, but how you're feeling varies from day to day (just like with anyone else), so they're just interested in how you're holding up.

If it bothers you, though, I think that your tactic is a good one -- just say you're doing well and ask how they're doing.

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