drama on 3rd tri & more...

Re: drama on 3rd tri & more...

• Califlorida member

  February 2009

  i always assumed my mom bf me. but when i had dd and i was struggling in the beginning, my mom had no advice, zero wisdom. i mentioned it to my sister and she goes "i know she didn't bf you, i accidentally drank your formula once when i thought it was milk."  and that's how i found out.
  

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• goodtobethelarkster member

  February 2009

  I agree with you in the sense that I don't care if you bf or ff, as long as you feed your kid.

  To me this is not about whether you bf or ff.  If you don't bf because you "can't look your kid in the eye at 18" then that speaks to a whole host of other things that are f*cked up, kwim?  If you're having an electie c-section because "vaginal birth is gross" then that also speaks to something more that is f*cked up.

  There are many, many, many good reasons to ff.  There are many, many, many good reasons for c-sections.  Dumba$$ reasoning like this dis-services everyone.

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• iris427 member

  February 2009

  goodtobethelarkster:

  I agree with you in the sense that I don't care if you bf or ff, as long as you feed your kid.

  To me this is not about whether you bf or ff.  If you don't bf because you "can't look your kid in the eye at 18" then that speaks to a whole host of other things that are f*cked up, kwim?  If you're having an electie c-section because "vaginal birth is gross" then that also speaks to something more that is f*cked up.

  There are many, many, many good reasons to ff.  There are many, many, many good reasons for c-sections.  Dumba$$ reasoning like this dis-services everyone.

  Exactly.  The reasons she gives suggest there is something deeper going on here.
  

  
  

  
  

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• Fordlor member

  February 2009

  All my life I thought that I was breastfed.  It wasn't until I was struggling with BFing my DD that my Mom told me that I was formula fed.  Who knew?

  Evidently, she BF my older brother and she was so anxious all the time and my brother was a very unhappy baby.  So she attributed his unhappiness/crying all the time to her anxiety going through her breastmilk to him.  She said she didn't really enjoy my brother the first few months because of how cranky he was.  So she vowed not to BF me because she didn't want the same situation.  Turns out, I was a very happy baby and hardly ever cried. 

   

  

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• anna7602 member

  February 2009

  Iris, I saw your response on the 3rd tri board and agree that something like abuse may be at play here, which is why I will stay far, far away from "flaming" her reasoning.

  Nonetheless, I still think the "what will your kid think one day" card is a weird one to play.

  

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• Marie Tourville

  February 2009

  It isn't the not bfing or the section that are the problem...it's her reasons for doing so and the insulting way she explained her 'opinion'.
  

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• iris427 member

  February 2009

  anna7602:

  Nonetheless, I still think the "what will your kid think one day" card is a weird one to play.

  For sure!
  

  
  

  
  

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• Califlorida member

  February 2009

  i have a best friend who's dc is 2 days older than dd. she had an elective c and i knew, without her ever having to confirm anything, that it was because of abuse she experienced as a kid. so because of her, i have never judged anyone's reason for opting out of vag birth, or opting out of bf'ing for that matter. 
  

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• Marie Tourville

  February 2009

  Califlorida:

  i have a best friend who's dc is 2 days older than dd. she had an elective c and i knew, without her ever having to confirm anything, that it was because of abuse she experienced as a kid. so because of her, i have never judged anyone's reason for opting out of vag birth, or opting out of bf'ing for that matter. 
  

  I get you.  I can totally understand that.  That is why I was trying to withhold judgment and why I didn't flame.  But the reasons she gave were just plain ignorant.
  

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• Heather R

  February 2009

  "I hope you can look your kid in the eye and tell him/her why you didn't BF."

  

   

  

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• goodtobethelarkster member

  February 2009

  If this chick was abused then I feel bad. But she's really, really just sounding like a repressed SOB who sucks. And then I read her bio.

  And, that's right, I went there... Idiot.

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• violetvirgo

  February 2009

  goodtobethelarkster:

  If this chick was abused then I feel bad. But she's really, really just sounding like a repressed SOB who sucks. And then I read her bio.

  And, that's right, I went there... Idiot.

  the bio is what got me too.  once i read that i just assumed she's ignorant.  
  

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