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S/O- not telling names

nicolehoppenicolehoppe
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Is anyone finding out the gender of the babe and not telling anyone else?  I have been flip-flopping on whether to find out or have the big surprise for the delivery.

We are not having a shower (for a variety of reasons- but that is for another post) and I am a little afraid that if we tell the gender I am going to end up with a boatload of clothes that we won't need or use.

I am also a little tired of opinions on names, nurseries, and anything else baby related that everyone keeps dumping on me.  I think keeping the gender as a secret may help keep me same from all the unsolicited "advice" that I have been getting lately.

I think a little part of me just wants to have a little "secret" between DH and I for the rest of the pregnancy.  You get so many personal questions "how much weight have you gained, were you trying, what are the names, waht are the nursey ideas, are you returning to work"... blah blah blah... I am just pretty tired of getting bombarded with personal questions.

Of course, if we slip up- the fam might be a little ticked off that we knew and didn't tell anyone!

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  • FirefightersBrideFirefightersBride
    we are not finding out the sex and even if we did...i don't think we would tell anyone. Just like you, i don't want all the unsolicited advice!
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  • joseysbridejoseysbride member
    If I could keep it a secret, I probably would, but 1) I don't do well with secrets, which is why it is so annoying to me when people drill me about the name when we don't want to share.  2) If we know the gender, we will be preparing for boy or girl, including the nursery decor, clothing, etc. and it would just be way too much work, I think, to hide all of that.
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  • alicia023alicia023 member
    We are finding out the sex but I don't think we are going to tell anyone our names until the baby is born, I'm the same way I don't want to listen to everyone's opinions.
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  • zoieglowzoieglow member

    Just tell them you haven't decided yet. Or that you're waiting until the baby is born to tell.

    We're not sharing names until the baby is here with anyone but my sister. She's our sounding board - we liked Sebastian and she made the point that it doesn't sound right with our last name. She's reasonable and likes traditional and more unique names alike so it's good for both of us to have her opinion. Plus she has tight lips and wouldn't say anything.

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  • Mrs_mamMrs_mam
    We are hopefully finding out tomorrow. I know that it's not a guarantee- but luckily gender is only deciding the name and nothing else. We are only going to tell our families what gender it is and our close friends- but I'm waiting to tell some people until after my shower because I don't want useless clothes either, I figure I'll get useless stuff after it's born no matter what! But random strangers and annoying coworkers will be left out because, well they are annoying!
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  • cabana1cabana1 member
    I don't know about you but I would have a hell of a time not slipping in front of people. When we found out it was a boy, we immediately began using "he" when referring to him ex: "he's kicking alot today." I'm not sure I would be able to switch that off when around family but that is just me (and my DH). We are keeping the name a secret and that has been hard. I refer to him as Patrick all the time and my DH even admitted that he almost blew it at a family get together recently. Just my 2 cents.
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  • TheBrownsTheBrowns
    That's how I felt when I was pregnant with DS - we didn't find out the gender and didn't share name choices. It was a good decision for us. Instead of annoying advice people would just complain that we weren't finding out, etc. We are doing the same with this pregnancy and our friends and family are more used to it.
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  • mrsdenne2bmrsdenne2b
    We're debating doing the same thing...finding out the gender, but not sharing with anyone else.  We keep going back and forth.  I love the idea of a surprise for our family and close friends, but I'm not sure that I can hold out that long. 
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