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kat.in.the.hat · February 2009

Josh is going OOT back to Atlanta for work. His g'pa has started having health problems - nothing super serious - but he's at the age now where it's kind of all downhill (as horrid as that sounds to say.)

It's not feasible at this point for us both to fly back home. We have discussed taking a trip back this summer, and g'pa is expected to still be alive (he doesn't have cancer or anything like that) but he's nearing 80 and you never know.

Would it be a horrible idea if Marion went without me? I know that Josh is 100% totally capable of taking care of her perfectly well, but he'd be gone during the day for conferences and meetings. I don't think he'd have to do any dinner appts though. They'd be gone Sun night through Tues night.

MIL probably won't parent like I do, or attempt to, but she'd spend most of the time holding M I'm sure, which would be okay. I just don't want tp deprive people of seeing her, especially when you never know what could happen with Josh's g'parents.

M would be 5.5 months then, and I know physically she'd be okay without me, since we FF. But do you think emotionally she'd be okay without her momma for that long? As it stands now, we've not been apart for more than a few hours.

PAGAS · February 2009

I think it sounds like a good idea. Two days seems like the right amount of time and it is always best to see aging relatives as often as possible while they are still around.

aprilprincess · February 2009

i'm sure she'll be fine, as long as your comfortable go for it.

rayskit10 · February 2009

she'll be fine.even if she has her moments of missing mama, her bond with daddy is strong and can only benefit from some time alone together. imho, mothers and fathers can (and should be) equal partners in parenting so jish taking her for a few days would be the same as you taking her.

TexasHarmony · February 2009

I think it would be fine. Avery went to my Mom's for 4 days when she was around that age and I thought I was going to die. Avery had a great time.

I am sorry to hear about his g'pa. I'll keep him in my thoughts.

TexasSmith · February 2009

I think you should do it. It will be good for M and Daddy to be together like that, and you will enjoy some alone time (even though you'll miss her like crazy!).

kat.in.the.hat · February 2009

Upon discussing with Josh, he thinks he could be gone for 10 hours on Monday then like another 8 on Tuesday before they fly home.

I wouldn't have a second thought about it if he didn't have to actually work while he was there, like if he was just taking her for a visit. It's just the fact that she won't be with either of us for the majority of the time there that bothers me.

He's not 100% comfortable with the idea either, because I guess he's staying in a hotel (I thought he'd stay with either MIL or FIL but I guess not) and wasn't planning renting a car, so we don't know how the car seat situation would work out. So there's still some more stuff to talk about.

If he does go without her, I also don't know what I'm going to do because I won't get a break from her! I guess there's plusses and minuses to both sides!

TexasSmith · February 2009

kat.in.the.hat:

If he does go without her, I also don't know what I'm going to do because I won't get a break from her! I guess there's plusses and minuses to both sides!

We can have a Nestie playdate! Not a total break, but at least there'd be some other people there and we would give you a break!

Mrs.Woods · February 2009

You will do just fine. DH was in LA for work a few weeks ago. It was hard the first day but after that I got in the swing of things on my own.

If I needed a break I just went to my mothers house for a few hours and she held the baby while I went out back and sat by the pool.

It actually felt pretty good to acomplish more than I thought I could.

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