When did you tell your family this time around?

SLO2005

We never told me family with my last PG until I miscarried!  Not sure when we are going to tell them with this PG. 

When did you tell?

bluegyrl98

The first time we told everyone who would listen and then we had a miscarriage. I have only told a couple of people this time and we are saving telling everyone until after the first trimester is over. It was too hard last time with everyone saying they were sorry, it hurt, so we are just going to wait it out. It is really hard though.

Stellar1

We told right away both times. Both sides of the family were very supportive of the m/c and there was no way we couldn't tell them.

ocean71506

We told right away.  They were both very supportive during our losses and wanted to share the good news with them.

httn

Last time we told the family at 8 weeks after two u/s showing the baby and hb but we lost the baby at 12 weeks. This time around if all goes well we are trying to wait until Christmas, I will be 11 weeks.

porkchop78

Right away, we knew we'd want their support through everything and felt that we owed them an announcement sooner rather than later.  It kind of stung to have to tell everyone after the m/c the first time around. 

jnealet

We didn't tell my or DH's family until I miscarried the first time around either.  This time, I told my family the day I found out.  My mom asked me if I was pregnant though, so I told her.  We told DH's family after we saw the heartbeat on the u/s at about 8 weeks. 

lindzed

I told my family immediately.  Everyone had been so supportive during the m/c and new we were trying again, so it only felt right to let them share our happiness.  Last time I waited until after I heard the heartbeat and then lost the baby 6 weeks later so the waiting didn't really do me any good.

farmwife

The first time, with the m/c, we didn't tell until after I'd miscarried.  I didn't like the fact that they never got to share in any of the joy of that pregnancy, only the sadness.  But I was still nervous about telling "too early" this time around.  We had an u/s at 7 weeks and saw the hb, so we told our parents and siblings then and swore them to secrecy until after the 1st trimester.  My parents respected our request and kept it quiet...ILs didn't and told too many people for my comfort level.  We told everyone else after the first trimester. 

Nige!!a

The first time we told everyone about 6 weeks or so, then miscarried a few weeks later. The second time I told my mom and sister only after the m/c, DH's family doesn't know about that one. We think we're going to wait a long time before saying anything with this one, as in they'll be able to figure it out when I'm showing and the baby will be due in a few months, lol.

H*E*E

DH was so excited about our baby that we told everyone.  Then we had to tell everyone that I had a miscarriage.  However, we still haven't told DH's aunt and uncle because they were unable to have children and will be just as heartbroken as us.  Next time, we will wait until after the 1st tri per my demand!

Kirsten.In.NH

The first time, we told the entire universe right away.   This time we didn't tell a soul (except my BFF) until 13w, including family.   It was nice to keep it to ourselves and I was such a mess anyway, it was better for me to not have to talk about it.   Good luck, and do whatever feels right for you.

nellieboo

We waited until 11 wks this time, after we'd seen the baby twice. I was still nervous about telling people, but I wanted to start enjoying the pregnancy.GL!

tahoe7607

we told right away the first time - this time we are waiting till Thanksgiving when I'll be 13 weeks. It has really taken the pressure off this time around and I am very thankful that we waited!! :-)

mrsladd

We have told immediately (within hours of the positive test, sometimes just minutes) every single time.  Since I found out 9 days before my period was due this time, that was pretty early, I guess.  Even with the losses, that's still what we're comfortable with.