Is it dumb to ask for needs instead of wants?

finallymarried

ok so my child wants for nothing.....he needs a bunch of stuff......he has so many toys from family that he gets for every holiday(not just the big ones) that its rediculous. I have no problem asking for practical stuff for myself because I am pretty practical and enjoy getting a vacuum for christmas(i have problems-i know). But is it wrong to ask for things like that for ds? Me thinking ahead about a toddler bed triggered the thought.

Heidisean

Thats not dumb at all but smart.  If he needs something I would ask for it!

CubbyMama

For me, I ask for a lot of things that might be considered "needs" (i.e. stuff for the kitchen, clothes, etc--not really luxuries, so MIL kind of scolded me for that last year).  For DD, I feel kind of weird doing that, because she's old enough to actually want/like some things and not to care about others, so if I just tell everyone to get her clothes, I feel like that's really getting ME a gift so I don't have to buy them for her!

LittleMamaB

Not at all, IMO. I have told anyone that has asked about what to get Miles that he needs clothes.

Baby4OT

If people are asking you for ideas I don't think it's wrong at all to ask for things that he will need. Is a toddler bed too big of a purchase for the people who are asking? That would be my concern.

eclaires

It's not dumb, it's probably smart.

But I'd feel guilty for doing it since I think it takes away the joy of giving a fun gift to a kid and I'd feel guilty because Jackson doesn't care if he gets a toddler bed.

In general, though, I don't think it's dumb.  

finallymarried

baby4Ot.....the bed for our set is only $100 and they spend well over $1000 on each of us.....according to my estimations at least.

goldenprincess

I don't think it's dumb at all.  As a matter of fact, I feel the same way and plan on doing the same thing.

marrymemylove

Sounds fine but what are you thinking of?

I guess I'm thinking I would definitely suggest clothes or a booster seat or something (which are needs) but I'd feel weird asking for diapers or health insurance premiums. Even though those are needs too. KWIM?

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jessicaclare

My dad is incredibly generous with DD. I mentioned that I'd like to get her a bedroom set soon and he offered to purchase it as part of her Christmas gift. He'll also probably get her a few toys to open. She really doesn't understand gifts right now, so his reasoning is that he'd rather get her something she needs right now and help us out. Once she's 3 or 4 and understands the fun of opening presents, she'll get more fun stuff.

Brideofranken

IT depends on who you are asking...It is my understanding that it is considered very uncool to ask Jesus for wants, but ok to ask for needs.

I haven't tested this theory, but I have wondered where socks fall on the spectrum.

finallymarried

mmml-  you mean i can ask for those things lol?? I do have ymca classes on there.....but he really enjoys them and they are so expensive bc we are not members. Do they fall under the same category as health insurance? I was really just thinking the toddler bed.

penguingrrl

Definitely not dumb!  If he has all he wants and all the toys he can use, getting useful things is a good idea!

Jen2004

LOL

Doing the same thing here, bought some toys tonight the rest will be outfits... I just know that even though I said get the kids clothes and $$ for the future they are going to get a TRUCK load of toys from the G-parents.

marrymemylove

Totally JMO but I would not have a problem (for me) asking for ymca classes or a toddler bed.

?I wouldn't tend to ask for the diapers or insurance though because we can cope paying for those. If we couldn't I'd reappraise I guess.

My mum gave DS kindermusik classes for a term as a Christmas present. She was trying to save on postage (since buying it in Australia and paying international shipping on stuff you can get cheaper with free shipping in the US just didn't make sense).?

Tracey.S

I'm hinting to the grandparents that we need new carseats.  DS is too young to really be into christmas or any toys.  We could really use the carseats instead of more toys or clothes laying around.  Oh well.