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I need support/encouragement/a shoulder, please
I am having a very bad start to the week.
Honestly, I don't know if I have seasonal depression or what, but these cold, gray days are sucking the life out of me. I don't get out of the house very much at all, and it makes me feel...hopeless.
DD is being super fussy and has a cold virus, and I'm snapping at her and feeling like the world's worst mommy. Sometimes I feel like I cannot do it. DH doesn't understand and isn't very sympathetic about my being depressed.
Please help me snap out of this. I'm going to get some vitamins today and see if they help.
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Re: I need support/encouragement/a shoulder, please
(((hugs)))
This winter is just a killer for a lot of women I know. I don't have much to suggest, but is there a way you can get your DH to take the kiddo for a while so you can just take care of yourself? He doesn't have to understand depression to understand that you need nurture too...
PM me if you need a more private shoulder
(((more hugs)))
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ugh. i hear you. sometimes the short dark days just are such a downer. i feel like, even though i enjoy winter, it's just easier to be more positive in bright, sunny, summertime.
i don't have much to offer except e-hugs and the reminder that you can always get support from us here!
also - maybe if you're looking for vitamins try some B-Complex? i believe that they're supposed to help with energy/metabolism? maybe hippy has some better suggestions though - i feel like she's the go-to on here for home remedies! lol.
((hugs)) to you
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I've been feeling the same way lately. I'm not a fan of winter to begin with, but the depression makes it even worse. I never get out of the house, either and find myself snapping at the poor kids that I watch, too. On top of that, this pregnancy has made me super weepy.
I've heard that fish oil can give you boosts of energy, so I've started taking that. Plus, I try to sit by the window any time there's even a sliver of sunlight. It's also good that you came to us for support. I often find that just getting my feeling out, whether in person or in writing (like this) helps a lot.
I'm still new to this bump thing, so I haven't figured out the PMing thing, but if you need someone to listen I'd be glad to give you my email.
i hear ya! it's hard to get out in the winter, let alone when your lo is sick:( long days in the house with a sick and fussy baby are rough! what i find to be helpful on days like that is to just screw the idea of getting anything done and spend some serious snuggle time with your baby. throw out the rules and let yourself and your lo watch t.v., nap, whatever.
when she's no longer sick, and for a longer term "remedy", i highly recommend forcing yourself to exercise. on really cold days put the baby in the moby and go for a walk. even 20 min will make you feel better. when it's warmer, put the baby in the stroller and go a little longer. if possible, give your dh the baby and do something a little more aerobic. we have an elliptical machine in our tiny house and i feel even 30 min on it makes me feel like a new person.
none of that will solve the problem if it's truly depression though. if you really feel like you can't see out of it, give your doctor a call and tell her what's going on.
Hugs!
This winter has been especially hard. Between the gray days, nasty bugs going around and the overall stress about the economy I think everyone is feeling it.
I know a Vitamin B Complex and Fish Oils are supposed to help. You can try that...and maybe a trip to an indoor park to just get out of the house.
I totally understand. I've been feeling very blah lately too. I agree with the suggestion of going someplace like Borders just to get out somewhere. It might be a good distraction for both of you. Hopefully DD will forget that she feels bad & you can get some adult interaction. I try to make myself get out at least once a day. Even if it's just to the grocery store or post office. I'm usually glad when I do because it gives us both something to do & breaks up the long days.
Hang in there, mama!
((hugs)) i get the same way. ?i'm so ready for spring! ?we have a mall with lots of windows and glass in the ceiling, and i take mj for a walk so we can get sunshine w/out being cold...and i treat myself to a latte while we're there.
i also had a hard time around the 9 month mark. ?your baby is becoming a pre-tod, and it's like getting to know her all over again. ?
Being at home with a baby, esp. a sick one, is extremely isolating...and if you are prone to depression, well then forget it!
If depression is something that is common for you, then you ought to consider anti-depressants. Zoloft is safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding. A good psychiatrist will make sure you know that medication is just one piece of a wellness plan. Exercise, lots of acitvities, good self care, etc. are all a part of it. But, if you can't scrap yourself up off the floor to do any of that....well, that is where the meds come in.
Wow, what a profound thought. This is incredibly true for us right now. I DO feel like I'm getting to know her all over again, like she's not the same baby and she's growing so much in different ways. Maybe this is part of it, too.
(((hugs))) Winter really is so very hard. I don't know where you are, but I live in WI and it kills me. Vitamins are a great start, and what about perhaps an SAD light in the house? I hear that that can hel.
Hang in there, March is the beginning of the light at the end of the tunnel.