Will DH know what to do with baby?

freemand_23 · February 2009

I won't lie..I am a little concerned! But I know that he will be a great dad! But will he be able to handle the demands of our little princess? He is extremely excited to get started, he even told me that he will wake up every night with her! I know that I'm going to have a problem with him holding her and not wanting to put her down..I warned him that he shouldn't do that because we will never be able to find a sitter that would want to hold her for the entire day! I know that I will have to create a feeding chart so that we can keep up with her feeding times!

MidwestTexan · February 2009

I'm not worried about it...I don't want to become the controlling mom/wife...I'd rather just see how things play out naturally.

Squishycheeks · February 2009

Hopefully they have instincts like we do!

rbidi · February 2009

Speaking from experience, don't get upset if he doesn't do all that he says he's going to do. I've learned that guys get scared of them when they are so little, and it takes some getting used to. Also, the key is to trust him. Men handle babies a little different than women, but the baby will be fine, and all the father needs to know is that you trust him. As far as feedings, it's good to alternate, but when I'm home on maternity leave, I'll let him sleep since he has work the next day.

MrsPreK · February 2009

If he's willing to jump right in (like you said) he will be fine

evhamm · February 2009

I get concerned about this too. He isn't very gentle when he rubs my back when I am not feeling well, and sometimes I think he won't be gentle with the baby. He also refuses to hold other peoples babies, and although some ppl say men are different with their own children, I don't want him afraid to hold his own kid. I think having DH go to classes with us should help us feel more secure that they'll do what they're instructed instead of doing something we feel is 'wrong'.

DSteed-to-be · February 2009

My DH is a little awkward holding little ones until they're older and hold onto him, but I know he'll get the hang of it when he loves his DS so much that he snuggles him up naturally like he did to me when we fell in love! The rest of stuff is more learned by both of us "on the job" anyway -- what comforts DS, feeding comfort and schedule, what will entertain him or lull him to sleep, etc...

lbittma80 · February 2009

I've thought about this too. Honestly, men have NO CLUE. We have a 10 y/o (DH has been around him since he was 5) and sometimes I swear he is missing a chip in his brain or something. But he gets the main things right so I'm not too worried.

lovindan · February 2009

My DH has already told me that his goal is to "hold the baby without killing it". He's concerned but I'm not worried at all, I know that instincts will kick in and he will do just fine.

chels0120 · February 2009

I'm sure he will do great!!!!! I know that I have had to make myself butt out when it comes to us being different in handling things cause neither is wrong. But let him be daddy and try not to tell him what to do unless he is putting the baby in danger. It will all work out great! Its awesome he wants to be so helpful!!!!!!!!

Chrisy-Wyobride · February 2009

That is so sweet! Take him up on it, trust me the novelty will wear off eventually & you'll wish he was still so excited--LOL! I think your DH is a keeper for sure! PS--I don't think you can ever hold a baby (especially a newborn) too much! Don't worry it'll be fine!

eclipsed823 · February 2009

I'm just hoping that I know what to do with a baby!

afg · February 2009

I've thought about it, and I know that MH has some concerns but he will be great. I'm not worried about it. I'm sure he'll be extra careful no matter what. I can't wait to see him with our baby

liongish119 · February 2009

I think if he wants to hold the baby constantly that's great! I'm sure he won't want to keep doing that forever- he does have a job to get back to right? Just be happy and don't worry- it will work itself out!

ForForever · February 2009

MidwestTexan:
I'm not worried about it...I don't want to become the controlling mom/wife...I'd rather just see how things play out naturally.

Same here. I really think that if anything - DH will be better with the baby than I will. ?

sharee · February 2009

Oh am sure he will be the best father ever no need to worry yourself with that!!

Kandie35 · February 2009

The hospital where i will deliver has many classes about infant care. Perhaps yours does as well. If you're really concerned, maybe you could look into what your hospital and nearby hospitals have to offer in this regard.

tandt92505 · February 2009

At this point, I'm feeling as clueless as he is. I'm hoping we will figure it out together. He has a better memory/is more sensible than I am anyways.

You obviously balance eachother out enough to stay married, so I bet the child will benefit from that balance, too.

My parents are both great parents, but in totally different ways. I hope the same happens with us.

hula_lula · February 2009

My DH was great with my DD and he'd never changed a diaper before in his life.

MommyMeSoon2B · February 2009

MidwestTexan:
I'm not worried about it...I don't want to become the controlling mom/wife...I'd rather just see how things play out naturally.

I am the controlling Mom...I will admit this. Although in my defense, my DD's Dad is a moron. Confused

LoveEeyore · February 2009

Without sounding trite- your DH will be the best father your child could have. My DH was not comfortable at all in the newborn phase. I mean at all. And I just let him let me know when he was ready for more. I BF and co-slept in her room (our deal was I did all night time stuff since I SAH and I operate fine w/little sleep). So the first few weeks no- he preferred to let me figure it out and then guide him, but as she got bigger, his confidence grew as did his attachment to he and he is so amazing with her, He gets up with her in the a.m. and I giggle and cry almost every morning hearing the two of them interact through the monitor. Maybe he will and maybe he won't but he will be a great dad!

emaria · February 2009

i'm definitely not worried. dh already wants to help me during the evening even though i told him don't even worry about it since he works and i'll be sahm but he really wants to be there for the baby girl. he's all for changing diapers so no problem there. and he's already called baby holding duty whenever he's home from work so i have a feeling i'm going to have to get in my time with her as much as i can during the day lol.

AudNicole · February 2009

DH will probably be a better father than I am mother. I'm okay with that.

He's got instincts, too, and has read books. Plus, his baby niece moved in when he was 12, so he has expierence from that, and his other 5 nieces/nephews.

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