Mandie87- you are NOT ready to have a child

Rogue Lily · February 2009

I don't mean to be a beeotch, but I took a quick looksee at your blog, since you put it out there, I just thought I'd mention by what you have in your blog you are not in any way ready to have a child.

1. You don't have health insurance

2. You aren't taking PNVs

3. You are living so paycheck to paycheck that a high electric bill makes it difficult to afford a HPT.

Please, figure that stuff out before you start even thinking about conceiving a child. Not only do you not have the resources together at this point, you obs. don't even have the maturity to realize how far off you are from being able to adequately nurture and provide for a child. I hate to use this line, but I really don't want my tax dollars paying for your kid just because your DH built a crib.

Q Q · February 2009

Yikes

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

OMG, serious?

Get health insurance before you start stressing the f*ck out about crib designs.?

Magic Ball · February 2009

weelass24 · February 2009

:turns on heel and bolts out of post:

Mrs_Liberto · February 2009

You forgot that she's a waitress making $4 an hour and recently had a car repo'ed.

danlexi04 · February 2009

I read that blog to. My biggest issue is the health ins. Hellooo! Anything can happen during a pregnancy and hospitals/ dr's etc are NOT cheap!!! For the brief period I didn't have ins I was afraid to catch a cold, let alone get or even think about getting KU. But to each their own I guess..... Indifferent

Lyssapee · February 2009

Indifferent

::picks up jaw floor:::

Emie28 · February 2009

Indifferent

and a Hmm for good measure.

pixy_stix · February 2009

I agree with 1 (omg, really? My miscarriage/D&C cost us close to $400 WITH health insurance. God forbid that happens to her, but...), and 3.

2... meh.

Rogue Lily · February 2009

Maybe she figures since her credit is ruined and she'll have to file for bankruptcy anways, she may as well run up $20k in medical bills first and get a free kid out of the deal.

whitneyandbrook · February 2009

Oy vey.

Rogue Lily · February 2009

pixy_stix:

I agree with 1 (omg, really? My miscarriage/D&C cost us close to $400 WITH health insurance. God forbid that happens to her, but...), and 3.

2... meh.

I'm not saying no pre-pg PNV= bad parent, what I am saying is walking to CVS and grabbing some PNVs probbbbaably should be a few steps ahead of building a crib.

mrs.g_6708 · February 2009

meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.

danlexi04 · February 2009

whitneyandbrook:

Oy vey.

Ditto!

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

mrs.gardner:
meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.

She shouldn't put it in a public blog that she puts in her siggy if she doesn't want it to become our business.?

Lyssapee · February 2009

Is devilishly handsome a commonly used phrase? I've only seen it once before...

Just saying...

mrs.g_6708 · February 2009

BlairWaldorf:

mrs.gardner:
meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.

She shouldn't put it in a public blog that she puts in her siggy if she doesn't want it to become our business.

Well I still hope she gets her shiit together before she gets KU. Especially the health insurance.

whitneyandbrook · February 2009

BlairWaldorf:
mrs.gardner:
meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.
She shouldn't put it in a public blog that she puts in her siggy if she doesn't want it to become our business.

Ditto. If you put it on the web, it's everyone's business. Sorry.

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

mrs.gardner:
BlairWaldorf:

mrs.gardner:
meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.
She shouldn't put it in a public blog that she puts in her siggy if she doesn't want it to become our business.?
Well I still hope she gets her shiit together before she gets KU. Especially the health insurance.

me too, love. ?me too.?

pnwjess · February 2009

Steps to getting KTFU:

1) Have health insurance

2) Take PNVs

3) Have sex

4) Get a BFP

5) Wait a couple months

6) Buy a crib.

Just sayin.'

Rogue Lily · February 2009

mrs.gardner:
meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.

An impoverished child is everyone's business.

mandie87 · February 2009

well i appreciate your concern...for your tax dollars and my unborn child. i know i am not ready to have a child right this minute. but i want to be prepared when i am.

1) no i don't have insurance right now. that's why we are not TTCing.

2)I'm not taking prenatal vitamins because i know that i need to see a doctor first to see if i need a different kind because i'm taking other medication.

3) i am not living paycheck to paycheck. while i dont make much money, my husband makes enough for both of us. and a 500 electricity bill is enough to empty anyones pockets (at least the ones who aren't ridiculously loaded) and the money that we do have left over i would rather go to things other than that at this exact moment because chances are that i'm not pregnant.

i'm not planning on having a baby right now but i like to think about babies and i'd like to be prepared when the time comes so i don't have to worry of the little things that i can just look up right now.

my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.

yes my husband and i talk about things that involve a baby that doesn't exist yet, but we did the same thing about when we got married. which we did at the right time because we could afford it on our own.

thanks for my individual post though. and to all of you that decided to post before i even read this.

futurebabymama · February 2009

::Butting in:: ?If Mandie is reading this, I would tell you to get your thyroid issues under control before TTC. If you don't, it can effect the child and greatly increases the chance of mental retardation. When I asked my endo about this, he told me not to worry because I take my medication, get regular checkups and will be monitored throughout my pregnancy. He said that is for people who don't get regular check ups. That enough should be enough to wait.

Mrs_Liberto · February 2009

mandie87:
well i appreciate your concern...for your tax dollars and my unborn child. i know i am not ready to have a child right this minute. but i want to be prepared when i am.
1) no i don't have insurance right now. that's why we are not TTCing.
2)I'm not taking prenatal vitamins because i know that i need to see a doctor first to see if i need a different kind because i'm taking other medication.
3) i am not living paycheck to paycheck. while i dont make much money, my husband makes enough for both of us. and a 500 electricity bill is enough to empty anyones pockets (at least the ones who aren't ridiculously loaded) and the money that we do have left over i would rather go to things other than that at this exact moment because chances are that i'm not pregnant.
i'm not planning on having a baby right now but i like to think about babies and i'd like to be prepared when the time comes so i don't have to worry of the little things that i can just look up right now.
my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.
yes my husband and i talk about things that involve a baby that doesn't exist yet, but we did the same thing about when we got married. which we did at the right time because we could afford it on our own.
thanks for my individual post though. and to all of you that decided to post before i even read this.

After all this, I think you're even more of an idiot.

mrs.g_6708 · February 2009

Rogue Lily:

mrs.gardner:
meh...I don't think it's anyone else's business. But that's just my opinion.

An impoverished child is everyone's business.

Okay, okay. Let me make what I meant more clear. Of course, I think she should have health insurance, solid income, PNV's before ttc. But I also think she should be here to defend herself too.

*edit: and now she is, so you may continue

firsttogo · February 2009

It is judgy on here tonight. I love the list on how to get ktfu. . . if only it were that easy. . . I think that maybe some should worry about getting themselves knocked up before determining who is or is not ready to have a child.

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

mandie87:
my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.?

ahhh, nothing like a victim.

How the hell did you not know that, "Oh, making $4 a month I probably cannot afford a car ______" (fill in the blank with "above 15K" or "Mercedes/Range Rover/Lexus")?

idkmybffk8 · February 2009

numbered lists are hard

(at least the ones who aren't ridiculously loaded)

So 2 people living off of military salaries are "ridiculously loaded"? Awesome. I'm gonna go buy a yacht.

mandie87 · February 2009

i dont care what you all know about me or dont know about me. i'll never meet any of you and wouldn't know if i did. your opinion about my credit or my kids or any of that doesn't really matter. i like to hear others perspectives, but that doesnt mean im going to go with them.

weelass24 · February 2009

mandie87:
my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.

You signed the contract. If you couldn't afford it, you should have walked away. Just sayin'. It doesn't take a genius to figure out the max you can afford per month.

Rogue Lily · February 2009

Le Sigh.

A $500 unexpected expense that end up emptying your pockets is a HUGE problem. That is the definition of living paycheck to paycheck. You do not have a cushion.

It would not empty our pockets, or even close... and we are not ridiculously loaded. This is because we have savings to cushion the variations in life.

lynsef · February 2009

I always miss the drama!

mandie87 · February 2009

BlairWaldorf:
mandie87:
my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.
ahhh, nothing like a victim.
How the hell did you not know that, "Oh, making $4 a month I probably cannot afford a car ______" (fill in the blank with "above 15K" or "Mercedes/Range Rover/Lexus")

people get screwed over all the time. yes i should have looked over it more, but it was my first car. yeah it was dumb. oh well.

preppynewlywed · February 2009

WTF is an anny?

mandie87 · February 2009

i never said any of you are ridiculously loaded. i just said that i'm not. if someone was loaded, it wouldn't be a problem. but we are not. end of story.

pixy_stix · February 2009

BlairWaldorf:
mandie87:
my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.
ahhh, nothing like a victim.
How the hell did you not know that, "Oh, making $4 a month I probably cannot afford a car ______" (fill in the blank with "above 15K" or "Mercedes/Range Rover/Lexus")

ugh, I'm not going to make any friends defending this, but it happened to us as well.

We spent a full DAY negotiating the price of a car for my dh. 2 weeks later the dealership came back and said they needed another $500 down or else the deal wouldn't go through. They _fucked up the financing. It was either cough up the $500, give back the car (and face more $$$ based on the contract we signed), or have it repo'd. We didn't really have the money at the time, but we scraped up the cash.

It does happen. Dealerships can mess with the contract price after you drive away the car if it's in the contract.

danlexi04 · February 2009

BlairWaldorf:
mandie87:

my car did get repo'ed. thats because a scum-bag of a car salesman changed my monthly income to twice it's actual rate and took us for all we were worth. *** happens and it's over now. it's not even on my credit any more because we settled it in court.

ahhh, nothing like a victim.

How the hell did you not know that, "Oh, making $4 a month I probably cannot afford a car ______" (fill in the blank with "above 15K" or "Mercedes/Range Rover/Lexus")

I don't get that either. The dealer wouldn't have done that, if you weren't looking to buy a car that you couldn't afford. I mean ,people do that all the time, but they don't blame the guy who sold it to them when, in the end, they really couldn't afford it.

mandie87 · February 2009

what is kewl?

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

preppynewlywed:
WTF is an anny?

It's this awful disease that makes you incapable of making good decisions.

mandie87 · February 2009

Rogue Lily:
Le Sigh.

A $500 unexpected expense that end up emptying your pockets is a HUGE problem. That is the definition of living paycheck to paycheck. You do not have a cushion.

It would not empty our pockets, or even close... and we are not ridiculously loaded. This is because we have savings to cushion the variations in life.

thats completely true. this adds to why we aren't TTCing.

i just don't get why yall like to pick on people? just curious.

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