mother issues

sherron83

My mom and I don't see I to eye on alot of things.  Its a long story, but the basic story line in that she HATES dh. But thats b/c she never had a man take care of her the way my hubby does. She wasn't invited to the wedding due to family drama. She has/was hardly a mother to me and I basically raised my younger brothers. That said she knows about the pregnancy and she just called to tell me Happy Thanksgiving. I told her my brother was home and he wanted to surprise the boys ( 15 & 8 yrs old) that he was home. We got on the subject of the baby and she was "my mom" & not the scary lady that takes over when she is in her "mood". That sounds strange I know but its the truth and I had to live w/that until I was 18 yrs old.
DH can't stand my mom and refuses to go over w/me to visit them. I don't force him b/c of my moms past. I completely understand why he doesn't want to go and I don't blame him. If my younger brothers were grown I wouldn't even bother seeing her. Its just basically going and checking on the younger ones.
Again she isn't going to be invited to the hospital when the baby is born b/c of family drama. sorry for venting - it always sends me over the edge when she calls.
I needed to tell someone before I cried... stupid hormones.

 OK - - i'm done.

manic mama

My mother has refused to talk to me since my wedding last October. She has a borderline personality disorder and refuses to get treatment. I'm the only person who calls her on her inappropriate behavior.

So last Christmas she called me and told me she didn't want to see my wedding snapshots and to not come to her house.

We've seen her at family occassions (weddings, funerals) and she ignores me. Or she just doesn't attend at all.

I hear she knows that I'm pregnant. I don't know if she knows it's a boy.

So, in short, yeah, I feel ya.

sherron83

Thanks, I'm glad I'm not alone.....

bchlvnmom09

my mom was never much of a mom to me either, I