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In Laws are making me crazy

MeepitMeepit
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My MIL keeps talking about how her youngest son's wife is going to give her twin granddaughters someday, is begging my other SIL to have a fourth child because she needs more grandchildren (she's over 35 and has three under 5) and about an hour ago, said, "No pressure, but I keep feeling like I'm not going to dance at my grandkid's weddings at the rate they're coming."

Sheesh

I keep saying, "Well, we're trying!"  I don't know why I care about pleasing her so much, but it's really hurting my feelings that she's either making me feel guilty for not having any yet, or giving up on me entirely.

The family is planning a trip for Christmas - up to the mountains in Georgia.  It only happens if I'm not pregnant.  And we're putting deposits on it.  Is is stupid that I feel like everyone's assuming it's not going to happen?

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  • lnlelnle
    sounds like she's not being very sensitive!! and WHEN you are pregnant at Christmas you can sit at home and have a good time without them!
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  • Littlemac4Littlemac4

    I'm having the same problems with my IL's... they are putting so much pressure on me to get them a grandchild and I feel like they are disappointed in me.  it sucks... it not like we are not already putting enough pressure on ourselves!

     I would ignore them the best you can... or tell her what her comments are doing to you.

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  • sourpopsourpop

    Ya, I would just ignore them.  My inlaws are the opposite and don't believe that we will ever have children - therefore worship the "only" ones they have.  It sucks.  I have found that keeping my distance from them has helped soooo much.  They aren't going to change and I am done trying to "be the nice guy".  I just simply dont go around them anymore.

     Good Luck - inlaws can really suck sometimes (in my case - all of the time!!)

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  • DiscusCoachDiscusCoach

    Does she know? Ugh. How awful.

    Your statements about the trip made me laugh because my logic might be more twisted than yours. I think that if I put a deposit down on an upcoming trip that it will cause me to get pg. I'm pretty sure from living skills class that this is not how babies are made but my brain won't listen...

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  • rebecca&nathanrebecca&nathan member
    I'm so sorry that they suck so much.  I'm really lucky... no pressure from anyone but me.  If it's really bothering you, maybe have DH talk to them and tell them to keep their traps shut.  Another word and you'll not have babies to spite them (if you don't want to tell them about the trouble and incredible pain you're going through).  (((hugs)))
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