Anyone not have a good relationship w/ mom?

~*Jamie*~

Does anyone else not have a good relationship with your mom? If so, how did you tell her that you're pg? It is really hard for me to bring myself to talk to her, so I haven't spoke to her in about a year now. I'm thinking of just including her on a mass email I'm sending out to extended family. Do you think that is too mean?

justgnat

If you don't expect her or want her to be a part of your life or baby's I think an email is fine.

cloud9climber

I haven't talked to my Mom in over 5 years now. ?She was extremely abusive - physically, emotionally and verbally all my life but that's a whole other post...

I think she has found out through other family members that I still talk to. ?I don't want her to come back into my life so I won't be telling her. ?

I would send the email. ??

Crazycrustacean

I hadn't spoken to my mom in 2 years when I got pg. I ended up just calling her.?

i personally would just call her or send her her own email. But it's really up to you.?

I can tell you that I just didn't want to deal with my family's & il's comments. In fact that's the one of 2 reasons I'm speaking to her now. The other reason is because I felt I owed it to dd to allow a relationship to develop with her gma. If for some reason one doesn't develop, I didn't want to be the reason.?

~*Jamie*~

Thanks ladies. I'm finding that I am having a hard time dealing with all of these emotions and it makes me incredibly sad that I've never had a mom like the kind of mom that I want to be. Maybe it's just that I'm hormonal.

cloud9climber

~*Jamie*~:

Thanks ladies. I'm finding that I am having a hard time dealing with all of these emotions and it makes me incredibly sad that I've never had a mom like the kind of mom that I want to be. Maybe it's just that I'm hormonal.

You are not alone. ?I wish I had a great Mom too. ?It just didn't happen. ?We can try to heal ourselves through the relationships with our children (((big hugs)))

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mr+ms

~*Jamie*~:

Thanks ladies. I'm finding that I am having a hard time dealing with all of these emotions and it makes me incredibly sad that I've never had a mom like the kind of mom that I want to be. Maybe it's just that I'm hormonal.

I'm feeling like that, too, except about my sister now. I've tried having a civilized relationship with my mother but I feel like each time I reach out and get hurt while she stands in place. I think an email is fine in your case if that's what you feel comfortable with. She will be free to respond with a call, email back or whatever.

My mother found out I was pregnant through my sister, who I really, really wanted to be a part of my life after we both grew up. However, I have a feeling that she's being swayed by my mother into ignoring me. I wanted to share things about my pregnancy with her but she's been MIA. She didn't even return my call when I told her she's an aunt. Makes me sad for the baby to miss out as well ?

Anyway, I totally understand how you might be feeling. Family can turn out to be a disappointment despite your best efforts to reach out. GL.