time-out poll

snowflakemom

If you give time outs...

1. Where is DC's time-out spot? (bedroom, corner, chair, etc.)

2. Do you follow the one minute per year of age (ex: 2min. TO for a 2y/o) guideline? If not, how do you determine how long the time out lasts?

3. What behavior lands DC in a time-out? 

4. How often do you give DC time-outs? Does it usually end up being multiple times a day, a couple times a month, etc.?

5. Do you think the time-outs are working? Do they seem to deter DC from doing the behavior that got him/her in the time-out in the first place?

6. Do you give a warning(s) before DC goes in time-out?

maxebook29

1. It is in the kitchen. It's the center of our house and usually near where we are when mischief happens.

2. Yes

3. Dangerous behavior after a warning or not listening after a couple warnings

4. Usually ends up being once a week or less. It seems like I need to give the actual timeout less now. The warning of one if the behavior doesn't change usually stops it. 

5. Yes, I think they work for her. Although redirecting her works the best. The timeout is really the last step.

6. Definitely warnings before the timeout. I try to avoid the timeout by redirecting, warning, and if she still doesn't listen, then timeout.

joseysbride

1. Where is DC's time-out spot? (bedroom, corner, chair, etc.)  At the end of the hallway in the corner.  There's nothing back there.

2. Do you follow the one minute per year of age (ex: 2min. TO for a 2y/o) guideline? If not, how do you determine how long the time out lasts?  Not really.  She usually cries when I put her there, and I tell her that when she stops crying she can come out.  It is usually less than a minute.

3. What behavior lands DC in a time-out?  If we ask her to do something and she out-right tells us "NO" and if she hits, throws, kicks, someone or something (any kind of physically violent act, basically).

4. How often do you give DC time-outs? Does it usually end up being multiple times a day, a couple times a month, etc.?  For awhile there, it seemed like once a day, but lately it is more like once a week if that.  She seems to be getting past the attitude stage.

5. Do you think the time-outs are working? Do they seem to deter DC from doing the behavior that got him/her in the time-out in the first place?  See number 4.  I definitely think they worked in our case.  She very rarely behaves in a way to get herself in timeout anymore, and even when it was a daily occurance she straightened up right away after having a time out.

6. Do you give a warning(s) before DC goes in time-out?  No.  She knows what behaviors equal time out, and what is expected of her.  Even when we started time outs, we didn't give warnings, but after time out and she apologizes, we always explain why she went to time out and why what she did was wrong.  Then we quickly move on, tell her we love her, etc. so that we're all happy again.  I don't think there's any point to dwelling on bad behavior after the punishment is served.  It only brings attention to negative behaviors.

Yodajo

1. Where is DC's time-out spot? (bedroom, corner, chair, etc.)  In the kitchen on the floor.

2. Do you follow the one minute per year of age (ex: 2min. TO for a 2y/o) guideline? If not, how do you determine how long the time out lasts?  We follow the one minute per year of age rule.  If he is still crying and hasn't calmed down, we will extend it until he settles down.

3. What behavior lands DC in a time-out?  Throwing toys, blatantly not listening to us, being out of control

4. How often do you give DC time-outs? Does it usually end up being multiple times a day, a couple times a month, etc.? Not that often usually.  Maybe a few times a week.  Some days are bad though and he can be there four or five times.

5. Do you think the time-outs are working? Do they seem to deter DC from doing the behavior that got him/her in the time-out in the first place?   Yes, they work for us.  When he is done with time-out, he is calmer and behaves much better.  They also give us a chance to calm down and deal with the situation better. 

6. Do you give a warning(s) before DC goes in time-out?  Not usually.  I have warned him, mainly when I'm tending to the baby and can't get to him, but  in general, I don't give warnings.  I feel he knows he is misbehaving when he does the things that get him put in time-out. 

Yodajo

Oh we also do what Josey's said.  After time-out, we hug, DS apologizes, we briefly explain why what he did was wrong and then we move on.  We don't dwell on it at all.

katie277s

1. Where is DC's time-out spot? (bedroom, corner, chair, etc.) In his bed.

2. Do you follow the one minute per year of age (ex: 2min. TO for a 2y/o) guideline? If not, how do you determine how long the time out lasts? Timeouts last as long as it takes for DS to calm down.  Sometimes it is only a few minutes and sometimes it is 10-15 minutes.

3. What behavior lands DC in a time-out? hitting, kicking, talking back, throwing toys, screaming, etc. 

4. How often do you give DC time-outs? Does it usually end up being multiple times a day, a couple times a month, etc.?  Depends.  Sometimes it is multiple times a day, but mainly if he has one a day, that will be the only one.

5. Do you think the time-outs are working? Do they seem to deter DC from doing the behavior that got him/her in the time-out in the first place?  I think they work.  But kids sometimes get so involved in what they are doing that they do things they shouldn't. 

6. Do you give a warning(s) before DC goes in time-out? Usually.  Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere and a timeout is necessary without warning.