How much harder is it to have two babies?

BerriGirl · January 2009

If you have more than one, how much more crazy is your life with the second one? I really want another one, but really have no idea what I'm asking for. I can't imagine a 2nd one now, but I don't know what two-year-olds are like. Or three-year-olds or whatever. How much more difficult is it to care for two little ones? How do you give each of them the time they need and deserve?

punkfiction · January 2009

its not much harder. its just adding another one to a routine. if you already have a routine with 1, then 2 is not that hard. we will (hopefully) have 3 under 3-4 and they say 1 to 2 is the hardest so Im ready lol

as for giving time to each - you just make time. they don't always sleep at the same time so i can play with dd2 while dd1 is napping or read to dd1 while dd2 is napping. plus - they LOVE to play with e/o. they are just fascinated with what the other one does and i could never imagine them not having that. dd1 LOVES to help me feed, change, etc dd2 and dd2 will just sit on the floor and watch dd1 play.

good luck, but don't worry. youll be so happy that they are close and age and have so much in common.

almost momma of two · January 2009

It was hard in the beginning but it's really easy now. My almost 3 year old loves to help and loves on his sister. He sleeps through the night, so I'm only getting up with DD. When we go somewhere, I put DD in a hip hammock and DS goes in the shopping cart. You just adjust and it seems like you don't know any different.

almost momma of two · January 2009

Oh and as for them each getting time, DS goes to preschool 2 days a week so DD and I get one on one, and DS gets my alone time when DD takes naps. I also take DS places if DH is home so he can have time with her and I can have time with him. We kind of alternate.

punkfiction · January 2009

agreed about the preschool. dd1 will be going to MDO this summer 2days a week. she'd go even if i didnt have dd2 bc she is very social and loves other kids. but that will give me time to go to the store with dd2 by myself, hang out with her like i did with dd1 when she was a baby, etc. plus having a dh that helps out is nice too. dh cant wait to get home from work to play with the kids. it gives me a break and also lets me focus on one at a time.

Septmomtobe · January 2009

It can be crazy at times. By youngest (10 months) isn't sleeping through the night yet so that adds to the choas of my house. But we manage. Each child does get their own time just at different points in the day. The baby gets up early (5:00) so he gets alone time then until my oldest wakes up (7:30). Then the oldest gets alone time when the baby takes his first nap and then again at the end of the night when the baby goes to bed. Usually the baby wakes up from his afternoon nap before my oldest so again alone time.

I absolutely love watching them play together or when my oldest tries to help with the baby.

So is it harder, yes but managable and worth it? Yes.

HTH
Heather

samncarl05 · January 2009

Honestly, the first couple months I was so stressed. DS wouldn't sleep so I had no sleep and my 1-1/2 yr old DD was up and ready to go. Family and DH helped out alot. After we got some sleep and a routine for the 3 of us things have gone much better.

It takes more planning to go places now but it is do-able. I learned tricks/tips that work for our family that make things go easier. I love being the mom of two wonderful children.

DD has never been jealous of DS. From day one she has kissed him, held him, and loved him. She loves "baby." I hope they grow up being close. I know one day the fighting will come but I am enjoying my loving children right now.

babywing · March 2009

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