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Should I send a gift?

blackfire5thblackfire5th
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My FI and I just moved away from home (a few states away).  My great friend at back home is having a shower in May.  She didn't invite me because I live so far and wouldn't make it and she didn't want me to feel obligated to send a gift.  I told her that I'm sending her a gift anyway because I love her and am so excited for her new baby. 

Now on the other hand, FI future cousin who is back home has her shower in March.  Now I know I won't be invited, again because I live so far away, but I'm not actually sure I would be invited if I still lived there because his family can be like that.  So the question is, should I send a gift anyways?

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Re: Should I send a gift?

  • iluvtomiluvtom member
    I think for your friend yes, and then once both babies re born you can send a welcoming gift for theb new baby. You still may be surspirsed taht you get an invite!
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  • theyaremyworldtheyaremyworld
    Friend yes...family no. If you weren't sure you would be invited then I wouldnt send one.
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  • grettazgrettaz member
    I would probably not send one to the cousin, especially if you don't know that you would have been invited to the shower anyway.  If you just want to be thoughtful, you could send something after the baby is born.
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  • blackfire5thblackfire5th
    Thanks ladies!
    My Grandparents on their wedding day.
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    Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.
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  • DiscusCoachDiscusCoach

    It isn't the baby's fault your future cousin et al are "like that" (and I know exactly what you mean - so difficult).

    Send the baby a book after he/she is born. Order from Amazon and have is sent straight there.  

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  • blackfire5thblackfire5th
    I'm not trying to punish the baby or the mother.  What I meant is that I could be an oversight or sometimes his family doesn't consider someone family until they are married (FI thinks that is messed up to).  I just didn't know if I should send a shower gift and if that would put anyone in an ackward position.  Just sending a gift after the baby is born sounds like a good choice to me.
    My Grandparents on their wedding day.
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    bio
    Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.
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