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I have baby name remorse

OK, so I am sure I am going to get flamed, but whatever.  My DD is 10 months, and I still want to change her name.  When we picked her name, it was the only one that DH and I actually agreed on, but it wasn't my favorite.  I have tried to just let it go, but I just don't love her name.  I know they say that babies know their names by 7 months, and most people would say you are CRAZY to change it now, but I just don't know what to do........Should I just suck it up and keep it, or do what I want to do?

Re: I have baby name remorse

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  • Could you call her by a nickname rather than changing her name?
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  • What name do you want to change it to? Does your DH want to change it also?
  • What is her name and what do you want to change it to?
  • imageMonkeybuttwhat:
    What is the name?

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  • Her name is Payton.  I call her 'Patie' (Like Katie).

    I want to name her Clair, and no my husband is not on board with a name change.

  • Do you like her middle name any better?  You could call her by that if her 1st really bothers you.  Otherwise, I'd come up with some other nickname for her that you love, and use that. 

    I think it's kind of crazy to legally change your baby's name after 10 months.

  • Personally, I wouldn't change her name if your DH isn't on board because then in a few months he will be unhappy and want to change it again. It could be a vicious cycle. Also, I like Payton as a whole name rather than Patie. IMO.
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  • If DH isn't on board, then I wouldn't change it.

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  • Payton is nice. I like it better than Claire. Whats her middle name??
  • I think Payton is cute, and like pp said, I really like it better than Patie.  That said, call her whatever you like, since she's your baby!  I agree that you could use her middle name instead, if you like that better. 

    And, it would be one situation if your H was on board with the name change, but since he isn't, I would leave it alone.

  • Yeah if your DH isn't on board, probably not a good idea.  This is why you agree to a name before the baby is born.  If you weren't 100% with the name when you picked it, you should have voiced that.  It's a little late now.
  • imagesweetpea7628:
    Yeah if your DH isn't on board, probably not a good idea.  This is why you agree to a name before the baby is born.  If you weren't 100% with the name when you picked it, you should have voiced that.  It's a little late now.

    I agree.

  • If your H is not on board no way. Like PP said nickname, middle name, initials but at 10 months and your DH not on board I wouldn't.
  • imagesweetpea7628:
    Yeah if your DH isn't on board, probably not a good idea.? This is why you agree to a name before the baby is born.? If you weren't 100% with the name when you picked it, you should have voiced that.? It's a little late now.

    Agreed.?

  • imagesweetpea7628:
    Yeah if your DH isn't on board, probably not a good idea.? This is why you agree to a name before the baby is born.? If you weren't 100% with the name when you picked it, you should have voiced that.? It's a little late now.

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    Agreed. You had nine months to decide...I don't think you can change it especially since she is so old and DH doesnt agree?

  • Suck it up.  Your daughter has a name.  If she wants to change it when she is old enough, she can change it.
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  • I think Payton is adorable!

     Try to think is a nickname or something like pp have said. but I do think its too lte to legally change it. (Not technically - but you know what I mean!)

     

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  • Don't change her name.

    I'm totally in the minority, but I don't think that a person's name has that much an effect on his/her life. ?Whether your child is Payton or Claire, they'll have the same experiences in life. ?(Of course, the exception is something outrageous, like the kid in the news named Adolf Hitler.) ?Seriously. ?Does anyone think they would have gotten more ahead in their profession had they been named something different? ?I don't.

  • I don't think the name has much effect on their life...but I think changing the name of your 10 month old just becuase you aren't 100% in love with the name is stupid. 
  • I agree sulfa. My mom didn't like my first name after a while and once I got older, neither did I. So I just went by something else. When I was a teeny bopper I always said I would change it, but meh. I just use my other name.
  • imagesweetpea7628:
    I don't think the name has much effect on their life...but I think changing the name of your 10 month old just becuase you aren't 100% in love with the name is stupid. 

    agreed. sorry op. Guess you heard our voices!

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  • Claire is a fat girl's name.

    Sorry, it had to be done, who can call the reference?

     I think that doubting a choice like this isn't all that uncommon, it's a lifelong choice and something you attached to the person you love the most. That being said - she's Payton. She's been Payton for the better part of a year. Like others have said, she name is not going to determine her character, or her experiences - you are, as soon as you stop obsessing over her name and move on. 

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  • imageoh-zysbaby:

    Claire is a fat girl's name.

    Sorry, it had to be done, who can call the reference?

     I think that doubting a choice like this isn't all that uncommon, it's a lifelong choice and something you attached to the person you love the most. That being said - she's Payton. She's been Payton for the better part of a year. Like others have said, she name is not going to determine her character, or her experiences - you are, as soon as you stop obsessing over her name and move on. 

    Breakfast Club! So glad someone else had that pop in their head too, lol.

    My two cents: I just imagine being that kid, and growing up, and finding out. What if she ends up wishing you had left it Payton? I don't think you get do-overs in baby naming. Just sayin. 

  • imageoh-zysbaby:

    Claire is a fat girl's name.

    Sorry, it had to be done, who can call the reference?

     I think that doubting a choice like this isn't all that uncommon, it's a lifelong choice and something you attached to the person you love the most. That being said - she's Payton. She's been Payton for the better part of a year. Like others have said, she name is not going to determine her character, or her experiences - you are, as soon as you stop obsessing over her name and move on. 

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  • imageoh-zysbaby:

    Claire is a fat girl's name.

    Sorry, it had to be done, who can call the reference?

     I think that doubting a choice like this isn't all that uncommon, it's a lifelong choice and something you attached to the person you love the most. That being said - she's Payton. She's been Payton for the better part of a year. Like others have said, she name is not going to determine her character, or her experiences - you are, as soon as you stop obsessing over her name and move on. 

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    Oy with the poodles already!
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  • imagenikkifudgestick:
    I agree sulfa. My mom didn't like my first name after a while and once I got older, neither did I. So I just went by something else. When I was a teeny bopper I always said I would change it, but meh. I just use my other name.

    One of my best friend went through this.  Her parents chose her first name to honor a friend who died in an accident just before she was born, and they all disliked the name!  Throughout middle and high school she went by her middle name, but now that she's older she loves her name and her parents like it too.

    Also, when my mom was pg with me the drs told her I was a boy and my whole family called me by the name my parents had picked out.  Surprise!  I was a girl, and I'm still called by that name as a nickname (by my family).  So you can always find a cute nickname that you like, and call your daughter that name.  When she is older, she'll see it as a fun name that only mom calls her...and she'll love it!

  • I agree about not changing it as your DH is not on board.  I also agree with maybe using her middle name.

    Personally I can't imagine having a 10 month old, changing the name leagally and then having to explain to everyone - friends and family.  But that's just MHO.

    Good luck with whatever you decide.


     
  • totally agree with people. Don't change her name but find a nickname or use the middle name.

    You can always call her Clairebear or something as a nick. (Total Heroes reference there...sorry I'm a dork).

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  • My name is extremely common and my mother often laments how she wishes that she would have named me my middle name instead. It isn't a big deal, though---it hasn't affected my life in any way like PP discussed and I've found a nickname that works for everyone. Best of luck to you.
  • My best friend of 20+ years is named Sharonell, but for some reason her mom nicknamed her Happy because she was such a happy baby. I met her as Happy and still call her Happy. Once she was trying to get everyone to call her by her real name and she couldn't get it to stick. It's funny! Call her whatever you like and I think people even the baby and your husband will get very used to it.
  • Is there a  bigger reason for changing her name other than that you just don't like it? Like, is Clair a family name? Payton is a much more unique name, but I just personally have very bad connotations of the name Clair due to a former student I taught. That was THE NAME I told DH we definitely WOULD NEVER name a child. Maybe you could use her initials? Yeah, I'm going now--just thinking about the name Clair gives me the willies. Sorry. Good luck to you.

  • Payton is cute. I expected much worse. Even though it will prob pass, please don't let her know you don't like her name.
  • Ok, this is so weird.  I just googled it and saw your posting.  What did you do?  My daughter is 3 months old and her name is PEYTON!!!!  How strange....and I also am in Texas but Houston.  Please let me know your thoughts now that is has been a year...thank you for your input.
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