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I'm having major 2nd thoughts! Help. What should I do?
I have mentioned our upcoming trip on here a few times in the past. DH and I are going to Australia (leaving on March 2nd) for 14 days. DH will be working (only at night and we will have a few days off), but I'll be vacationing. At first, I thought: how wonderful, a trip of a lifetime, but now I'm not so sure. I hate the thought of leaving Preston for that long (he will be staying with my parents. They are great and keep him active with things to do). He has been very clingy lately and I know he will miss us terribly (maybe not at first, but a week in, probably). The agent that dh is going through for work has not bought the tickets yet (he is waiting for a good deal and has connections for flight prices), but I'm sure he will be purchasing them within the week.
Should I go on a trip of a lifetime and enjoy myself (I will eventually enjoy myself), or should I stay home with Preston? I'm more concerned about how Preston will feel with us gone that long, than myself.
I truelly just don't know. 
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Re: I'm having major 2nd thoughts! Help. What should I do?
Has he been away from you before?
Liam is 5!
Yes (a lot of one nighters) but the most he has been away is a week.
If he's already done a week without you, I think he'd be fine for two. I don't know that he can really grasp the timeframe and this is an incredible opportunity! I'd feel different if it had never been more than a night...GO!
Agreed! That is the only way it'd work out for me/my family. I would be miserable after 14 days. Five is the max for me, so far!
I wish we could but we can't afford him to go (or I would). Tickets are $1500.00 a person, plus there will be some city to city flights while we are there (and a lot of bus traveling). DH is an entertainer, so it's not just him we are traveling with. There will be three other people with us. The reason why I'm going is because it's free for the spouse (but not children). :-(
I think it's a non-issue and you're making it into something more than it is. He'll be fine. You'll be fine. Go.
That's a tough one. I don't know if I could leave my DS for two weeks. I have to leave him once a year for six days, and I truly hate it. Of course, that's for a work trip, not a vacation and not any place as amazing as Australia.
Can you go for a week and fly back without your DH?
We are doing an 8 day trip in late March to Switzerland. I will be a freaking wreck before we leave. BUT. DH and I need this time as a couple. And DD will also be w/ her grandparents and my sister, so I know she'll be in excellent hands. It is also a work trip, but i'll be working non-stop for three of the days, so DH will be on his own. I've been away from DD for a week, but not both of us.
It will be hard, but doable. Are you bringing a laptop, and do your parents have access to a computer? We use Skype to keep in touch-it's a program I downloaded for phone and vidoe calls using my computer. I LOVE it. LOVE it!!! It's .02 a minute ANYWHERE in the world from computer to phone. If you do computer to computer, it's free. When I went to Switzerland last year, I used to keep in touch w/ DH and DD. We plan on Skype'ing 1x a day w/ DD. Don't know if we'll do video yet, it might freak her out too much.
Go on the trip and enjoy it.
EDIT: My parents did a week trip when I was 6 yrs old and we stayed w/ my grandma. I have zero recollection of them being gone, so I think a 2.5 year old will be just fine. It is way harder on the parents.
Christmas 2011
I couldn't leave my dd for two weeks. A week, yes, but not two. I would probably spend the last week wishing I were home. Is there any way you can just go for a shorter period of time, not the full two weeks?
I totally understand how exciting the trip would/will be, but I guess I kind of feel like when my kids are older or gone I'm going to have lots of time for that. Maybe you don't feel that way, though, so ulitimately you have to do what you feel is right for you.
He'll be fine and you'll be fine. The first couple of days & the last couple of days will be hard, but you both will survive.
Lik you said, its a trip of a lifetime.
You'll regret it if you don't go.
Hey,
I honestly think you should go. Is it going to be hard to leave him for that long, will you miss him terribly? Yes to both, but I think it'll be really good for you as a mom, and for you and DH as a couple. He will be well taken care of, and while he will miss you, this is nothing that's going to have a lasting impression on him. In fact, he won't ever remember this! Also, the fact that you've left him for a week before tells me that he'll be just fine.
GL on your decision.
I've done a week before and it was fine. I was ready to come home and see DD by the end of that week.
If he hasn't bought the tickets yet, would you be able to get an earlier ticket back?
It is the chance of a lifetime, and I think you would regret not going. Preston will be fine if you go.
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I know I would have a hard time leaving my 2 little ones for 2 weeks but like you said it is a chance of a lifetime and Preston will be fine! Especially since it is FREE....GO and ENJOY yourself! Preston will have a great time with grandma and grandpa. Is there any way that you could take a few days off of work when you get back so you can do something special with or or atleast to stay home with him for a few days before returning to work?
I would definately go!
The only time I spent a night away from DS#1 was when I was in hospital having #2. That was hard!!!
Buuuuutt!! A free trip to my favourite place in the world!! Bye bye boys!!! Back soon!!!
Go go go!
L-R: Liam (7), Eimhin (6) and Fionn (4)! (Irish names)
Too busy to update the pics for now ...
I'd GO!
We did a week in Jamaica when DD was 2 months old (without the kids) and I had a blast.
I would love to get away for 2 weeks, especially to Australia! Take the opportunity! He'll forget you ever went on vacation once you get back... they don't remember much at that age!